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One Woke Mama – Episode 026 – Pulled apart and Pulled away before you become the woman you are meant to

One Woke Mama – Episode 026 – Pulled apart and Pulled away before you become the woman you are meant to

Posted October 13, 2019

One Woke Mama – The journey of awakening through motherhood One Woke Mama – Episode 026 – Pulled apart and Pulled away before you become the women you are meant to In today’s episode I read you a meme that has been circling on Instagram and one that I deeply resonate with. Exploring the powerful, uncomfortable yet truth-filled notion that Motherhood both pulls you apart, and pulls you away from who you were only to slowly, sometimes painfully rebuilding you into the woman, mother and human being you are meant to be. An initiation by fire. A rite of passage. A transition. The space in between. That place where we are dismantling the old self before recreating the new self -filled with discomfort, confusion, questions, stagnancy, as well as presence, surrender, willingness, beauty, joy. I feel alot of big feelings, there is a pouring out of emotions as I share that space of transition and experience of being pulled away and pulled apart. Sharing this with you is BIG and I do so in the hope that I can bring some gratitude and love into your heart for this powerful journey of matresence, change, transition. Listen to Episode 026: Show notes: Get my Om Mama Love Meditation Bundle HERE 12 Meditation Track and 12 Affirmation Cards – $49 Join The Alchemy of Emotional Freedom Online EFT Masterclass LIVE Round commencing November 11th Subscribe: Itunes | Soundcloud Beautiful one, thank you for being here and listening. It would mean the world to me if you would hit subscribe and stay connected to One Woke Mama – join me on this journey of awakening. Your feedback, comments, reviews and shares would always be gratefully received but also help us to reach more mamas who need support as they navigate the choppy waters of motherhood and all it asks of us. Love + light, Claire Read more

One Woke Mama – Episode 025 – Connection. Nervous System Regulation. Childhood Wounds And Trauma

One Woke Mama – Episode 025 – Connection. Nervous System Regulation. Childhood Wounds And Trauma

Posted October 07, 2019

One Woke Mama – The journey of awakening through motherhood One Woke Mama – Episode 025 – Connection. Nervous System Regulation. Childhood Wounds And Trauma The way we connect with our children – through our eye contact, voice, body language – can have a huge impact on how they learn to regulate their own nervous system. They are plugged into OUR energy field, our nervous system. And a chemical reaction ensures that their own PHYSICAL body responds to future experiences and challenges based on how we connect with our children, how we personally show up to experiences and challenges and how regulated we are in our nervous system. In today’s episode I dive into a mixed bag – looking at the power of connection, that oxytocin exchange and how it does more than just make us FEEL GOOD, the way we teach our children how to regulate their nervous system and therefore how we do the same for ourselves. I share examples and personal stories before diving a little further into childhood trauma and wounding – and how WHAT we learn as children about being in the world, showing up with our own regulated or dysregulated nervous affects how we COPE with experiences, challenges and difficult situations. This is an important conversation for us mamas because it shows that we can simply create a supportive and empowered container to hold our children through the inevitable challenges of life, and in learning to do this for our children we learn to heal our own wounds and traumas. Listen to Episode 025: Show notes: Get my Om Mama Love Meditation Bundle HERE 12 Meditation Track and 12 Affirmation Cards – $49 Join The Alchemy of Emotional Freedom Online EFT Masterclass commencing LIVE Round November 11th Subscribe: Itunes | Soundcloud Beautiful one, thank you for being here and listening. It would mean the world to me if you would hit subscribe and stay connected to One Woke Mama – join me on this journey of awakening. Your feedback, comments, reviews and shares would always be gratefully received but also help us to reach more mamas who need support as they navigate the choppy waters of motherhood and all it asks of us. Love + light, Claire Read more

One Woke Mama – Episode 024 – Just because your partner parents differently to you doesn’t mean they are wrong

One Woke Mama – Episode 024 – Just because your partner parents differently to you doesn’t mean they are wrong

