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Lesson from my little: How to start fresh

Lesson from my little: How to start fresh

Posted November 24, 2015

This is a blog series where I share lessons from my little baby girl, Soleil. How to start fresh: How often do you get stuck? Have you ever hit a stumbling block and smack right into a brick wall? Or quit before you’ve finished something because it has not turned out the way you envisioned? Maybe you can’t even get going because nothing seems ‘perfect’ enough to move forward? In today’s audio blog I talk through a #LessonFromMyLittle (Life lesson’s dished up from my baby girl!) on how to keep moving forward with whatever it is you are doing (in work, your career, your relationship, as a mama, working out). I share with you what I’ve recently discovered by watching my bub in her own little journey. She has shown me how to start fresh and keep at the task at hand. It’s so simple to do yet something we need to be mindful of and practice on a moment-to-moment basis. It’s about saying yes, it’s about giving yourself permission, it’s all about living in the moment, one moment at a time. But mostly it’s about not taking yourself too seriously! CLICK PLAY TO LISTEN + LEARN MORE https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/79968734/start%20fresh.mp3 love + light, Claire x Read more

You don’t need to live courageously to live the way you want

You don’t need to live courageously to live the way you want

Posted November 10, 2015

You don’t always need to live courageously when you want to make your life happen. There’s this attitude – this common belief – that it takes balls, guts and helluva a lot of courage to grab your life by the horns and own it. But let me ask you this: Have you ever done something – embarked on a new experience/venture/relationship. Or gone somewhere – travelled. Maybe even moved home, started a new job? And did it happen effortlessly? Did it happen with minimal struggle. Minimal pep-talking even? Without courageously powering through it? You just did it,right? It happened. It unfolded and you experienced it. Now, let’s take a guess here and say that it happened this way because you weren’t over-thinking the experience and you weren’t all caught up in the mental drama of it. Yes? Well, ask yourself WHY. Why did it happen so effortlessly? Why did it unfold without your ego chiming in with a long list of why ‘you’re not good enough/you can’t do this/aren’t you afraid/this is not a good idea…’ and so on. Again – I’m going to take an educated guess here. Could it be because it FELT right? Could it be that you just knew, without question to go there/do that/be with that person/take that job/move to that home? You know that feeling I’m talking about. Intuitively right. Heart-felt YES. You just know because you know. ++ Was there courage there? Did it have anything to do with living courageously? Well, maybe a schmidge when you needed some inspired action. Maybe courage was called in at a certain point. But mostly, courage had nothing to do with making your ‘LIFE’ happen in a way that you wanted it to. And hey, let’s just clarify here, I am a fan of ‘COURAGE’. Sometimes we need that slightly reckless vibe of bravery or strength. Sometimes it’s ‘balls to the wall’ and jump in the deep end. Suck up your fears and let’s do this! But, and obviously, Courage is often reactionary, and sometimes irrational and has this energy of ‘grit your teeth and call on everything you’ve got’. Courage STILL has fear threaded through it – but courage takes inspired action despite that fear. That’s a beautiful thing. A much needed thing. But, when it comes to your life – following the path most true for you and living in a way that truly resonates – it doesn’t always have to be so intense and effort-full. You don’t always have to put on your battle gear and go to war. It’s not YOU vs LIFE. It’s YOU + LIFE. You work in tandem, in synchronicity, with the universe. It’s not always but it can be a fluid experience, especially when you drop the ‘warfare’ mentality and come at life with a softer, open to receive and intuitively led attitude. It’s not courage that gives you the balls to grab your life and take it. It is your heart. Your TRUTH. ++ How to be led by your truth instead of blind courage A client of mine, after our first foundation session, explained that she now has a lot more ‘clarity’ (YES!) on what she wants from her life. But instead of being filled with joy over this newfound clarity, she instead felt a little overwhelmed by how she will make it all happen. She hoped she could muster the courage to make it all happen. My response: Get out of your head – that’s where this ‘courage’ you speak of is living. It’s your ego freaking you out with the idea that you might not have the guts to follow through to your dreams. And then, drop into your heart and speak to your heart directly… What feels true? What feels right for me? What do I do next? We then went through a list of experiences and situations in her life that had felt effortless, true, beautiful, ALIGNED. And by looking at them we could see that they had nothing to do with that heady ego space, or courage or effort really. They just unfolded naturally because they felt RIGHT. Alignment, perfectly embodied. The point I’m making is this; you already KNOW what it feels like to be led by your truth. You have tasted that sweetness before. The challenge is to keep doing so, and to consciously CHOOSE to live by your truth. And the how is both simple yet not so easy to execute. But with practice (and practice IS the actually ‘how’) you can start to make your truth – your heart – the clearest and most obvious guidance you receive. And therefore, your truth becomes the way you live the way you want to. Remember this: right now, the loudest voice you hear is usually your negative self-talk/mind chatter/ego. It’s loud, pushy, and in your face. Your softer voice of truth is always (ALWAYS!) there, but you have to really lean in and listen up. When you feel the gentlest tickle from that soft voice and it brushes up against you, inside your soul then grab a hold of it… tightly! Keep doing this. Over and over and over. Keep insisting on your truth to speak-up. You can’t really get rid of that ego-voice, but you can kindly ask it to shush. And then do it all again. Lean in. Listen. Turn up the volume. And the most important step in all of this is to converse with your heart. Tune into your truth and then let it guide you. Hand the reigns over and tell your truth you ‘trust it’ and you know it’s got your back. It already knows what kind of life you are trying to create. In fact, it knows even better what’s right for you, than your ‘small’ self does. Give your heart ‘Power of Attorney’ and let it run the show. It will always guide you on the right path. ++ The more your heart and your truth takes the driver seat the less you need to act courageously, […] Read more

