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One Woke Mama – Episode 023 – The Journey of Becoming A Working Mama with Lorraine Murphy 

One Woke Mama – Episode 023 – The Journey of Becoming A Working Mama with Lorraine Murphy 

Posted September 08, 2019

One Woke Mama – The journey of awakening through motherhood One Woke Mama – Episode 023 – The Journey of Becoming A Working Mama with Lorraine Murphy Welcome to the latest episode of One Woke Mama with Lorraine Murphy. I’m lucky enough to chat to Lorraine Murphy, who some of you might remember from the first iteration of my podcast – The Wellness Project – where we explored all things business and baby. If you aren’t sure of who Lorraine is let me share a bit about her – Lorraine is an award winning entrepreneur, best selling author or three books now, speaker and mentor. Her NEW book, Baby, You’re Remarkable inspired today’s conversation designed to support you to calm the chaos, to get and stay organised and how to blend running a biz or working alongside being a mama. This is the book that Lorraine had wished for when first toying with the idea of starting a family alongside running her own multi-million dollar business. How to thrive with both babies – business and her real baby, Her book is candid. Real – full of truths and stories that will inspire and support you. It’s not a book of tips and specific guidance but it is a book full of insights, life hacks and ideas designed to be “cherry picked” based on you and your unique family and circumstance. Lorraine and I dive into some big stuff: Preparing for the arrival of a new baby and becoming a working mum. The challenges and struggles she faced and what she learned from that journey. The stress and pressure she felt in planning to have a family when things didn’t go to plan. What she has learned about combing work with motherhood and so much more. This is definitely one for you if you are a working mama, considering returning to work, starting or running your own business or even not yet a mama and wondering how the heck you are going to do it all. I highly recommend going back to episode #17 in my previous podcast (still available in iTunes just scroll down!) or CLICK HERE. Listen to Episode 023: Show notes: Visit Lorraine’s website HERE BUY her new book HERE GET my new meditation bundle here Subscribe: Itunes | Soundcloud Beautiful one, thank you for being here and listening. It would mean the world to me if you would hit subscribe and stay connected to One Woke Mama – join me on this journey of awakening. Your feedback, comments, reviews and shares would always be gratefully received but also help us to reach more mamas who need support as they navigate the choppy waters of motherhood and all it asks of us. Love + light, Claire Read more

One Woke Mama – Episode 022 – The Inner voice of fear and worry with Rachel MacDonald

One Woke Mama – Episode 022 – The Inner voice of fear and worry with Rachel MacDonald

Posted September 02, 2019

One Woke Mama – The journey of awakening through motherhood One Woke Mama – Episode 022 – The Inner voice of fear and worry with Rachel MacDonald I’m so thrilled to share this conversation with you. Rachel MacDonald, Blog Coach, Creative, Entrepreneur, Mama and beautiful soul sister of mine opens up and shares her personal experience with the inner-worrier mind. She offers some super powerful yet simple ways to move through. I hope you love this chat as much as I do and soak up the wisdom, the story-telling and guidance with an open heart and mind. Together Rachel and I explore the inner voice of fear and worry that seems to be part and parcel with motherhood. It’s normal mamas, but we do need to create space and clear out the obsessive thoughts and rebalance that worrier mind into a more calm, trusting and peace-filled state. As mamas one of the challenges we face is the intensity of worry, anxiety and over-analysing. All of a sudden there are so many elements that we need to juggle and be aware of. Is the baby too cold, or too hot? When should I start solids? How much should I feed my baby? Is my milk supply ok? Is it ok to give formula? Why are the neighbours being so loud? What if she wakes again?… The list goes on. Constantly thinking of and caring for another human being requires alot of awareness, education, preparation and intuition. And the headiness of it all can create stress and exhaustion. I remember in the first 6 months of Soleil’s life, before I finally started to feel more confident and capable I felt like there were thousands of voices – usually critically, hyper-stressed and on high alert – telling me what to do, worrying about what I’d done or throwing a decent helping of guilt and judgment into the mix. IT WAS EXHAUSTING. I felt so disconnected from my centre, my truth, my intuition that I tended to listen to these dialled up voices. They practically screamed at me. It wasn’t lost to me how different this experience was compared to life before baby. I hadn’t felt this anxious and stuck in my head for years. In fact, I became a Life + Wellness Coach after healing my own anxiety and depression which led me to a very unhealthy and unhappy life. So I could see I was sliding back into old habits and patterns. My husband, family, friends could all see that I wasn’t myself. Of course, we all change so dramatically when we give birth and instantly become mamas, but something felt ‘broken’ within me and I could see, clearly, that I needed to find my way back to centre. I have to say mamas, something that truly helped was ACKNOWLEDGEMENT. Being real with myself about what I was thinking of feeling (fear, worry, vigilance, irrational thoughts) made a huge difference in creating a difference. I started by journaling. These entries were quite dark to be honest. But I allowed them to be without trying to ‘fix’ the shadowy thoughts   from within. I SIMPLY LET WHAT I WAS FEELING, THINKING AND EXPERIENCING BE PRESENT. In doing so I slowly began asking myself questions; What would I like to think and feel instead? How would it make me feel to be calmer and more at peace? What needs to change for this inner voice of fear and worry to quieten? I can’t say that instantly, overnight the intensity of that inner voice diminished, but I can say that my awareness shattered the bubble – the idea that I was captivate to these thoughts and couldn’t live any other way than INSIDE them. Coupled with meditation and verbally sharing how I was feeling to my family, well the shift DID start to happen. The final ‘cherry’ on top (that delivered a powerful transformation in the way I was thinking) was the psychologist I saw. The universe always provides when we are open to receiving. And I certainly was open to receiving help. My sister was close friends and neighbour to an incredible psychologist (email me if you’d like her details) who specialises in women in the post-natal phase. No word of a lie, our very first sessions was powerful and led to a huge energetic and emotional detox. I remember sitting, cross legged on the floor SOBBING as the fear, stress and worry rose up and out of me. IT WAS THESE THREE THINGS – ACKNOWLEDGMENT, MEDITATION AND PROFESSIONAL GUIDANCE – THAT HELPED ME BREAK THESE PATTERNS OF FEAR AND WORRY. AND TIME. Gorgeous mama. Everything you are thinking and feeling is NORMAL. But ask yourself this – does it feel good to be constantly stressed, filled with fear and worry? Does it serve you, positively, as a mama? Does it support your children? If the answer is NO then let’s create the change that you need. It doesn’t have to be in the way I did it, but we have to do something. You deserve more peace. Listen to Episode 022: Subscribe: Itunes | Soundcloud Beautiful one, thank you for being here and listening. It would mean the world to me if you would hit subscribe and stay connected to One Woke Mama – join me on this journey of awakening. Your feedback, comments, reviews and shares would always be gratefully received but also help us to reach more mamas who need support as they navigate the choppy waters of motherhood and all it asks of us. Love + light, Claire Read more

