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Attention all the busy people: busy isn’t best!

Attention all the busy people: busy isn’t best!

Posted May 20, 2014

It’s time to stop glorifying busy. Yep, I’m talking to all the busy people, out there. And if you are reading this then I’m going to bet you’re a full time member of ‘the busy people club’. Full disclosure; I’m right in there with you. Oh yeah babe. Me and busy, we go waaaay back. Although I’m still in the club, these days I’m hanging out on the periphery. One foot in ‘busy’ the other is dipping its big toe into the pool of nothingness. And I’m getting so much better at planting both feet in the delicious space of a slower pace. Most of April this year I spent doing a whole lot of nothing (does staring at the ceiling, or at my feet, as I lay on the floor count?) But, mostly, I love me some busy. I savour prolificacy; I desire a fertile life; rich and multi-layered. I get drunk on productivity. I get off on systems that organize and make life easier. Ticking things off a list makes me buzz. I feel high when I’m engaged with everything that makes my heart sing. And in contrast, when I’ve felt the opposite it can often bring me down. It’s as if the shine of life is just a little duller. So I’m not here finger pointing and judging your ‘busy-ness’. Many of you, like me, enjoy a full life. But I want to look under the cover of ‘busy’ and expose the truth that is often lurking within the shadows and in the corners of every experience, situation, conversation, task, appointment, project and ‘thing-to-do’. This is not just about being busy at work or as a parent; this is about the epidemic of a busy life. What’s being busy really about? We live in a culture that glorifies busy because we’ve been led to believe that the more we do equates to feeling more whole, satisfied and worthy. It is a signal to the world that we matter, that our place (our role, job etc) is needed and that we are needed. That we are important and valuable. It’s as if busy-ness gives significance to our lives – that getting a lot of shit done indicates achievement and accomplishment – two attitudes within the arsenal of your Ego (and which drive you to look for satisfaction and sense of worthiness in your external world!) I know I’m not the only one that thinks this sounds ridiculous, right? Read that paragraph again – many of us get our sense of value, importance and worthiness from doing too much. Hmmm… aren’t we already valuable, important and worthy whether we ‘do’ something or not? Just the other day I was talking to a girlfriend who frequently often pulls off Superwoman stunts – opening studios in multiple states at the same time, being a wife and mother and doing so much more. When I commented on her incredible feats of creation she said “I’m not superwoman, I’m super-dumb!” Of course I don’t agree with her, (and still don’t) she’s doing what she does very well. But I can see what she meant… busy isn’t always best, busy isn’t always smart! Why? Well look at it this way – the busier we are the less time we have to be present, to connect with our true selves and to live aligned with our core desired feelings. Does she always feel the way she wants to feel, no. Do I? No. And usually, it’s because we fill our plates. Yes, busy gets stuff done, busy is needed at certain times, but often we stubbornly stay in ‘the busy people club’ even when its clear that it’s time to cancel our membership. Busy is depleting. Sapping. Soul exhausting. Have you ever noticed when you’ve just completed a big project or ticked something major off your ‘life-list’ and one of the very first questions you get asked is: “What’s next?”… Instead of celebrating the pause between a busy time, and post-creation, we are encouraged to hunt for the next hit like a crack addict. Why your soul doesn’t always dig busy! Following your purpose is the meaning to your life – when we are living from and aligned with our soul that ecstatically momentous and damn satisfying. But here’s the difference – your soul purpose probably doesn’t have anything to do with juggling a never-ending to-do list, 5 different (self-inflicted) roles and a bitter collection of obligations to feel purposeful. Maybe your soul feels satisfied simply when you (the human you) lives and leads from soul. What’s that look like? Connecting to your truth, listening to your heart, being present with your inner and higher self, navigating through life from intuition instead of intellect. Sometimes that means you aren’t working on something 6 months ahead. Or that you aren’t planning for anything. Or that your week’s schedule is bare and you have ‘no commitments’. Maybe, even, you are just living spontaneously, intuitively and one day at time. Sometimes when we connect with our soul we hear: Ease up. Slow down. Do less. Be here. Feel more. Listen in. Switch off Busy isn’t best: stop glorifying busy! If you are ready to live within a different energy – if you want to hold space for your soul to shine – then perhaps it’s time to dial back on the role that ‘busy’ plays in your life. Here are a few questions for you to reflect on: 1) Look at your life objectively; How much time do you carve for ‘nothing’ > being alone, living an unplanned life, clearing your diary? 2) Do you wear ‘busy’ as a badge of honour > do you feel satisfied and ‘worthy’ when you get a lot of stuff done or when your diary is full? 3) Do you use ‘busy-ness’ as a shield > from yourself/your soul or from connecting on a real level with others 4) Do you think busy is the only way? > Could you approach life […] Read more