Fake abundance to live in abundance

Fake abundance to live in abundance

Posted October 28, 2015

You’ve got to fake it until you make it… That is, fake abundance to live in abundance. That’s a saying we’ve all heard, countless times. And at first, it might seem completely flakey and lazy to live by that idea. However, over the years I’ve come to realise that there is more depth, truth and GOLD in this humble little saying. For all you perfectionists out there sometimes we don’t ever ‘make it’ because we’ve already decided that whatever we are striving for is not possible. It won’t be good enough. We won’t get what we want, the way we want it. Or unless it comes to us, or is created by us PERFECTLY, well then, what is the point? The trouble with this attitude – it’s blatantly obvious I hope – is that we get nowhere, get nothing, and end up with a big FAT ZERO. Perfectionists are just hiding behind their fears. Paralysed and procrastinating behind fear dressed up as perfectionism. (Thank you Elizabeth Gilbert for explaining this SO beautifully in BIG MAGIC!) That’s not to say we should always jump in, go forward and create stuff/aim for something willy nilly – without any focus, attention, inspired action or well-thought out plans. BUT, it is to say if we wait to be completely 100% schooled, well equipped, ‘ready’ to do something in life (create something, go somewhere, gain something…) well we’ll never get the job done. Right?! So here’s my take on ‘faking it until you make it’. It’s all about taking a stab. It’s all about believing in yourself. Placing a bet on yourself, jumping in the deep end, and trusting that the universe will catch you. And hey sometimes it won’t. But aren’t you better off for trying? Now, what does this have to do with living in abundance? EVERYTHING. Living in abundance – in every way possible – is often about BELIEVING that there is abundance that is yours for the taking. You want more money, clients, creative juice, love, health, [insert your version of abundance here] well then you have to just stand up, ask for it loud and proud and then take it. How to fake abundance? Simply, but profoundly start to THINK, FEEL and TUNE into the vibration of what you want. Don’t let you loud, overbearing negative ego voice chime in with: “You aren’t good enough to get more love” or “Why would you attract more clients, your website looks like crap”. Or “You want to be fitter and healthier? You can’t do it! Hush that inner critic and go for that day-dreamy vibe. Meditate on what you want. SEE it in your mind’s eye. Visualise it and ‘pretend’ it’s already come into being. Write the ‘story’ of your vision in your journal. Sit in stillness and breathe into your vsion. Record a voice memo of you talking about what you want – the abundance you crave – as if you were chatting to a friend. Re-listen OVER and OVER. Talk to your significant other, mother, lover, friend, brother (and so on) about your abundance. Don’t be scared to voice it out of fear that if you dare mention it out loud that you’ll scare it away. (BTW you won’t, abundance is just WAITING for you to be empowered enough to go HEY, YOU get over here now!) The more you do the above – even though at first you might feel like you are ‘faking’ it (and maybe you are, at first) the more the energy of abundance will start to align with you. A syncing will happen. A collective coming together of your dreamy vibes with the reality of the abundance you want. You’ll make it happen because you TOLD the universe it was time.  Go time, cosmos. Let’s do this. REAL-TIME EXAMPLE: I’ve just jumped back into the coaching saddle (yippee!) and gosh it feels good to use my heart and mind to hold space for incredible people looking to do some real mind-body-soul work. After 7months off I knew exactly how I wanted to coach – with purpose, with love and with a few killer clients. So I did the above. I envisioned the abundance du jour – a handful of life-changing clients – and I let that vision get ‘out there’ to dance with the universe. I washed my hands of ‘trying’ to make it happen…that was for the universe and my vision to figure out. But decided to fake it instead. To talk the walk, before the walk had even begun. I did all of the above. And I’ve got the abundance I so desired. So, why can’t you fake it until you make it? Energy first, thoughts second, reality third. That’s the order of it. Feel it, think it, see it, live it! Your turn now. Why don’t you state loud and proud the abundance you want. Fake it now… and watch the ‘making’ of it unfold. love + light, Claire xx Read more