Posted September 16, 2019

One Woke Mama – The journey of awakening through motherhood One Woke Mama – Episode 024 – Just because your partner parents differently to you doesn’t mean they are wrong The latest One Woke Mama episode dives into how we often parent differently to our partners, and how that might just be ok. In fact, perfect. Perhaps your partner, in his/her opposite parenting isn’t wrong, but actually offers something that you cannot offer to your child/children. I’ve been aware of and working on my judgements of my husband doing parenting differently to me. And all the ways that shows up. Including how I sometimes try and “teach” him my way – on a bad day this can look like me making suggestions of other things he could do or say to my daughter particularly. What is this born from? It’s fascinating when I sit back and review it objectively. And when I feel into my body, during the very moments when I’m reacting and attempting to parent him, I can see that I am in a state of control. I am controlling his parenting because on some level I don’t trust his parenting. I don’t trust his parenting because we come to believe that our way is the only way, is the right way. That only WE could possibly know what’s right for our child. After all we are their mother, right? And the fascinating thing about not trusting someone else and how they parent is that underlying that lack of trust is a deep fear – a fear of not doing the best for our child. a fear of completely fucking them up. A fear of seeing them hurt, damaged, broken. Or in some way unfulfilled in their potentially, emotionally abused. But the truth is, we can’t avoid the hurts and challenges they will face, whether at our own hand (we are human and learning on the job) or at the hands of others, or simply life it self. We can however equip them to cope, to manage, to show up, to feel, to process, to learn and grow from it all. Listen in to learn how I have come to a place of peace with the differences in my partner’s parenting. Listen to Episode 024: Show notes: Get my Om Mama Love Meditation Bundle HERE Subscribe: Itunes | Soundcloud Beautiful one, thank you for being here and listening. It would mean the world to me if you would hit subscribe and stay connected to One Woke Mama – join me on this journey of awakening. Your feedback, comments, reviews and shares would always be gratefully received but also help us to reach more mamas who need support as they navigate the choppy waters of motherhood and all it asks of us. Love + light, Claire Read more

One Woke Mama – Episode 023 – The Journey of Becoming A Working Mama with Lorraine Murphy 

One Woke Mama – Episode 023 – The Journey of Becoming A Working Mama with Lorraine Murphy 

Posted September 08, 2019

One Woke Mama – The journey of awakening through motherhood One Woke Mama – Episode 023 – The Journey of Becoming A Working Mama with Lorraine Murphy Welcome to the latest episode of One Woke Mama with Lorraine Murphy. I’m lucky enough to chat to Lorraine Murphy, who some of you might remember from the first iteration of my podcast – The Wellness Project – where we explored all things business and baby. If you aren’t sure of who Lorraine is let me share a bit about her – Lorraine is an award winning entrepreneur, best selling author or three books now, speaker and mentor. Her NEW book, Baby, You’re Remarkable inspired today’s conversation designed to support you to calm the chaos, to get and stay organised and how to blend running a biz or working alongside being a mama. This is the book that Lorraine had wished for when first toying with the idea of starting a family alongside running her own multi-million dollar business. How to thrive with both babies – business and her real baby, Her book is candid. Real – full of truths and stories that will inspire and support you. It’s not a book of tips and specific guidance but it is a book full of insights, life hacks and ideas designed to be “cherry picked” based on you and your unique family and circumstance. Lorraine and I dive into some big stuff: Preparing for the arrival of a new baby and becoming a working mum. The challenges and struggles she faced and what she learned from that journey. The stress and pressure she felt in planning to have a family when things didn’t go to plan. What she has learned about combing work with motherhood and so much more. This is definitely one for you if you are a working mama, considering returning to work, starting or running your own business or even not yet a mama and wondering how the heck you are going to do it all. I highly recommend going back to episode #17 in my previous podcast (still available in iTunes just scroll down!) or CLICK HERE. Listen to Episode 023: Show notes: Visit Lorraine’s website HERE BUY her new book HERE GET my new meditation bundle here Subscribe: Itunes | Soundcloud Beautiful one, thank you for being here and listening. It would mean the world to me if you would hit subscribe and stay connected to One Woke Mama – join me on this journey of awakening. Your feedback, comments, reviews and shares would always be gratefully received but also help us to reach more mamas who need support as they navigate the choppy waters of motherhood and all it asks of us. Love + light, Claire Read more