Winter wellness: 7 ways to love winter more

Winter wellness: 7 ways to love winter more

Posted May 15, 2014

As I write this, for the first time this year, I can feel the chilly breath of winter – sneaking its way in to my home, life, body. It’s technically still Autumn,  but it’s a-coming! Loving winter is not something that comes easily to me. In fact, it’s taken me years to appreciate the winter season. It’s not a tough ask to fall in love with Spring, Summer and Autumn – these seasons deliver up an an easy hit of love. But poor old winter barely gets a tenth of that love. It’s harder work to savor winter … and surprisingly also well worth it. I’ve found a few ways over the last few years to really embrace the beauty of and love winter more. Winter wellness is not only about eating well and staying motivated, but it’s about squeezing the life out of winter – really tapping into what winter is good for and how to work with it, not against it. 7 Ways to love winter more 1. Devour more books Over the summer (and even into Autumn) I find it so much harder to read books. And by read I mean devour. I love to read, alot. I’m happiest when I get through at least 2 books a week. Winter is a time for that. So I stock pile in advance. I love curling up on the end of my bed in a patch of winter sunshine and getting lost in the written word 2. Study more. With the online world a hub of ecourses, ebooks, audiobooks – there is so much to dive into. Whether you need to refine your business skills, take a wellness program, do some self-enquiry, an art course, a personal transformation course – do something you’ve always intended on doing over winter 3. Get cooking. With all the extra time out of the cold and spent indoors I love to take the time to experiment and find new recipes to add to my repetoire. Sunday afternoon baking (and eating) brings a smile on my face – even just writing those words. 4. Move your body in a different way. If you are normally an outdoor runner, walker or anything else really but you struggle to get up and out in the cold, use winter as a change to mix things up. Join a yoga studio and go to classes. Sign-up to an online yoga/pilates website and take classes from your own home. Join a new gym. Go to weekly rock-climbing or trapeze classes. Use winter as a chance to change things up for your body, and your mind. 5. Permission to sleep-in Ok, when I say sleep-in I still mean rise with the sun, but allow that natural urge to hibernate get some air time. If you normally rise between 5 and 5:30am (like I do, then push it back a little on the days you need to, and rise with war, sun. Maybe on the weekends sleep in till 7. It’s our bodies natural desire to rest and hibernate in winter (although there is a fine line between resting and slacking off completely) 6. Pack your bags and travel Break up the cold with a little weekend away to somewhere warmer. Get some Vitamin D, reboot and you’ll sail through to spring. Start a meditation practice. With all that time spent in doors why not get a meditation practice going. You can learn from a teacher or better still get a collection of guided meditations to listen to you. You can check out my digital meditation album here. *NEWSFLASH: The hugely popular 21 Day Meditation Project is kicking off again in June. Jump on my mailing list below to be informed as soon as it opens again!* And…Just because I love you, here are four bonus winter wellness tips. Look after your skin. Switch your skincare regime to a more hydrating product. Exfoliate regularly. Hot water, cold air, heaters… they dehydrate the body. Eat more soups, stews and warmly spiced foods. Be kind to your digestive system and give it lots of warming, nourishing foods. Winter is the Vata and Kapha season – and these energy types need good old fashioned winter food. Get outside into the winter sunshine. Vitamin D deficiency is an issue, especially over winter. So sit outside, in the midday sun during winter without sun protection (yes, shock horror) for 20 minutes and soak up those rays of goodness. Luxuriate in long soaks in the bath tub. Candles. Bubbles. A good book. Not so easy in the stinking humidity of summer… perfect for the cool nights of winter. Your turn: Do you have any winter wellness tips of your own? Care to share? I’d love to hear from you – comment below! love + light, Claire x Read more