Say yes to THIS experience

Say yes to THIS experience

Posted October 20, 2015

In a meditation session the other day I heard these words: ‘Say YES to what arises… to the emotions that move within you, to the experiences that unfold around you, to the constellation of sensations that you feel. Just say YES’ What if, instead of resisting and fighting against what you are feeling, you said YES to it? What if, instead of pushing back, you said YES to the experience you are having? What if, instead of saying NO, you said YES to whatever is unfolding, even if you didn’t plan for it? How would things be different if YES was your automatic response, instead of NO. Or not sure/no way/I can’t/I won’t/I don’t like it/This is horrible/Make it stop/This isn’t good enough? In today’s audio blog, I offer up a simple mantra. A new way of thinking. A different perspective to the emotions, experiences, situations, feelings… to ALL of it. A way to invite it in. To shift and transform your judgment of it. To say YES instead of NO. Short. Sweet. Three and half minutes. You’ve got that time to hear this potent, and life-changing soundbite. Just say YES and click below to play! https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/79968734/say%20yes.mp3 And then share your YES thoughts in the comments below! Love + light Claire x Read more

How to live in delight, strength, and power

How to live in delight, strength, and power

Posted October 13, 2015

I’m here to share a few little lessons from my little – Soleil – my guru. Recently she’s been showing me how to live in a state of DELIGHT, how to tap into my STRENGTH and how to stay in my personal POWER. And my god has it added a much needed rosy hue to my view of the world. Let me take a step back here first and talk about the Chakras. Because, what is really going on here with Soleil is a pure harnessing of the true essence of our energy anatomy. In particular Chakra Two and Chakra three. If you didn’t know already, I’m a faithful disciple of YOGA, ENERGY ANATOMY and our CHAKRA SYSTEM. With that I’m also an avid disciple and dedicated student of Belinda Davidson – THE guru on all things Chakra-like and the founder and director of The School of The Modern Mystic. This is the woman who teaches us how to clean up our energy and find our soul purpose. You can read up on (and I invite you to, if you aren’t up-to-scratch) the chakras here, and here. So, seeing as I’m clearly a poster gal for chakras (kidding!) you can imagine how much I loved and devoured this incredible book – The Child Within the Lotus – which details a babies growth and development based on the opening and strengthening of their chakra system, one chakra at a time. The Chakras: For example, the Base or First Chakra, which relates to grounding, earthing, the physical body, survival and stability (amongst other things) is apparently the first chakra to strengthen and open within the first 100 days of a babies life. So we are talking a little over 3 months. And when referencing Soleil’s first 3 months earthside, well it was so obvious she was trying to ‘ground’ and strengthen her base chakra. It took her that long, if not longer, to actually land here. Despite being super-alert and very switched on, she struggled to feel settled, happy and comfortable out of the womb. This was one big-bad-ass scary world to her and she let me know how very pissed she was about it (read: unsettled, cranky-pants, shitty sleeping, slightly psycho baby. AKA ‘good-times’). Now, at 7 months.. she