One Woke Mama – Episode 021 – Why it’s OK to say NO to your children

One Woke Mama – Episode 021 – Why it’s OK to say NO to your children

Posted August 27, 2019

One Woke Mama – The journey of awakening through motherhood One Woke Mama – Episode 021 – Why it’s OK to say NO to your children As mothers saying NO to our children is not something we are always comfortable with. When we are programmed to believe we are responsible for their ever need, want, desire – their emotional, mental and physical well being – then practising the art of saying NO to your child may not initially be an easy process. I share how I’ve slowly learned the power and importance and art of saying NO to my children (in certain times and situations) and why it’s necessary. Saying No to your child will teach them many things. It Teaches them to honour their capacity. To respect other ppl and be a citizen of the world. Becoming more Empathetic. Teaches them they are OK just sometimes other ppl can’t be there for them and this in turn teaches resilience… But it’s important as a mama as well to be able to hold our energy and our boundaries, to be strong in our decisions and to do some from a place of love and respect. Honouring their needs, seeing their desires but also honouring your capacity to provide and hold space for those needs. It teaches us mamas to constantly be self-referencing and looking after ourselves, not just in automatic pilot mode – putting their needs first and forgetting our own. I do a lot of checking in with myself – if I’m capable of holding space for my children and connecting I do, fully, but I’m also not afraid to tell her if I don’t have the capacity right now to be what she needs or offer what she wants. I’ll give her a framework/guidance as to what and when I can meet her needs. We talk about mamas love bucket inside that’s a bit empty so I need some quiet, yoga, meditation, tea or whatever so I can come back online and ready to serve and be fully with her. She gets it. Other times I crack it and then use it as a way to teach authenticity, showing up as my raw human self and all my flaws. “I’m sorry I snapped honey. I can see I’m a bit tender, off and worn out today… it wasn’t nice to snap at you. It didn’t feel good to do that but I can see I need xxx and you need yyy… let’s find a way together.” Saying NO offers a lot of growth, for all parties involved. Tune in to learn more and discover for yourself how and why saying NO can empower you. Listen to Episode 021: Subscribe: Itunes | Soundcloud Beautiful one, thank you for being here and listening. It would mean the world to me if you would hit subscribe and stay connected to One Woke Mama – join me on this journey of awakening. Your feedback, comments, reviews and shares would always be gratefully received but also help us to reach more mamas who need support as they navigate the choppy waters of motherhood and all it asks of us. Love + light, Claire Read more

Claire Obeid

Hello there, I’m Claire

What am I about? Oh-so-much. A soul-centered and heart-driven life. Inside-out wellness. Shadow work (from the darkness comes the light!) Truth-seeking. Leaning into the joy of life.

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