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Somebody to lean on: find your support team

Somebody to lean on: find your support team

Posted August 19, 2014

Somebody to lean on. We all need to be supported at different times of our life. If you’ve followed my blog for a while you know that I am a wellness woman of action. Well, specifically inspired action meets contemplation. Which basically means that I am active, engaged and motivated in my life, but not without consideration and reflection – I don’t do things without truly understanding why I am doing them and if I need to in the first place. I’m going to hazard a guess that you are much the same. You, my incredible tribe, have a beautiful way of living consciously that I know you are doing your best each day to be present yet aware in every moment. That doesn’t mean we are always perfect, does it? Or that we are without off-days void of that inner strength and drive. But it means we are consciously trying to do so as and when we can. So, when I first found out I was pregnant whilst honeymooning in Thailand (yep, two weeks in and a late period meant that a pee-on-a-stick was in order!) I knew I wanted to be as conscious as I could during this pregnancy. But I could sense that this wasn’t going to be an easy ride – I could feel already that ‘taking action’ as I normally do would require a little refinement – a different approach. There are two truths I connected to: 1) I’m going to have some stuff to work through. and 2) I can’t, won’t and shouldn’t do this alone. You do not have it go it alone. You don’t have to force ‘strength’ at the expense of your health and happiness. It didn’t take long for the weight of this enormous shift to sink in. My entire life (ours – hubby and I) had literally chained with one little pee. The life I had spent years building and in fact was still crafting and growing into every day had done a major cosmic shift on us. Yes we are insanely grateful that this little soul had chosen us. Yes, we are both in awe. But we are both, authentically, voicing our fears and shock. You must be true to what you feel. Fear, just like love, is felt in the heart and fear can only be healed in the heart when acknowledged! It’s because of this shift (and the emotions that arose immediately with it) I knew there were going to be some inner layers of resistance, limiting beliefs and confusion to work through. So I did two things. I considered who I needed to lean on to help guide me through this. I wasn’t pretending that I could ‘coast’ through this journey unassisted. I was already experiencing emotions on a grander scale than I ever had. The first people to come to mind that I wanted to lean on were my Kinesiologist – Jacqui Prydie, my EFT trainer (+ Advanced practitioner), Alison Monaghan and my Naturopath, Tanya Goldie. A quick email was sent to all three and three separate sessions were booked in. Why I chose this team to lean on during my first trimester: I was sick – nausea, fatigue, indigestion – and needed support to get through it. I wanted to do the best thing for my body and our baby – nutritionally. I could already sense an unnamed emotional blockage around Motherhood and Pregnancy that I wanted to clear. I needed an energetic tune-up. Over the 6 weeks that followed after we returned from Thailand I checked in with my team. My Kinesiologist cleared and reset high levels of anxiety and stress. Alison guided me through a powerful EFT session where we worked through fears around depression, lack of support and ‘being alone’  – I sobbed so hard during this session I could barely speak. And my Naturopath armed me up with supplements to support our baby, my body and the help my liver process the 400+ hormones raging through my system. She also reaffirmed my believe of the power of clean eating and gave me direction and focus. It’s important for me to clarify here that these sessions were very different to my previous sessions with this team. I had to be very raw, honest and vulnerable. Which meant expressing and voicing feelings I had which were thick and heavy with fear, guilt and even selfishness. I had to let it all out in order to really get the support I needed. Now there is a final (but most important) person I have to mention here. Someone I leaned on heavily and who held me up, never dropping me… and that is my hubby Chris. It wasn’t lost on me how much of a shock it must be for him – all of a sudden his focus had to shift to the foreign (yet beautiful) concept of fatherhood, parenting and support in a very real way. Not to mention that his wife no longer resembled or behaved like the woman he had known for 7.5 years! But when it came to stepping up to the plate – literally – Chris was there. He cooked for me every night. Worked around my bodies insane repulsion for certain foods (Baked salmon? oh god… I die) and remained patient, gentle and understanding. He gave me lots of space, dropped all expectations of me and listened to my confusion, sadness, whinging and even indifference. Words express my gratitude to this man. But I also see that he is simply fulfilling his divine role, just as I am. ++ Truthfully I’m not going to pretend to you that enlisting this support team completely wiped the slate clean of the all-day-sickness, emotional blocks and energetic confusion. That first trimester of pregnancy was the most intense ride I’ve ever been on in mind-body-soul. What I did receive though was a sense of comfort, release, guidance and hand-holding. It made me feel connected to the Claire I knew well, but […] Read more