is just starting to move into her third ‘100’ days on earth. Which marks her development of the third chakra. And I’ve just spent the last 100 days witnessing her development of the Sacral or Second Chakra during the second ‘100’ days on earth. So, I’m not really fussed as to whether, what this book says, is actually true – i.e the development of the Chakras based on roughly 3 month time-frames. But, I’m mostly keen to explore how Soleil adjusts to and comprehends her world as each chakra strengthens and opens. And in turn, what it’s actually doing is teaching me how to live more in tune with the vibration and essence of these energy centres, by learning from her example. And why would I (and you!) want to do this? Well, it means a life that flows, that is in sync. It means YOU are in the flow, in sync. Living with open, beautifully humming chakras and personifying their essence means your life hums along just as beautifully. So let me break this down for you. (Note: whether you have children or not, these insights below are totally applicable to you at ANY stage of your life). Chakra Two or the Sacral Chakra is the energy of pleasure, delight, fun, enjoyment, adventure, exploration. And over the last 3 months I’ve witnessed how a baby with no social constructs, ideas, or limitations bring this energy to life. There is wild giggling at the mere flick of my hair. Or a flock of birds flying by. There is a deep satisfaction with sucking on her own hands. Or a leather wallet. Or a plastic wrapper. There’s the sheer pleasure of eating new foods. Particularly the way she tears up a mango cheek. It’s literally all over her face, dripping down her neck and squished between her fingers. Yet she’s not annoyed or irritating, she’s literally ‘mmmm’-ing with pleasure! [Check out this video on my instagram feed – Soleil eating a mango cheek!] On our daily walks (in the carrier) she grumbles and giggles and coos at all she sees. She nudges me towards trees and flowers which we touch and smell and gaze at together. Oh and eat – everything goes in her mouth too, of course. There’s the realisation that there is ALWAYS more to explore. I have an early mover – Soleil started commando crawling at 5 months, and now at 7months she’s not only properly crawling but pulling herself up to standing, kneeling and climbing. With that movement she’s literally on the go –  crawling under chairs, under tables, lifting up rugs, bouncing on chairs, banging on doors. As I watch her little eyes scan and flick about the room I can almost HEAR the excitement inside her little mind as she tries to figure out where she should go/see/touch/do next. Chakra Three or Solar Plexus Chakra is all about power, will, determination, holding your own, knowing your self worth, self esteem and confidence. It’s also your gatekeeper, or bodyguard. Gosh, if anyone could fly the flag for the Solar Plexus it’d definitely be my babe. She is the most determined, focused little pocket rocket. She literally LUNGES at things she wants. She locks eyes on something and expects me to see it, get it and satisfy her desire. And if I don’t, no problem, she’ll get it herself. She has absolutely NO qualms in engaging with other people and crawling up to a stranger, saying hi (with a slightly rough slap!) Soleil is not shy and is quite social, but her internal bodyguard kicks it when something isn’t right – she protects herself accordingly. Her inner guidance system will flag a situation/person that she needs to be wary of. She […] Read more