One Woke Mama – Episode 022 – The Inner voice of fear and worry with Rachel MacDonald

One Woke Mama – Episode 022 – The Inner voice of fear and worry with Rachel MacDonald

Posted September 02, 2019

One Woke Mama – The journey of awakening through motherhood One Woke Mama – Episode 022 – The Inner voice of fear and worry with Rachel MacDonald I’m so thrilled to share this conversation with you. Rachel MacDonald, Blog Coach, Creative, Entrepreneur, Mama and beautiful soul sister of mine opens up and shares her personal experience with the inner-worrier mind. She offers some super powerful yet simple ways to move through. I hope you love this chat as much as I do and soak up the wisdom, the story-telling and guidance with an open heart and mind. Together Rachel and I explore the inner voice of fear and worry that seems to be part and parcel with motherhood. It’s normal mamas, but we do need to create space and clear out the obsessive thoughts and rebalance that worrier mind into a more calm, trusting and peace-filled state. As mamas one of the challenges we face is the intensity of worry, anxiety and over-analysing. All of a sudden there are so many elements that we need to juggle and be aware of. Is the baby too cold, or too hot? When should I start solids? How much should I feed my baby? Is my milk supply ok? Is it ok to give formula? Why are the neighbours being so loud? What if she wakes again?… The list goes on. Constantly thinking of and caring for another human being requires alot of awareness, education, preparation and intuition. And the headiness of it all can create stress and exhaustion. I remember in the first 6 months of Soleil’s life, before I finally started to feel more confident and capable I felt like there were thousands of voices – usually critically, hyper-stressed and on high alert – telling me what to do, worrying about what I’d done or throwing a decent helping of guilt and judgment into the mix. IT WAS EXHAUSTING. I felt so disconnected from my centre, my truth, my intuition that I tended to listen to these dialled up voices. They practically screamed at me. It wasn’t lost to me how different this experience was compared to life before baby. I hadn’t felt this anxious and stuck in my head for years. In fact, I became a Life + Wellness Coach after healing my own anxiety and depression which led me to a very unhealthy and unhappy life. So I could see I was sliding back into old habits and patterns. My husband, family, friends could all see that I wasn’t myself. Of course, we all change so dramatically when we give birth and instantly become mamas, but something felt ‘broken’ within me and I could see, clearly, that I needed to find my way back to centre. I have to say mamas, something that truly helped was ACKNOWLEDGEMENT. Being real with myself about what I was thinking of feeling (fear, worry, vigilance, irrational thoughts) made a huge difference in creating a difference. I started by journaling. These entries were quite dark to be honest. But I allowed them to be without trying to ‘fix’ the shadowy thoughts   from within. I SIMPLY LET WHAT I WAS FEELING, THINKING AND EXPERIENCING BE PRESENT. In doing so I slowly began asking myself questions; What would I like to think and feel instead? How would it make me feel to be calmer and more at peace? What needs to change for this inner voice of fear and worry to quieten? I can’t say that instantly, overnight the intensity of that inner voice diminished, but I can say that my awareness shattered the bubble – the idea that I was captivate to these thoughts and couldn’t live any other way than INSIDE them. Coupled with meditation and verbally sharing how I was feeling to my family, well the shift DID start to happen. The final ‘cherry’ on top (that delivered a powerful transformation in the way I was thinking) was the psychologist I saw. The universe always provides when we are open to receiving. And I certainly was open to receiving help. My sister was close friends and neighbour to an incredible psychologist (email me if you’d like her details) who specialises in women in the post-natal phase. No word of a lie, our very first sessions was powerful and led to a huge energetic and emotional detox. I remember sitting, cross legged on the floor SOBBING as the fear, stress and worry rose up and out of me. IT WAS THESE THREE THINGS – ACKNOWLEDGMENT, MEDITATION AND PROFESSIONAL GUIDANCE – THAT HELPED ME BREAK THESE PATTERNS OF FEAR AND WORRY. AND TIME. Gorgeous mama. Everything you are thinking and feeling is NORMAL. But ask yourself this – does it feel good to be constantly stressed, filled with fear and worry? Does it serve you, positively, as a mama? Does it support your children? If the answer is NO then let’s create the change that you need. It doesn’t have to be in the way I did it, but we have to do something. You deserve more peace. Listen to Episode 022: Subscribe: Itunes | Soundcloud Beautiful one, thank you for being here and listening. It would mean the world to me if you would hit subscribe and stay connected to One Woke Mama – join me on this journey of awakening. Your feedback, comments, reviews and shares would always be gratefully received but also help us to reach more mamas who need support as they navigate the choppy waters of motherhood and all it asks of us. Love + light, Claire Read more