When your goals get in the way

When your goals get in the way

Posted May 13, 2014

How many times have you had a goal – a passion-filled desire – that has done an about face and actually started to control you and literally got in the way? Have you experienced that overpowering energy of ‘achievement’ and ‘striving’ to the point where you felt completely overwhelmed and blocked? Can you see how your goals get in the way? In this overly-stimulating, competitive and goal-orientated world we live in I’d be surprised (and seriously impressed) if you’ve never been affected by it and have side-stepped the need to achieve. But what am I really talking about here? This is about what is hiding underneath those goals that get in the way…. Expectations. Agendas. Lack. Fear. Let me ask you a few questions here: Have you ever wondered why something you’ve set your heart and mind on has crumbled into ruins? Or have you witnessed how an initial goal has ended up causing stress and anxiety instead of ease and joy? Have you felt frustrated that, despite your best efforts to achieve your goal, you’ve still managed to sabotage  yourself and lost ‘control’ of what you are doing? Or have you felt stuck, unable to move forward, even though you’ve had the best of intentions and are really trying to face your goals head on? Are you nodding along? Say YES?! Well then this VLOG is for you. And even if you aren’t shouting yes from the roof-tops hit play anyway. I know it’ll resonate with you on some level or hold a nugget of truth that you are destined to harness in the future, or pass onto a friend who needs to hear it. ++ In this vlog I share: How your goals can often turn on you and get in the way. Why your goals end up falling apart (and controlling you) – this is about the role that you play in this! How staying present and dropping your agendas and expectations can actually move your forward more. A little ‘tough-love’ message from me – a gentle slap to help you get the hell out of your own way! ++ Your turn: Can you see where you are in-control, right now in life? What goals are you controlling? And how is this getting in your way? Sometimes WE get in the way and we really need to learn how to get the hell out of the way! Speaking of ‘getting in your own way’. In 2013 I wrote an ebook called: Get out of your own way – 17 ways to surrender for your best life yet! If this video resonated with you I know you’ll get so much out of my ebook. I share so many pivotal and personal stories where I was called to surrender and how they led me to a life of more ease and flow. Check it out here. love + light to you, Claire x Read more

Finding your soul purpose: Interview with Belinda Davidson

Finding your soul purpose: Interview with Belinda Davidson

Posted May 08, 2014

Right now I’m in such a delicious space… I’m learning more about myself on an energetic level and I’m peeling off layers of ego and unnecessary emotional junk. Not to mention the deep healing that is taking place through the work I’m doing with my chakras. And all of this work is leading me into a deeper, more profound unraveling of the self. I am more willing and ready, than I have ever been, to connect to my purpose on a soul level. I want to live, aligned with and from my soul. The incredible Belinda Davidson, who is one of my (soul) mentors, is the incredible woman supporting and guiding me (and many others) through this journey. Her words of wisdom, her insight (as a genuine psychic, she can really ‘see’) and her straight-talking energy ensures that everything she teaches get right down to the core of you. Your soul. And when it comes to the soul, to finding your purpose and living authentically from that truth, Belinda’s perspective and methods  – strengthening your chakras, practicing mindfulness, unraveling the ego and healing with white light – not only make sense but they work in the most direct manner. Which is why I’m so thrilled to share this incredible interview I did with Belinda on finding your soul purpose and living an authentic life. I resonate so strongly with her insights and knowledge and I know that her perspective will really open your heart and mind. Understanding the journey to your soul purpose through the lens of ego, mindfulness, authenticity and the chakra system is so refreshing, life-changing and comforting. We don’t have to struggle, fight and push our way through life and to find and live from joy. Yes, we must do the hard work and sometimes it’s dirty, but it’s not a futile mission. It will bear fruit. ::::::: CLICK BELOW TO PLAY https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/79968734/Belinda%20Jean%20Davidson%20on%202014-04-25%20at%2012.31.mp3 RIGHT CLICK HERE DOWNLOAD + SAVE In this interview we discuss: Our built-in soul purpose How our purpose is part of what we are meant to do. The ego + how it attaches to the idea of purpose Getting caught up in the desire for a BIG + extraordinary purpose How the chakras, our energy anatomy, plays a vital role in finding our soul purpose Authenticity is living from your soul purpose What being inauthentic is about How our ‘needs‘ can be inauthentic Growing and learning from the ego Doing the hard work is actually joyful! The key to finding your purpose Why meditation is something you have to do! ::::::: Your turn: comment below What is one key take away you received from this interview with Belinda? How do you feel about Soul Purpose + Authenticity? Send Belinda some love! UPDATE: Good news for you. Belinda is running her SoMM Level 1 course again on September 29th. Head over here to check out her FREE Audio Masterclass. love + light, Claire xx P.s connect with Belinda here: | website | facebook | twitter | Instagram Read more

