Episode #6: Embracing Unhappiness: how to drop the addiction to happiness and be with what is

Episode #6: How to embrace unhappiness

I’ve struggled with the times of my life when it hasn’t been easy or happiness is elusive.

This happens for me a lot. I’m pulled in and out of a huge variety of emotions, but the truth is it’s all perfect and beautiful, just as it is.

This very moment is the perfect teacher.

There is nowhere else you are meant to be but here and now. Which is such a painful thought for many who are going through deep suffering.

And I understand that. But this, actually, is what the spiritual journey is about. Not so much “suffering” or “unhappiness” but this moment – and the experiences you are having in the here and now.

Moving away from perpetual happiness and joy and actually allowing yourself to be fully with the experience you are IN. Stepping into unknown territory, continually moving forward.

As Pema Chodron says “the most important aspect of being on the spiritual path may be to just keep moving.”

It’s not about the destination of happiness.

It’s not about omitting that which is causing unhappiness.

It’s simply about BEING in the experience that you, as a soul, asked for by coming into the physical manifestation of Source – meaning becoming a human being.  


Here are the two quotes that I share during episode #6 from Pema Chodron’s book; ‘When things fall apart’

Heart ache is not something we choose to invite in. It’s restless and pregnant and hot with the desire to escape and find something or someone to keep us company. When we can rest in the middle, we begin to have a non-threatening relationship with it. It completely turns our usual fearful patterns upside down.

When suffering arises in our lives, we can recognise it as suffering. When we get what we don’t want, when we don’t get what we do want, when we become ill, when were getting old, when were dying – when we see any of these things in our loves, we can recognise suffering as suffering. Then we can be curious, notice and be mindful of our reactions to that.

Listen to episode 6:

Show notes:

These are some incredible books that I are feel are supportive during times when happiness is not your modus operandus.

  • When things fall apart – Pema Chodron
  • Be here now – Ram Dass
  • Living Your Yoga – Judith Lasater
  • The Power of Now – Eckhart Tolle


I hope this episode has shed some light on your unhappy times and given you a new perspective and perhaps the willingness to embrace and accept the experiences we don’t love or want!

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Love + light



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