why EVERYTHING has taken a backseat to surrender + self-love…

why EVERYTHING has taken a backseat to surrender + self-love…

Posted August 11, 2014

why EVERYTHING has taken a backseat to surrender + self-love… Maybe you’ve noticed things have been a little different over here at The Wellness Project HQ. I’ve been sharing snippets of this journey of transformation that I am deep within and how it has come at full force, over the last 6 weeks… and let me tell you, it’s not over yet. Work, writing, social life, daily movement, meditation, cooking, yoga … all of what used to be normal for me has completely and utterly done a Houdini. I’ve only had space and energy for two things (and even they have completely changed two) – Surrender + Self-love. But today I can finally reveal WHAT exactly this transformation is about… Well, I’ve got a beautiful little soul growing inside. Yep, I am pregnant. With child. Up-the-duff. There’s a bun in the oven. Unexpected yet meant to be. This soul has been present in my energy field for quite some time. And it seems it got a little tired of waiting for me to be ‘ready’… so bubba has taken hold of the reigns. This little soul has collided with my own on a pre-destined trajectory to my heart. Not to mention that of my husband (Christopher) – who is already truly, madly, deeply in love with our 5.5 cm bundle of joy. But, to any mammas out there, you’ll know that this collision is not always a clean hit. The phrase ‘morning sickness’ does not summarize the experience at all… but I won’t bore you with the gory details (yet). Let’s just say this. Mentally, emotionally, physically I have been given the chance to really experience surrender on a whole new level. It’s as if all the angels, saints, prophets, the universe, God and every Guru got together and said: “Ok, Claire, you really dig this ‘Surrender’ stuff right? You really want to learn how to Surrender? Well then, HERE YOU GO! Get ready for the biggest ride of your life!” Letting go of EVERYTHING that once made me feel whole, normal, sane and opening my arms to receive and allow this miracle to happen  – well, what a HUGE lesson that has been and will continue to be. Surrender + Self-love, over the last 6 weeks, has looked like a little this: It’s ok to stay in my pajamas for hours. It’s ok to sleep in the middle of the day. It’s more than ok to cry, with fat wet tears. It’s ok to feel terrified. It’s ok to hide away and disconnect. The key for me has been Conscious Compassion. Dropping the resistance to every change that has unfolded. Letting go of past ways of thinking and being. Being present with how I am feeling and being OK with the tidal wave of emotions. And loving myself in every single moment of it all. This, by far, has been the most pivotal moment of my life. I’ve learnt more about Surrender + Self-love in these last 6 weeks than I have in the past 32 years. And at 12.5 weeks pregnant I know there is so much more to come. I have so many things I want to share with you – from the lessons I’ve learnt through the fog and sickness over the last 6 weeks to how I’ve been processing what is by far the most powerful change of my life. In the meantime let me share this little picture of our teeny, tiny beanie baby. Saying a BIG HELLO to all you beautiful souls in my tribe. Seeing this little nugget of love squirming about and waving was the most spectacular experience ever and I’m so thrilled I can finally share this with you! ++ YOUR TURN: I would love to hear from you – if you are mumma what were your experiences and feelings like when you first fell pregnant? Or if you aren’t there yet how does pregnancy/babies make you feel? Is it so far our of your scope, tugging at you or maybe terrifying you? I know that I am not alone with all my crazy emotions and can’t wait to hear from you! love + light, Claire x Read more