How to be imperfectly perfect

How to be imperfectly perfect

Posted May 06, 2014

Why do we strive for perfection? What is so scary about being our imperfect selves? And who labelled ‘imperfection’ something to avoid like the black plague? Maybe we can be imperfectly perfect instead? Have you ever pondered on how completely futile the desire for perfection is and how perhaps, the imperfections, that paint the picture that is you, is actually a demonstration of your perfection – as a human being, as spirit and everything in between –  mothers, daughters, lovers, fathers, sons, friends, colleagues. I know you’ve felt the weight and pressure of perfectionism. I know you’ve carried the burden of striving to be something you’ve come to believe is ‘excellent beyond improvement’. Flawless. Complete. Exact. Absolute. In today’s VLOG I dive into imperfection and explore how we can embrace imperfection. This is an invitation to embrace the imperfect you. This is about opening up in order to witness and experience the perfection that is your imperfect self. This is a homage to life, as the imperfectly perfect experience that is it! This is a chance to herald the beauty of the asymmetry and unevenness of life. Take a deep breath. Connect inwards to yourself (imperfections and all!) and dive into this video. I know you are going to love this! Your turn: Share below. What’s something IMPERFECT about you or your life right now that you are now going to celebrate and appreciate? love + light, Claire x Read more

How to live from truthfulness

How to live from truthfulness

Posted May 01, 2014

The practice of truthfulness. The practice of yoga. In the recent Living Your Yoga post I mentioned that ‘Asana’ or the group of physical poses is in fact the third limb of the 8-fold pathway that is Yoga. What has truly transformed me the most, over the years, is not whether I can get my leg behind my head (that is irrelevant!) but the spirit-fueled and often challenging lessons that the practice of yoga has offered up (sometimes by force). Yoga provides a container for deep learning, self enquiry and observation. Yoga has intravenously fed a new perspective, attitude and approach to life… slowly… dripped into me. So it makes sense then that, within the 8 Limbs of Yoga, the Asanas (poses/physical practice) are placed after the Yamas and Niyamas – ethical and moral codes. I guess we can view these as ‘commandments’ (ungoverned, of course) to live by. Guidelines for a spiritual life. And since first studying yoga some 4 years ago, many of these ethical and moral guideposts have found their way into my life on a daily basis – not in a forced way but moreso by encouraging me to be spiritually minded and live spiritually day-by-day and you know why it’s has stuck? Because it fits, it feels right and it works. Today I want to share and explore with you one of the Yamas – Satya; Truthfulness. This particular Yama is a powerful one to look at and try and live from.  ++ Satya. Truthfulness. What does that mean? Dishonesty, lies, half-truths – to yourself and to others – is believed to be the surest way to cloud your own inner wisdom and intuition. In the yogi tradition, truthfulness is regarded as a fundamental step towards higher truth – towards a reunion with the divine. Satya in the real world Truthfulness to me, translates into authenticity.  