5 ways to Practice Gratitude

5 ways to Practice Gratitude

Posted September 29, 2015

Gratitude. A simple practice with a powerful result And yet many of us don’t lean into gratitude enough. Often we can’t even find the capacity for gratitude or the space within us to offer up thanks… why is that? Well, it’s a known fact that human beings are hard wired for the negative. We automatically see, feel, comprehend, adhere to, gravitate towards and stick with FEAR based thinking. FEAR. It’s an evolutionary thing… when we stay in that space of fear well, we survive. Fear drives us to do everything in our power to stay ALIVE. Fear is what protects us. We need fear. We must be grateful for it, because it’s just trying to do it’s job. It wants to ‘have your back’. This auto-pilot to FEAR predates the modern life we live in – the one where there isn’t much to FEAR on a daily basis. This fear is a programming that was birthed during times (thousands and thousands of years ago!) when we HAD to fear for our lives, constantly. So, what does this mean? Well, when sticking with the negative – remembering bad times, focusing on what didn’t go well, attaching to what is not good enough – we tend to ensure we don’t FORGET the problem/challenge/situation/person that caused that negativity. The result? Hopefully we won’t repeat it…therein lives the ‘survival’ mechanism kicking in. But we don’t NEED to focus on the negatives in this way anymore. There aren’t any wild bears chasing after you these days… (or are there?!) So, you can give yourself a break if you tend towards the negative and if dialling up your positive-o-meter is down right challenging for you. BUT… just because we, as human beings are hard wired for the negative, that doesn’t mean we can’t re-train our brains to think and respond differently. Right?! Haven’t you already done that – trained your brain – countless times? How many new skills have you learnt over the years that perhaps weren’t your natural, default setting? Gratitude as a way of thinking and feeling is possible. It can become your new default setting. You can become hard wired for the positive. And truthfully, the practice of gratitude is so damn simple. It’s not a steep learning curve. The challenge is in being consistent. Sticking with training to ‘reprogram’ your mindset towards gratitude. Otherwise, it’s just about finding a way to lean into thankfulness that resonates with you. So, to help. Here are 5 Ways to Practice Gratitude. 1) Happiness Jar Get a big, bad ass jar. Get a pile of old paper (good chance to recycle envelopes, scrap paper etc) and cut them all to the same ‘post-it note’ size. Hole punch them and look some sturdy string through the pile of paper. Then loop all of that around the neck of the jar with a pen too. Now, everyday make sure you and the members of your household take the time to write out at least on thing they are grateful for each day. Pop the date on it too. And chuck it into the jar. Watch your jar grow with gratitude. And every now and then stick your hand in, pull one out and reconnect to that day and what you were thankful for. 2) Gratitude Journal My favourite way to practice Gratitude. Flip open to a new fresh page in your journal and start penning whatever comes to mind that makes you feel happy, grateful, joyful. It can be simple things from your day – “I’m grateful for that killer parking spot that made my life SO much easier”. Or deeper, potent to give thanks to – “Thank you for love I feel from my husband every day”. Do this daily. Before bed. Before you rise. Whenever. 3) Three things To your partner. Your children. Your colleagues. Yourself. Anyone you want to… Ask them this question: “What are THREE things you are grateful for today” Listen with all your hear to their answers. And respond with your own three things. Relish the energy of gratitude that hangs in the air between you. I do this frequently with my husband and it really adds a weighty, meaningful, ‘special’ pause to our day. 4) Little thank you notes Dish up gratitude to others. And notice how it makes YOU feel. Write short, sweet notes of thanks and leave them to be found by your significant other. Your barista. Maybe your cleaner too. 5) The BIG thank you wall. Sticky it notes. Sharpie Pens. Start jotting down (as they happen) moments of gratitude and stick them on a wall in your home/office. Perhaps start to work towards the shape of a heart? And each day, as you watch that wall grow, watch how your heart keeps SWELLING and overflowing with more gratitude. It’s an exponential growth thing, you know. The more you give thanks, the more you feel the love, the less fear you experience, the more grateful you become. Giving thanks, feeling gratitude, giving over to grace. It’s the antidote to fear and the love remedy we all need. Ok my sweets. Over to you – any other ways you like to practice gratitude? I’d love to hear your suggestions. And before I leave you I’d like to say THANK YOU for being here with me today. Love + light, Claire x Read more

