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BE VULNERABLE & RECEIVE MORE


In a few weeks time I am heading out with my beautiful friend Mel Ambrosini to hear the amazing Brene Brown speak. When we booked the tickets I felt inspired to watch Brene Brown’s TED talk on vulnerability.

I can’t encourage you enough to watch this, if you haven’t. If you have, watch it again!

Not surprisingly the topic of vulnerability has come up more than once since then – mostly in client sessions.

Just like surrender, which I’ve explored extensively on this blog and through my ebook, vulnerability is a word loaded with negative connotations.

Weakness. Exploitation. Wounded. Assailable. Exposure.

But, if we allow it to be and we look past the conditioning we have around the word, as with surrender, I think there is so much positivity embodied in the experience of vulnerability. As Brene Brown says:

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.”

Both surrender and vulnerability are uncertain territories. There is a level of risk involved in opening up to these. In fact, the simple act of ‘opening up’ is surrender, letting go and allowing your vulnerability to shine.

What does it mean to be vulnerable?

To me, being vulnerable used to feel unsafe. It felt raw…nakedly exposed for all to see and to ridicule.

I feel that I used to have that impression of vulnerability because I lacked a deep, inner trust that I will always be looked after by the universe and that I am more than enough, just the way I am.

I am, most definitely, still working on this truth – translating it from what I know to how I live is a journey I will be on for a while, but I am closer to it. Despite that, my connection to that truth is stronger. I now have a stronger hold on the idea that if I am more than enough, if I am always supported by ‘life’ then there is no need to fear judgement from others or being ‘exposed’ or that who I am (flaws and all) is worthless.

As Brene Brown points out in her TED Talk, when we witness someone standing tall, sharing their fears, their story, themselves (whole or not) we don’t look to them with judgement or ridicule, we look to them with encouragement and respect and even love! We are simply inspired by their vulnerability. However, for ourselves we see it in a very different light. We see pathetic. Weak. Limited. We are afraid of being judged. We are afraid, therefore of not being loved and accepted.

Today, I see vulnerability in myself and in others as a beautiful thing. I see it as empowering act. A moment of truth where you feel fear, insecurities and resistance but your inner knowing that you are MORE than that shines through instead. You are no longer caught up in the desire to receive another’s love and approval because you have it within you already. You have a direct line to the source of love. You are love.

“To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength.” Criss Jami

You feel what you feel, you let it be there, but yet you still open up to it, share your fears, share your weaknesses, share your journey. It’s within that vulnerability that your light will be revealed. It’s in that moment where you surrender to your vulnerability that you can connect deeply with other people, change people’s lives (and your own) and create something magnificent. It’s that moment that in fact you give love and receive love back.

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Embrace vulnerability

I have always been open. Self deprecating at times, silly even, an over-sharer. That’s the easy part for me.

What’s not been easy is learning how to put myself out there in moments of doubt, wrapped up in limiting self beliefs. Those moments there is a mini-battle going on. One part ego calling up all my insecurities and limiting beliefs. One part intuition guides me to share, to connect, to express.

Every time I write a blog post, a facebook post, share my story with a client or open up to a stranger, I do so from a place of vulnerability. I check in – does it FEEL TRUE for me to share this right now, to write this post, to speak to this person in this way? 95% of the time it does. That’s my truth.

If in that moment my ego often chimes in with a running list of why it’s not a good idea (I’ll look silly, I’ll be judged, I can’t help this person, I don’t know what I’m talking about, no one cares… and on it goes) so I will acknowledge it but instead move forward despite the apparent ‘risks’ I’ve been presented with. I then allow that vulnerability to be the driving force. I look at the risk, feel the fear and move forward. Sometimes, I surrender that right now, right here I am feeling too vulnerable and that’s ok. Today is not the day for me to go there and it will be soon.

In order for you to allow your vulnerability to be present, to be ‘allowed’ you simply need to own your moment. To remember that you are enough. You are loved. You are love. If you keep moving from your truth that vulnerability can be empowering because from that space of vulnerability you will inspires others and manifest into your life more of what you are putting out. It’s the law of attraction.

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” Brene Brown

Your turn! Share in the comments below: Does this resonate with you? Where do you feel most vulnerable in your life? Where could you surrender into vulnerability and perhaps receive more of what you truly desire?

Love + light,

Claire x

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7 Comments to “BE VULNERABLE & RECEIVE MORE”

  1. Hi Claire – I am half way through Brene’s book ‘Daring Greatly’ – it is a fantastic read. When I hear the word vulnerability, I immediately think ‘beautiful’. But it’s always attached to what I see others doing, and much more difficult to feel like that about myself… I think I’ll be on that journey for awhile yet! I just launched a blog, so I think vulnerability is about to show up in my life a little more often from now on 🙂

    • Sounds like an awesome read. I will be getting it! We are all on the journey… forever students. Which is comforting I think! Enjoy the ride. x

  2. This is a beautiful blogpost and I see myself through your words..
    I've been acting this "I'm strong" role for years pretending that nothing bothered me, that I'm fine when people hurt me, and that sharing my feelings is for the weak, whilst it was killing me inside. The result is that I have not let people in as too shameful to show my real feelings and vulnerability and expecting friends/lovers to be patient and win my heart.
    Life doesn't seem to reward the strong but it is very hard to open up when you can't yourself express these feelings with words…

  3. Thank you for the Inspiring post! I have started sharing my own blog with my friends and family- it's been a terrifying experience. No longer can I pick and choose what people know about me. I feel totally vulnerable, but also liberated. It's so nice to read your encouraging words about letting go. So much love!

  4. Thank you for the Inspiring post! I have started sharing my own blog with my friends and family- it's been a terrifying experience. No longer can I pick and choose what people know about me. I feel totally vulnerable, but also liberated. It's so nice to read your encouraging words about letting go. So much love!

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