It’s about living your truth! We have to learn how to be our authentic selves and be honest with who we are – including the parts of ourselves, the shadow within, that we don’t really like or want anything to do with. We have to embrace all of us. Own every part of us. We must be prepared to step up and take ownership for our mistakes, our faults… our lies to ourselves and the ones we love. We must be willing to live, with truth as our guiding light, even when it is that hardest thing. When we lie to others, when we are dishonest to the world around us, we are lying to ourselves. Truthfulness and honesty towards others Well, Satya is not a creative license to tell everyone what you really think. It’s not the permission slip to tell your colleague what you think about their irritating habits or tell that bus driver you think he’s an ass. That isn’t living in your truth. That’s living in your ego. Big difference. To me, Satya is about connecting to your own inner truth, that deep inner knowing on a soulful level. On a day-to-day basis, Satya plays out as integrity and honesty. Being the WHOLE you with utmost faith and sincerity. And giving others the courtesy of experiencing you from that space of integrity, honesty and sincerity. They deserve that, and mostly, so do you! But who’s with me when I say being truthful and living from your soul is not always easy! After all that’s a life-long journey. Now, I don’t mean that telling the truth is hard, but living as a sincere, authentic, integrity-filled being means we have to accept who we are, where we are at, each day at a time. No judgment. No sugar-coating. No omission. No hiding. We have to be willing to see the dark and the light, the good and the bad. And LIVE from that.  It’s much easier to pull the wool over our own eyes, and those of our loved ones, and shy away from the truth (or gloss it up!) than it is to step forward and be real is all our messy glory. Isn’t it? So when we look at Satya through the lens of authenticity, integrity and honesty from and for yourself, it’s a whole different ball game. It’s not just about telling the truth to your friends and family… It’s about telling the truth, being the truth, living truthfully… and all without censorship! Satya is about admitting when you are being dishonest with yourself. And often light is born from these shadow moments – when we face up to our darkness and we are willing to go there and get real, we discover so much goodness. As a ‘little liar’ as a child I have now accepted that part of me. The result? Today I am a firm believer in the power of truth-telling, simply because I carried the burden of my own lies for so long – the way it makes you feel isn’t something you wish you hold onto, trust me! By admitting when we are in opposite to Satya, we are gifted with clear sight, and then we can grow towards truth from there! ++ How does Satya show up in your life? Take a moment to gaze, objectively, upon you life. What role does ‘truthfulness’ play in your day-to-day life. Are you consciously living with integrity, authenticity, sincerity, honesty? If not, why not? How could you invite more of this beautiful philosophy of truthfulness into your life? Share below in the comments! Let’s explore truthfulness together. Let’s get real! Feel free to answer the above questions in the comments below, or share any other insight with me. in love, light (and truthfulness) Claire x Read more

Why being inauthentic will only hold you back.

Why being inauthentic will only hold you back.