Saying no to obligations

Saying no to obligations

Posted July 23, 2014

On Monday this week I sent out my weekly newsletter where I share stories, personal insights and my own little musings – all of which I usually keep for my beautiful tribe. But this week I have some news to share with you about my new Mind-Body-Soul Immersion Class, but mostly a perspective on obligations that I think we all need to hear. We all need to be encouraged to see obligations is a completely different light and learn the power in saying no. So I hope you find my perspective below supportive for you, in your life! ++ Sometimes we stick to our obligations like glue. And sometimes, that’s a good thing, right? No one likes a flaky individual who backs out of commitments – many of which are important and come with large consequences (if broken). But, sometimes we stick to obligations when all signs indicate otherwise. You know those moments when it’s time to politely yet confidently say ‘No, I can’t do that’… well, I think they are some of the toughest moments out there, but some of the most necessary, too. Why is it so hard to drop obligations? Because we care what other people think. We don’t want to let people down. It’s such a worry to even think about not doing what we said we would that saying ‘No’ or ‘I can’t right now’ isn’t an option. Many of us believe that everyone else’s needs are more important than our own. Have you been there? Have you ignored your own body and soul’s messages to say no, press pause, redirect or even walk away – all because you made a commitment and you felt obligated? I have. In fact, I was there recently, until I chose to change up my obligations. Right now, I’m in the throes of change. Emotionally, mentally and physically I’m undergoing a transformation like I haven’t experienced in years. And it’s definitely thrown me off course. The only thing I am certain of at the moment is change… What’s this got to do with obligation? Well, despite all this change I made a BIG commitment. I recently launched my Mind-Body-Soul Immersion Class, due to be held of August 2nd – to a group of gorgeous soulful women, ready to dive in and kick-start their own journey of wellness transformation. Despite that commitment, there is a truth that has been tugging at me lately. It’s saying; press pause, create space, put yourself first. As I toss and turn through the most powerful shifts in mind-body-soul that I’ve ever experienced my intuition is telling me that right now I need to take a step back, regroup, go into stillness before I can give wholeheartedly and fully at the Mind-Body-Soul Immersion Class, in the way I want to, but also in the way you deserve. Which is why I have decided to reschedule The Mind-Body-Soul Immersion Class to Sunday 7th September. The usual fear-filled story of obligation has come knocking. My commitment and obligation to each attendee of The Mind-Body-Soul Immersion Class is palpable and wants to be the deciding factor here. Instead, I’ve realised something really powerful: We stick to our obligations out of a desire to do the best we can for others. When truly, sometimes the way we can be our BEST for others is to say ‘I can’t right now’.  TWEET THIS! I’m taking this extra time to nurture my own Mind-Body-Soul. To teach what I teach I must live it first. This transformation is providing me with a chance to reconnect on a deeper level to all the incredible tools I’ll be teaching at the Immersion Class.In order for me to be present in the fullest way I need to say ‘No, I can’t right now’. I hope this inspires you to look at the obligations you’ve created in your life and to create space when space is needed. You are the creator of your life. You call the shots. And no one else is going to look out for you – it’s up to you! love + light, Claire xx ++ p.s The Mind-Body-Soul Immersion Sunday September 7th Places still available! It’s time to take the most important class of your life. This semi-private LIVE Group Retreat, in Sydney, NSW, for you and a circle of soul sisters has been designed to help you escape from your busy life to nurture, reconnect and renew. It’s time to luxuriate in the rare experience of putting yourself first! (How often do you do that?) But this is not just a retreat to unwind and revive; you’ll also be learning powerful and sustainable ways to transform into a balanced, perfectly healthy and happy being. An immersion in your Mind-Body-Soul! Click here to learn more. pp.s Want to receive my weekly newsletter and get in on my personal insights and wisdom? Just plug your details in the box below! Read more