Get FULL on your feelings

Get FULL on your feelings

Posted September 21, 2015

I never quite thought it was possible but it’s true, you can feel everything all at once. Since becoming a mama I’m astounded at the way I can feel FULL to the brim with every feeling under the sun. Every emotion lives within me almost simultaneously. Hope. Grief. Pleasure. Fear. Guilt. Joy. Pain. Doubt. Have you felt this way before? Now, even? Are you nodding along with recognition that you too feel full? And isn’t it sometimes a little overwhelming. I’m often left a little destabilized by the firework show of emotions going off within. Truthfully, it reminds me of shadow-play – the way lightness of the sun dances about, creating shady corners and pockets of darkness… only to be juxtaposed with flashes of golden brightness. They exist because of each other. They are noticeable because of each other. They are made possible because of how they interact. Light and dark. And this is how I choose to see and understand the feeling of FULLNESS I’m experiencing. That the hope exists because of the fear. That the joy is made possible because of the pain and grief. That the doubt sneaks in when I drop my attention of trust. It’s astounding to realise, (but yet makes perfect sense) that they are nothing without each other. These feelings, these emotions and experiences exist because they have an opposite. And when we are blessed enough to FEEL all of it (and I say blessed because then, this means, we are truly living into our ‘humanness’ fully) then we get to experience the rich tapestry of life. We get to taste every flavour and do so with potency. ++ What does this mean for you? Simply that it’s time to embrace all of your experience. Every emotion. Every naked truth, dark moment and back-breaking challenge. As well as every moment of illumintation, spontaneous joy, heart exploding love. Go on then. Live it. Soak in it. Get drunk on the fullness of your experience. It’ll never happen again in THIS way. I can promise you that. love + light, Claire xx Read more

One hour at a time.

One hour at a time.

Posted July 21, 2015

One hour at a time. One minute, even; down to the second. No tomorrow. Yesterday is no more. Today. This hour. Now… now… now. This is my life at the moment. It (everything) has boiled down to the present moment. And no other moment is relevant. What happened yesterday, be it good, bad or otherwise, has absolutely no marking or influence on how today might shape up. Or the next week or month. This is the great lesson my tiny, wise guru (aka Soleil my 4 month old bub) is teaching me. And my god, doesn’t it suck! You weren’t expecting that right? Thought I’d talk about how wonderfully liberating and joyful living in the NOW is? Well, that is partially true. One half of the coin. The other ‘truth’ is that it’s the most challenging spiritual assignment to date. Why? Because controlling and planning your life feels SAFE. It’s predictable. It’s mapped out. It provides a big old safety net (although often ridden with unseen holes to slip through). When you are living in that state of thinking/planning/controlling/structuring, it doesn’t actually FEEL good, but it does give you a false sense of security. So, this lesson that I (and most likely every mother out there) am learning is stripping away that fakery, peeling back the security that’s not real, anyway, and dumping all that control. Even as I write this to you, I’ve had to stop/start multiple times to sing, smile, cuddle, nurse, pat, shush and snooze my little one. Her needs are in the NOW. She doesn’t care about this email, or my coaching, or my plans for the future. She cares about right-freaking-now. ++ So each week, I battle with those fears as my ego-mind seeks out that space of control again… yearns and hungers for it…BEGS me to go back into that space of past perception and future projection. It WANTS me to trip out and get doped out on that thinking/planning/controlling/structuring stuff. But – and you know this to be true from your own life, mama or not – those fears do not bring good. Those fears do not lift you up, or solve problems, or answer questions or give you a way through; they just laden you up with the tell-tale markers that come with fear: anxiety, stress, edginess, frustration, disillusion, insecurity and fill-in-the-blank here with your own ‘fear symptom’. So the answer? Come back to the now. Come back to this minute, this hour. Focus on the side of the coin where living hour by hour is your saving grace, where the now is your life-line, the space that feels doable, manageable and maybe a hell of a lot more kinder to yourself. Don’t fret over tomorrow, because it won’t be how you think it might/should/could be. Don’t even fuss over this afternoon. It might unexpectedly surprise/delight/inspire you. Just get through your day, hour by hour. When everything is golden, then you get to savour EACH HOUR. When everything is not-so-shiny, then you get to stay OUT of that space that threatens you with the undigestible fear that it might be like this ‘forever’. So let’s do it. One hour at a time. That is it. That is all. love + light, Claire P.s If you want some help getting present, head on over to my shop page and get your fix with my Reveal Your Inner Radiance (mini) meditations. Read more