One Woke Mama – Episode 021 – Why it’s OK to say NO to your children

One Woke Mama – Episode 021 – Why it’s OK to say NO to your children

Posted August 27, 2019

One Woke Mama – The journey of awakening through motherhood One Woke Mama – Episode 021 – Why it’s OK to say NO to your children As mothers saying NO to our children is not something we are always comfortable with. When we are programmed to believe we are responsible for their ever need, want, desire – their emotional, mental and physical well being – then practising the art of saying NO to your child may not initially be an easy process. I share how I’ve slowly learned the power and importance and art of saying NO to my children (in certain times and situations) and why it’s necessary. Saying No to your child will teach them many things. It Teaches them to honour their capacity. To respect other ppl and be a citizen of the world. Becoming more Empathetic. Teaches them they are OK just sometimes other ppl can’t be there for them and this in turn teaches resilience… But it’s important as a mama as well to be able to hold our energy and our boundaries, to be strong in our decisions and to do some from a place of love and respect. Honouring their needs, seeing their desires but also honouring your capacity to provide and hold space for those needs. It teaches us mamas to constantly be self-referencing and looking after ourselves, not just in automatic pilot mode – putting their needs first and forgetting our own. I do a lot of checking in with myself – if I’m capable of holding space for my children and connecting I do, fully, but I’m also not afraid to tell her if I don’t have the capacity right now to be what she needs or offer what she wants. I’ll give her a framework/guidance as to what and when I can meet her needs. We talk about mamas love bucket inside that’s a bit empty so I need some quiet, yoga, meditation, tea or whatever so I can come back online and ready to serve and be fully with her. She gets it. Other times I crack it and then use it as a way to teach authenticity, showing up as my raw human self and all my flaws. “I’m sorry I snapped honey. I can see I’m a bit tender, off and worn out today… it wasn’t nice to snap at you. It didn’t feel good to do that but I can see I need xxx and you need yyy… let’s find a way together.” Saying NO offers a lot of growth, for all parties involved. Tune in to learn more and discover for yourself how and why saying NO can empower you. Listen to Episode 021: Subscribe: Itunes | Soundcloud Beautiful one, thank you for being here and listening. It would mean the world to me if you would hit subscribe and stay connected to One Woke Mama – join me on this journey of awakening. Your feedback, comments, reviews and shares would always be gratefully received but also help us to reach more mamas who need support as they navigate the choppy waters of motherhood and all it asks of us. Love + light, Claire Read more

One Woke Mama – Episode 020 – Living a simple, soulful and sacred life with Megan Dalla-Camina

One Woke Mama – Episode 020 – Living a simple, soulful and sacred life with Megan Dalla-Camina