6 steps to creating the perfect week

6 steps to creating the perfect week

Posted June 17, 2014

Something I hear all the time from my clients is the complaint that, although they have the best intentions to live a balanced life in mind-body-soul, they just don’t have the time to do everything they need to. They are searching for the perfect week, but they don’t know how to create it. They are eager to put into practice all the new tools they are learning during our coaching – journaling, yoga, meditation and more. BUT of course, (and I’m sure you’ll agree) they can’t see where to squeeze this in. The perfect week eludes them as life continues to overwhelm and chew through time. Busy always seems to trump a perfect week. I get it, life is already busy enough – sometimes the mere idea of trying to create ‘the perfect week’ is overwhelming. But let’s look at it this way, isn’t all the ‘busy-ness’ irrelevant if you aren’t healthy and happy to enjoy your life as you’d like too? (P.s check out my recent post on ditching the ‘busy’ attitude to life) Today I want to share with you one of the most life-changing yet super simple tips I have. This is something I’ve shared with many clients with great success. This is the way to find the time you desire to focus on your mind-body-soul. This is how you create the perfect* week you want, week on week. *Regarding ‘perfect’ – there is no such thing, let’s just make that clear. I simply choose this word to highlight that you can live and experience your days the way you want to, rather than being pushed and pulled by the chaos of life. 6 Steps to creating the perfect week (you’ll need a pen and paper for this task!) Note down your ‘non-negotiables’ and ‘nice to haves’! a) On your piece of paper write down, what I call, your ‘Level One Non negotiables’. What are Level One Non-Negotiables? These are things in your life that you cannot negotiate on. For example – your job (if you don’t show up you won’t get paid!) Or getting your kids off to school. Or caring for your elderly parents and so on. b) Next write down your Level Two Non-negotiables: What do you NEED to include in your life for feel healthy, alive, strong, balanced happy? Is it daily meditation? A walk/run. Hitting the gym. Journaling. Reading with a cup of tea alone after work. Yoga? Time to cook/shop? This is the stuff makes you feel SANE. And is just as important (if not more) as your job and any other obligatory items in your life. c) Finally write down your nice-to-haves. For me that is ‘social’ time with girlfriends. Sometimes I need it and it becomes a non-negoatiable, other times It’s just something I’d love to do, but isn’t as VITAL (more on that in a minute) Plan it out! Open up a excel document and create a table with 7 columns – Monday through to Sunday. Split up each column by the hour or periods of time. (You can download an example one I’ve created here!) Schedule in your week. Work in BLOCKS of time. Begin by greying out time for your Level One Non-negotiables. E.g your working hours, picking up the children etc. Include travelling to and fro – mark out the WHOLE time required. Next, do the same with your Level 2 non-negotiables and again for your ‘nice-to haves’. E.g. When do you normally practice yoga? Ideally – is it every morning, every second afternoon? And when it comes to the ‘nice-to-haves’ do you ideally like to be social/get that massage/visit your girlfriend/have along time every Saturday afternoon? This is your ideal weekly planner so mark it down. Review it all. Have you over-packed your week? Have you been a little too over-zealous with social time, or when you are rising in the morning for meditation. Be realistic. Make sure you have time to sleep and rest. Make sure you’ve scheduled in me-time. Make sure you aren’t over-committing. This is about getting healthy, remember! Be FLEXIBLE. Personally, I create what I call the ‘Holy Grail’ or my Ideal Weekly Planner as a saved excel document. However, week-on-week I often sit down – usually on a Sunday over a pot of tea sitting in a sunny spot on my living room floor – and flick open my iCal to gauge my week ahead. I then ‘re-do’ and plan my week out. Being mindful of my non-negotiables, meetings/appointments for the week and ultimately how I feel. This is a quick and rough draft from Mon – Sunday where I create the ideal week for THAT week. So I am responding to what’s coming up for that week. I’m making amends for any meetings, trips away or what-not. I’m being flexible. Be intuitive. Finally, it’s so important to be receptive and intuitive. CHECK IN with yourself; ask what you NEED that week. E.g. Some weeks I need a lot of alone time so I’ll factor that in and pull back on social engagements or over-committing. Other times I want to get out there, see lots of people and be a little butterfly. I make time for that and start dialing and booking in plans. ++ Fitting in what you truly need is possible. Experiencing a perfect week is easier than you think. It just takes organization and focused attention. This schedule is not about restriction and removing spontaneity. It’s from this structure and life-affirming discipline comes flexibility, joy and happiness… we feel better when we have the time to do what we need for our mind-body-soul. The purpose of this schedule is so that you don’t ‘vague’ out on all the things you know are vital for your health and wellness but you often tend to ‘bump’ because life gets too overwhelming and busy. Personally, yoga + meditation + me-time are my non-negotiables. By having this clearly outlined in my diary it is a gentle reminder that these are […] Read more