Posted April 24, 2014

Who are you pretending to be? I remember when I was 14 years old, year nine had just rolled around and I had a very conscious thought about the person I was. I had caught hold of the idea that who I was just wasn’t working for me. I’m not sure why I felt this – typical teenage angst and disassociation perhaps – but I felt it strong enough to make this decisive move: I was going to, consciously, become a different person. I believed that the only way to get what I wanted out of my life ( I probably just wanted to be ‘cooler’ and fit in) that I needed to massage my personality into something new. Form myself into someone else… put on a new costume and learn the lines of some fabricated ‘person’ in my mind. It almost sounds schizophrenic doesn’t it? I just didn’t want to be me… ‘Me’ wasn’t good enough. And god I gave it a good crack! Most of that ‘massaging’ came through in really rebellious ways. All of which I’m grateful for – huge lessons – but there is a sense of sadness for how inauthentic and lost that little girl was. I had to go through that. Truthfully, I’m sure I’ve done this more than once over the years. Not with such deliberateness or drive, but almost unconsciously. How we wear the costume of inauthenticity It’s a safe bet to say that for most of us this has happened, on some level and to some extent. Maybe in small, almost undetectable doses. And maybe in a way that really drove you, motivated you, changed you for the better. Or maybe it has held you back. I want to first flag how we find ourselves living an ‘inauthentic’ life. This is not hard and fast. It’ll be different for everyone. But personally this is how I’ve witnessed the energy of in-authenticity showing up in my life. Firstly, we tend to look to the external world and the people in it as a reference point: Our energy is outside of ourselves. Our attention is on something or someone else – a blog post. A person we admire. Something on TV. A friend. A notion or concept we’ve read/learned Next we start comparing and measuring up our-self to the beauty, intelligence, creativity and success of others and how the rest of the world perceives them. Instead of self-referencing to discover your own greatness, you start to measure what is good/bad, postitive/negative, successful/unsuccessful. We see how the world, society and culture responds to that person and experience and we use that as an indicator and a reason as to why we aren’t in the same place or doing as well. Then we unconsciously or quite deliberately appropriate behaviours, beliefs and attitudes We, probably on a subconscious level, believe that these appropriated behaviours and attitudes might get us where we want to be. There is a undercurrent of ‘force’… of ‘making it happen’ (which isn’t a bad thing!) which can often feel positive, at first. Finally we ‘act’ our way into a new personality at the expense of our own authenticity It might be days, months, years of wearing a different costume. It might feel like some days it fits really well. But mostly, it won’t feel easy – it won’t be natural. And that’s usually a sure-sign that we aren’t being our authentic self.  ++ Ok,  let me hit pause here for a moment to clarify that it’s not all bad… Sometimes, being inspired by others (experiences and people) is incredibly revolutionary and evolutionary for us – it pushes our boundaries, it gets us thinking, stretching, exploring…always a good thing And I’m also sure that many of us have ‘appropriated’ someone else’s authentic self in a bid to be a better version. I’ve been inspired by incredible women I’ve met in the past who have exuded ‘calm’. In my highly-strung, stressy state this was something I felt called to embody. I ached for the wash of peace. And it took work to get there, but wanting to ‘be’ the calm I witnessed in someone else led me to actually become my own version of ‘calm’ within my authentic self. But maybe, just maybe, we’ve also taken it too far. We unplug from our own intuitive source – our own truth – and in doing so we lose that connection to our authenticity. We aren’t quite sure, anymore, what authentic looks and feels like. Yet there is that sinking feeling that something doesn’t fit. Something isn’t in place. It’s as if you are trying to forces pieces of the puzzle into points where they aren’t meant to go. There is an image – a picture – but it’s a little dislocated, confused. I know I’ve had that feeling. It almost feels weak, vulnerable. Like the foundations aren’t stable enough to hold up it all up. Ultimately, it feels forced. It’s that ‘fake it till you make’ vibe, but the difference is you’ll never make it if it’s not aligned with your true self. If you aren’t leading with soul, no matter how hard you try it’ll eventually crumble. I’ve faked PLENTY of things in my time that eventually did lead me to make it – why? Because even though I was clueless as to what I was doing, I felt called to give the ‘fake it’ part a a red-hot go, because I knew, intuitively I could do it. It was possible. But, the flip side to that – I’ve also tried to fake it before and have failed miserably! I can see now that it all boils down to being inauthentic – to not following my truth. To trying something on for size that just wouldn’t and will not ever fit. The downfalls of inauthenticity Truth be told this comes down to the kind of existence you want to have. This boils down to the kind of experience in life you desire. Inauthenticity is […] Read more