Posted August 27, 2019

One Woke Mama – The journey of awakening through motherhood One Woke Mama -Episode 020 – Living a simple, soulful and sacred life with Megan Dalla-Camina Megan Dalla-Camina is one of those women that you sit up and pay attention to. She is a Women’s Mentor. Author. Founder. Speaker. CoFounder/CEO Lead Like A Woman Founder & Creator Sacred Living Co And her daily work centres around Helping Women Rise. She’s recently released her latest book – Simple, Soulful, Sacred and I’ve had the pleasure of chatting to her on all things motherhood, sacred living, simple and soulful ways to show up in the world. I know you are going to enjoy this conversation – it’ll spark ideas for how to show up and be in the world, through your motherhood journey and all from a much more intentional, considered and beautifully simple space. In this episode we cover: Megan’s motherhood journey in context of consciousness and awakening How we invite more sacredness, simplicity and soulfulness into our busy lives as mamas Why sacredness matters How it changes and shapes our lives as women and mamas What motherhood has taught Megan How we can feel more sovereign in this stage of womanhood – motherhood How would you encourage other women who are used to the more masculine, type a way of living that a more feminine approach might be what their soul needs – right now during motherhood? Listen to Episode 020: Show notes: Visit Megan’s Website Buy Megan’s new book Subscribe: Itunes | Soundcloud Beautiful one, thank you for being here and listening. It would mean the world to me if you would hit subscribe and stay connected to One Woke Mama – join me on this journey of awakening. Your feedback, comments, reviews and shares would always be gratefully received but also help us to reach more mamas who need support as they navigate the choppy waters of motherhood and all it asks of us. Love + light, Claire Read more

One Woke Mama -Episode 019 – What I’ve Learned About Baby Sleep

One Woke Mama -Episode 019 – What I’ve Learned About Baby Sleep

Posted August 07, 2019

One Woke Mama – The journey of awakening through motherhood One Woke Mama -Episode 019 – What I’ve Learned About Baby Sleep In Episode 019 I share what I’ve personally learned about Baby Sleep. After two children with poor sleeping and settling behaviour I’ve tried everything and experienced so much more. This is not a practical exploration on HOW to get your baby to sleep better, there is enough information out there from the ‘experts’. No, this is a deep dive into the psycho-emotional-spiritual aspect of baby sleep and how, i feel, at the very core of the challenge is YOU – the mother. As I’ve discovered is the case for me. Through my children’s sleep patterns I was presented a huge mirror, a powerful reflection – showing many unhealed parts of me. Taking me to my edge, over and over. It quickly showed me that the years of meditation and self development work were a beautiful balm, but they had only touched the top layer of healing. I had to go deep. In this episode I share: My personal experience with both babies. I share how my spiritual practices stopped working for me and how I knew then that I had to dig deeper into healing. The many factors that come into play from behaviour, development, teething, growth spurts, sickness etc. Sleep training Rafael and how I involved him in the process of discussion and decision I explore what the common denominator was between both children and their sleep patterns I touch on birth, genetics and how these effect sleep How it all comes back to the nervous system What a dysregulated, over active nervous system means emotionally through the lens of a baby (and your sub conscious too!) How babies take on our story and programming through their interconnectedness to our energy, nervous system, emotions. Why sleep training won’t always work and what needs to happen to ensure it does Why it all comes back to you, the mama! Listen to Episode 019 https://soundcloud.com/claireowellness/one-woke-mama-episode-019/s-Z8WWo Show notes: Visit my website to check out and join The Alchemy of Emotional Freedom – my new online masterclass that will teach you the powerful, yet simple tools of EFT combined with Chakras, White Light and Essential Oils. Subscribe: Itunes | Soundcloud Beautiful one, thank you for being here and listening. It would mean the world to me if you would hit subscribe and stay connected to One Woke Mama – join me on this journey of awakening. Your feedback, comments, reviews and shares would always be gratefully received but also help us to reach more mamas who need support as they navigate the choppy waters of motherhood and all it asks of us. Love + light, Claire Read more

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