How to overcome sadness + a powerful practice to support you

How to overcome sadness + a powerful practice to support you

Posted June 05, 2014

How to overcome sadness… This is a question I get asked at least once a week, maybe more. And I have an answer for you that you might not necessarily like, at first, but it’s a way forward that I truly believe in (and a ‘way’ that I harness for myself). “What you resist persists” Have you heard that phrase before? When it comes to sadness – or any other ‘negative’ emotion you might be experiencing – the truth is if you resist it, it will persist. Incessantly. The emotions that you so desperately want to be free of will find a way to become overwhelming in their presence in your heart, mind and body. You’ll almost be able to taste the metallic, heaviness of sadness in your mouth. Ironically, I’ve used the word ‘overcome’ in this blog title, but the mere fact that many of us want to overcome the sadness we are feeling, (or even anger, frustration, disappointment) is a clear indication that we might be coming at this the wrong way. To overcome something means to prevail over it. To defeat and beat it. To overpower it. The energy of force and control leads the way. It is that ‘attack and conquer’ approach – the attitude of winning. But let’s think of it this way. You are a multi-dimensional being. Made up of energy, body, soul, thought and every colourful emotion in between. All light and dark lives within you. Which means if we have the capability to experience and feel joy and happiness, we also have the capability to experience fear and sadness. Of and from ourselves. The emotions you feel (including your ego) are not some acquired disease you picked up along the way – not something you were dumped with, despite our protests. The feelings of sadness are from you, for you, of you. They are there for a reason. The reason for your sadness Your sadness, your anger, every emotion can be seen as your biggest teachers – if you are willing to open your mind and heart to the lessons within in. I don’t know about you, but the biggest moments of growth I’ve every experienced are when I’m in deep in it – weighed down by the grayness of the emotions I don’t want to feel. In the past, sadness was a close ‘frenemy’. It would often show up unannounced, but when it would it’d feel familiar, normal. Like an old friend. Yet just as quickly as I felt that, I would go into resistance – battling and holding fort against the attack and onslaught of these emotions. I would armour up for the fight by pretending I wasn’t feeling sad (ignoring the emotion) or over-dramatising what I was feeling (putting my attention on the external) or compensating by filling myself up with toxins or distracting myself to suppress the emotions (food, drugs, alcohol, excessive shopping and spending). At first I was never willing to learn from it. I didn’t see any other way. I couldn’t see that each heavier emotion was a teacher, cloaked in darkness and all I had to do was shine a spotlight on that darkness. Shine a spotlight on your sadness Sadness and every other emotion doesn’t need to be conquered and defeated. They simply need to be lit up. These emotions needs to be experienced. Felt. Honoured. Have you ever tried to BE with your sadness? Go to the centre of your sadness and you will find the truth of what and why you are feeling. You will see the way forward; you will gain clarity and awareness. Go to the centre – this is how you overcome your sadness. You’ll be surprised to discover the dissipation and dissolution of that sadness happens without you ‘doing’ or fighting anything. But moreso than moving through or clearing that sadness, the real beauty is in the evolution and growth you experience, not despite or in spite of that sadness, but BECAUSE of that sadness. Some of my greatest moments have brought to my knees. Literally. Sobbing; crumpled on the floor. Sadness and despair coursing through my blood. These moments are the times I have felt most alive – the touch of these feelings has hand-delivered to me solid nuggets of truth that I’m not sure I would’ve ever gained if it weren’t for the sadness. ++ How to overcome your sadness with a simple practice The practice of sitting with, acknowledging and connecting to the feeling of your sadness will offer up far greater shifts and potent realisations than resistance, control and attack. When it comes to ‘feeling’ many of us struggle with this. We are so in our head – so identified with our thinking space – that feeling feels foreign. So instead I invite you to connect with your body. Your body never lies. Your body is constantly feeling – sensing energy, responding to touch, pain, pleasure. Your body is your instrument for sensory, physical feelings. ++ Here’s a simple practice I learned many years ago from Eckhart Tolle’s Power of Now that teaches you to feel your emotions and be with them by feeling and being with your body. Take a few moments of stillness and quiet. Allow yourself to tune into your breath – notice the rhythmic tidal wave of your breath. Bring your attention to different areas of body, one by one. Your head, neck, shoulders and back. Your hands, arms, chest and rib cage. Your belly, hips and buttocks. Your thighs, knees and shins. Your calves, ankles and feet. Spent a few moments bringing your full attention to each area. Sense the energy of that area before moving on. Flow from the top of your head down to your feet and then back again to your head. You don’t need to ‘focus’ on your sadness or any other emotion whilst doing this. As you bringing your full attention – shining a spotlight onto your body – your emotions will show up […] Read more