Crossing over from the head to the heart

Crossing over from the head to the heart

Posted June 08, 2015

Crossing over from the head to the heart Over a year ago, maybe more, I had an astrology reading done by the incredible Ezzie Spencer. Ezzie did my full chart and then talked me through what she had discovered. It’s funny, at the time I found everything she said to be fully loaded and heavy with meaning, but didn’t realise what the process would be when her discoveries came into being. Besides identifying that I am triple Aquarian, with my sun, moon and rising star seated in this fixed air sign, she also revealed something quite powerful and profound. This ‘something’ is only now coming into fruition, but looking back I can see it has been slowly brewing for years. I’ve been blindly and without direction travelling towards this something. ++ Ezzie pointed out that I have an astute level of understanding and a deep well of wisdom. All of this is cradled by a refined intellect and analytical mind. Ha! Gosh that sounds conceited… What that really means is that I’m all ‘in the head’! I’m a sensitive being, highly tuned in and self aware, but what comes naturally is using my mind, my intellect to ‘understand’. I’m a thinker and used to really pride myself for it. You with me so far? I bet many of you might resonate with this, so let me flesh it out a little more: Do you feel you are quick to understand BIG concepts? Is it easy for you to see all sides to a story/situation? Can you clearly ‘get’ spiritual teachings? Do you usually find it’s a no brainer when wrapping your head around complex people/issues/experiences? Can you easily deduce ways through sticky and cloudy experiences? Do you tend to be the voice of reason and insight amongst your family and friends? Is your wisdom often based on what you’ve experienced or come to learn rather than what you feel and intuit? Are you mostly driven and guided by your head? Are you often in your head – thinking and planning and stewing? Yes? Are you with me or know someone that is just like this? ++ Ok, first up, to clarify: there is nothing wrong with being this way. Being a heady, ‘thinker’ type has its benefits. Switched on and clued up! If you are this way, more power to you. We need thinkers! ++ When Ezzie pointed this out to me she explained that my soul had lived from this heady, wise space for countless lives. So far, it has supported me just fine. But now, in this lifetime and for the first lifetime ever, I am being called to cross the ravine and make it to the other side. To move away from the head space! And what awaits me there? A life led by the heart. A life dropped into an intuitive, feeling based space. Over the last five years I’ve journeyed deeper into my spiritual pilgrimage and explored deeply in my work as a Mind-Body-Soul coach. This continual process of discovery has slowly brought me face to face with the limitations of living from my head. It’s also forced me many times to feel into my heart and live from there. Many times I’ve resisted – after all, it’s new and scary and hard. Living from my head is easy. I’ve done it for many lives. It seems clear cut, straightforward; though truthfully it’s the opposite! But often I’ve not been given a choice, and my latest dalliance with feeling, living and being from my heart is one of those choice-less experiences. Becoming a mother is, I can now see, the true beginning of my traverse from the head side to the heart side. I’ve begun the journey, crossing the ravine. I know now that the last few years have been prepping me, slowly, for this forced, cataclysmic trek down deep into my feeling centre, into my soul, a trip that has been written into my soul’s story well before this body existed. ++ Every day, this motherhood gig requires me to check my ego and my intellect at the door. I’m asked to feel into my baby and her needs, to intuit them. I’m asked to feel into my body and be with whatever discomfort lives there in a much more potent way than before – yet also to respect and love this body more than ever, despite the fact that it’s more worn and battle torn! I’m asked daily to let my heart be centre stage, in order to navigate from soul. I’m asked to stop and drop the ongoing mind-chatter and useless need to ‘understand’. I’m asked to be ok with not ‘getting it’ and to stay out of my head. I’m ask to give and give fully in the NOW and to do so gratefully and with joy, to feel good giving more than I thought I was capable of. Oh it’s so easy to write those words, yet this is the most challenging spiritual assignment to date. Don’t for a second think that I’ve nailed this or that I easily can do what’s being asked of me. Feeling. Feel. Feel it… Do you know how to sit with what you feel and tune into it from an emotional space not an intellectual space? ‘Do you know’… That’s how I just started that question! It’s so ironic, considering we are talking about feeling, which, of itself, has nada to do with ‘knowing’… Feeling and living from that space is so damn challenging because we can’t study it and figure it out. We simply have to throw ourselves into the firey pit of feeling over and over and over until our mind starts to get the idea and turns down its full ball volume. This is where I am right now: being ok with not knowing what I feel, but also going there despite the struggle, as often as I can. This means so many different things. It means, as a person, I’m […] Read more


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