Why your purpose in life is just to LIVE!

Why your purpose in life is just to LIVE!

Posted June 03, 2014

Maybe, like me, you have noticed that there is an intense energy out there at the moment – so many beautiful souls on the hunt, wanting to figure out and find their purpose in life. Recently I interviewed Belinda Davidson about ‘Finding your Soul Purpose’. She gave us all such a refreshing and powerful perspective. In particular how the ego attaches to the glorified idea of finding (and living) your purpose in life. Our ego can often hijack this beautiful desire and turn it into a search for our identity and self-worth through what we do in the world. Today’s VLOG was inspired from that conversation and also from the work of two authors I love and admire – Brene Brown and her book The Gifts of Imperfection and Susan Cain and her book Quiet. Both of which I highly recommend. All three, Belinda, Brene and Susan, have shared insights on living with purpose and all of it has been brewing inside of me – a melting pot of ideas that have boiled down to this one powerful, alchemical idea: Maybe what we are meant to do is simply LIVE and soak it up. Rather than searching for this one golden ‘purpose’ that we believe will makes us feel extraordinary. Worthy. Valuable. Important. Recognised. Satisfied. More than enough. Could it be ok if you don’t find your ‘purpose’? The purpose that you have convinced yourself will rock the very foundations of your life and those around you. The purpose that you think might be envied by many or that will give your life so much meaning you’ll want to cry with joy everyday. Maybe we are meant to live. Yes, live purposefully. But simply live. Rather than pin-point a specific PURPOSE (trust me, it changes when you do find it anyway) and instead revel in the day-to-day of living and love every tiny morsel and speck of our humble lives. And do so without a specific destination and goal. Before I share too much, if I were you, hit PLAY, and spend the next 8 minutes with me whilst I guide you through the hot topic of finding your Passion + Purpose in Life   In this vlog I share: The idea of never being ‘extraordinary’ enough Introverted and extroverted – and how the favoured extroverted qualities have encouraged us to believe that a purpose-filled life is actually a BIG, widely recognized and almost-celebrity like life. The theory that perhaps your purpose is to lead a much simpler life and see the extraordinary in the ordinary. A moment of inspiration to care less about how the world sees you And a reminder of your value and worth. A new way of looking at passion + purpose A few questions for you to sit with after watching the video: What’s wrong with a humble, ordinary, easy life? Why does it have to be BIG, exciting, captivating, bold, seen, praised? Could stepping up your game and living a passion-filled life mean something totally different to what we’ve previously thought?   ::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::: I’d love to hear from you and learn your thoughts on these points. (Comment below and share with me!) Passion + purpose – what does it mean and look like to you? Is it possible to accept where you are at right now instead of hunting it down something you’ve labeled better? Can you embrace the truth that you are extraordinary already and that who you are and the live you lead is more than enough – could this be part of your purpose? Of course, anything else you want to share! I think it’s time we turn the heat down and give ourselves some space to tap into our soul purpose without the allure of flashing lights and extraordinary. Love + light Claire Read more

Tired of not getting what you want? It’s time to ask the universe!

Tired of not getting what you want? It’s time to ask the universe!

Posted May 30, 2014

Growing up in a very religious household with a passionate and devoted Christian Mother I was raised with the idea of ‘ask the universe and you shall receive’. I did my best to connect to this powerful concept when I was younger, and then I also did an astonishing job of disconnecting from it for a good few years. Over time I stopped believing that I had any power or say in the matter. I assumed that good stuff happened to some people (out of luck, pure randomness or even worthiness) and not to others (including me). I didn’t feel BIG enough to ask for what I wanted. I completely lost the belief that the question of “what do you desire?” could be met with an even simpler answer of “Ask the universe!” Or in my mother’s case, “Ask the Mother Mary!” And you know what? This limiting belief and restrictive way of thinking was cyclic. The more I held to this belief the more I was proved ‘right’ – I didn’t (couldn’t and wouldn’t) get what I wanted. What you resist persists. Like attracts like. The simple choice of not asking the universe to breathe life into my desires perpetuated exactly that. My wants didn’t birth into my reality. They stayed put in a chamber of my heart, wrapped in fear and disbelief. Until I finally started to ask… It’s all in your free will! Getting what you truly desire comes down to the choices you make. Do you know what free will is? It is the very simple truth that as human beings we are blessed with the gift of choice. At every turn we have the ability to call the shots. Nothing and no one can intervene and ‘force’ something to happen. Including the universe. Which means we often do stupid things because we choose too. Or we make the same mistakes over and over, because we choose too. So suffice to say, the insane idea that we should just ‘wait’ for good stuff to come (and maybe if we are lucky it’ll happen) is actually a personal choice and one that can bring your life to an abrasive halt… a standstill. Let’s flip this on its head. If we have free will then doesn’t that imply that we can choose what we want, for our highest good? Or at least we can choose to ask for it. For me, at least, I never asked because I didn’t believe. And when I look underneath that lack of belief I can see it’s because there wasn’t a tangible exchange. Asking for what I wanted, when what I wanted wasn’t a ‘thing’, well that was so lofty and founded on trust that I couldn’t quite bring myself to believe simply asking was enough. Just because you can’t see the exchange doesn’t mean you shouldn’t ask! When you want a coffee from your favourite barista, what do you do? You go ask for it. When you want a new haircut, you get yourself to your favourite hairdresser and ask for it. When you want to go on a holiday you make a booking and ask for what you want. Each and every time you receive something right? (Give or a take a few hiccups along the way!) Each and every time you ask for something, there is an exchange (usually of money) and you are delivered the goods. You don’t doubt that you’ll receive it, right? You can see the exchange, so you trust it. You don’t question how it’ll happen, you know it will. You also don’t sitting around ‘hoping’ for it to happen miraculously… So why, when it comes to more immaterial things – love, joy, soul connection, inner happiness, truth – do we question and doubt in our power to ask and receive. Why can’t we bring that saying ‘knowing’ into all requests? What do you desire? All you have to do is ask the universe! Get clear. What do you desire? What does your heart and soul want? I’m not talking about a new job, or car, or boyfriend. Although honestly, you can ask for that stuff too if you like. I’m referencing here the stuff you can’t ‘see’ but you can feel. The desire to feel a certain way and then to live, day-by-day, from those feelings. Is it more intuition? Is it a stronger feeling of love? Is it a deeper heart-to-heart connection with people? Is it a deeper bond with your soul? Is it a feeling of happiness, for no tangible reason – just because?! Is it a sense of direction or bravery and courage to make big changes? Recently I was with my kinesiologist and I was telling her how I wished I could receive the messages from my wise and higher self in a bolder and more obvious manner. She said, “Well Claire, have you asked for it yet? Stop wishing for it and ask for it!” I realized I hadn’t, because I’d already decided that it wouldn’t happen to me. That it couldn’t happen because it was a gift reserved for someone else. Maybe that’s true, maybe it’s not. Either way I’ll never know if I don’t ask! State that you are ready, loud and proud. It won’t happen (whatever the ‘it’ is) if you just sit around waiting for it, hoping for it, or believing it’s just a random act of luck. Be willing to open up to something new and to receive it. Your turn beauty: Finish this sentence: “I am loudly and proudly asking for _______________ * love + light, Claire x Read more

Daily meditation: Your personal silent retreat

Daily meditation: Your personal silent retreat

Posted May 27, 2014

Have you ever been on a silent retreat? Have you spent time in the gentle embrace of stillness and quietude? There is nothing quite like the ‘hush’ that settles in your heart, your mind, your whole being when you take yourself out of your normal life and retreat into silence. Truth be told, it can be very confronting at first, but it doesn’t take long before your presence within the silence starts to feel like a homecoming. It becomes so natural; tuning into your inner voice is free of the usual static (monkey mind, ego-chatter, negative self-talk), which usually suffocates the truth that is trying to pour forth. Clarity and connection with yourself, hearing your soul-speak and flowing through life feels effortless. You are forgiven, at this point, for thinking this post today is about attending a silent retreat. And honestly, I’m ok with that being your take-away today, (if you’ve yet to attend one, you should!) but I’m actually talking about a silent retreat of a different kind – the kind that doesn’t cost anything. The kind that is available to you, ready to welcome you, at any time or day. The kind that involves only three things: You, a chair and 10 minutes. Meditation: your daily, silent retreat. When we retreat from the external world, and we are willing to enter a state of silence (a calm mind, a quiet heart) we are ultimately entering our inner world – we are moving inwards and entering our soul’s space. We are communing with our highest self where all the truth, love, joy, insight and wisdom we crave resides. The message in a nutshell: ‘Silence is Golden’ And coming up, very soon, I’m inviting you to join for the 3 weeks of meditation. 3 weeks of your own personal silent retreat. (More info below!) When I think about meditation there are always three words (amongst many) that stand out and shine. These three words truly, to me, encapsulate the reasons why I and so many others are devoted to meditation. Stillness…Clarity…Connection (also the name of my new Meditation Album!) Each of these words embodies the peace and surrender that meditation – your silent retreat – is, and so much more: Stillness: by pressing pause, quieting the mind and body, serenity, peace. Feeling soft in the silence. Letting the sounds and distractions of the world fall away. Clarity: flashes of insight, a direct line to your intuition, inner wisdom speaking out, brightening the truth, Light-bulb moments. Understanding, gratitude, forgiveness, compassion. Connection: in mind, body and soul, heart-to-heart, love over fear, cultivating a relationship with spirit, leading with soul, feeling instead of thinking. Being instead of doing. ++ Each day, whether I feel exhausted, on edge, overwhelmed, stressed, over-joyed, exhilarated, calm, content, ecstatic (insert any/all feelings here!) meditation is my daily, devoted silent retreat from the world – it is a return back to me. It never fails to give me what I need in that moment. It might not bring me a state of serenity, but this daily retreat might just offer me up a gentle slap or a lesson learned. All nudge me along the path of evolution. If you haven’t yet committed to your own daily, silent retreat – if meditation is still on your to-do list – then I have something just for you. The 21 Day Meditation Project: 3 weeks of guided meditation is opening again, for free, on June 2nd. Everyday you’ll receive a 10-15 minute guided meditation from myself or from one of the 10 experts who have shared their beautiful, inspiring and love-soaked meditations. We all want you to experience the power and joy from a daily retreat into silence. This is for you – whether you joined us in March for the first round, meditation regularly already or believe meditation is just not possible for you. I want this for you. In fact the flood of feedback and sharing from the first round blew my mind – hearing about people meditating together in hospital, or groups of teenage girls in high school and even retired women meditating for the first time warms my heart from the inside out. If you are ready to retreat into yourself, if you are ready for Stillness, Clarity and Connection then babe, you are ready to meditate. If you are in here’s what I’d love for you to do. Jump on my mailing list now. (Sign up details to join the 21 Day Meditation Project will be sent out to this list) Pencil it in your diary – June 2nd, 2014. Share this with your friends – perhaps consider creating a team of meditators to keep you on track and to share your journey (your silent retreat) with. Create a sacred space at home – a special chair by the window, a cushion in the corner of your living space, an altar and candles in your favourite spot. Set the intention and commitment to your daily silent retreat. ++ I want to hear from you, now: Did you join the last round of the 21 Day Meditation Project? Share your experience and feedback below! If you’ve yet to experience meditation share with me your thoughts – are you keen, nervous, excited, disbelieving? Love + light, Claire x Read more

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