How to stop being a loner

How to stop being a loner

Posted April 17, 2014

A loner (aka a hermit) is a person who lives, to some degree, in seclusion from society. And lately I’ve been figuring out how to stop being a loner! Seriously, hermit? Yep… I have a HUGE hermit streak. I wish there was a better ‘word’ to describe it. Loner isn’t much better…but it’s kind of true. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve tried over the years to sugar-coat this quality with as much flair + pizazz as I could: Independent | Introverted | Need alot of ‘me-time’ | Love my own company. All that and more. But I am what I am. I’m owning it. I am a hermit. I like to be alone. It’s been refreshing and relieving to step into my hermitty-loner shoes. ‘Being who you are is another way of accepting yourself’ – Unknown Since starting my own wellness coaching business in 2011 I’ve definitely let that ‘hermit’ streak take over. Truthfully, I had to. Preferring to bunker down for work, study, meditation, prayer, yoga was almost a prescription written out for me to get me through the highs and lows of soul-preneur work. The thing is, right at the point where I finally felt fully comfortable with this loner streak (and my inner circle has come to accept it, I think) something else has shown up to shake things up. My networker or ‘social butterfly’ streak has recently rocked up with swagger and flair. Looking for action, looking to ride that zingy high of connection and collective experiences. So here I am now, having to remember another truth – another layer of my being – I love to cosy up with like-minded souls and get FULL, love-drunk almost, on that connection. As I write this, the butterfly inside me is all a flutter, she has been for a while. Now awake after a dormant, groggy sleep. She wants some action now. She’s calling for connection. (It’s one of my core-desired feelings for 2014!) I’ve spent so much time moving inward over the last few years that it’s near impossible to hear the message being delivered: ‘Connect. Be part of a community. Find your tribe’. The hermit-loner in me is still ever-present, thankfully, but it now needs to take a step back, just for a little while, as I let this butterfly soar, in search for the sweet nectar of life that is so vividly painted through loving, openhearted connection and community. Now, before I completely let my butterfly loose my inner wisdom has nudged me to call a round table discussion with myself, my hermit and my butterfly. How can we work as a team, it asked? How can we keep the peace, maintain some order and balance? I hear that inner wisdom with a nodding approval. Thank god for wisdom – which recalls (with so much clarity + detail) how, in the past, when I let my butterfly take over I’d be left burnt out, disconnected from my true self, sick, stressed and anxious. So, lately I’ve been experimenting, pondering on and toying with this question– how can I balance out my hermit and my butterfly? I can’t be one without the other, I know that now, so it’s time to seek out that ever-elusive space of balance – it’s like the Holy Grail or that perfect recipe for a delicious life. Something I didn’t do in my early 20s! My experiment has been bearing the fruit of happiness, content, joy, inspiration, gratitude, intuition, connection and devotion. So far, so good. Right in this very moment, I feel SOO ALIVE. I’ve managed to get my daily dose of me-time but also feel ecstatically and delightfully FULL on that deep, heart-to-heart connection I so crave and love. I’m sharing my time between the hermit and the butterfly with such ease it almost feels, dare I say it, balanced. I also dare to declare that if you are reading this that YOU have the Hermit and the Butterfly fighting it out for prime position. It wouldn’t surprise me if you are seeking out some balance – a little true between these two energies. Let me share with you a few of the steps I took to balance out my Hermit + Butterfly. You might find that you are craving some equilibrium between these two potent yet necessary energies. 1)    Be clear on what your ‘non-negotiables’ are. Create two separate lists: one for Hermit and one for Butterfly. What are the experiences, situations, people or practices that you absolutely need to nurture those two energies. Write them out clearly. 2)    Check in regularly. Close your eyes. Breathe gently yet deeply. Place your hand on your heart and ask your heart directly: What does my soul need this week? Does the hermit in me need nurturing? Is my butterfly calling out for attention? What is paramount to my soul’s happiness? What do I need to feel alive, content and nourished? What do I need to call forth, right now? Listen and wait for that intuitive, soulful voice to communicate what it needs. Jot down what you learn. Scribble notes. 3)    Open your diary and create space. Look at your week ahead and see where and how you can make space to respond to the needs of your hermit, butterfly or both! Do this weekly, if you can. Be committed to your hermit and your butterfly. ++ Be prepared for it to change all the time. My Loner Years were vital and integral to my growth (professionally and personally). Now, the butterfly is fluttering forth because my soul is calling for it. And even today I have a whole week of networking, socializing, playing and exploring. Then next week I’ll let the introverted, inwards, quiet and reflective me step forth. love + light, Claire x Read more

Cutting cords of attachment from the people that hold you back

Cutting cords of attachment from the people that hold you back

Posted April 15, 2014

Sometimes we just have to make the cut. Slice through the energetic cords that attach us to those people that hold us back. Cutting the cords of attachment we have with people isn’t easy… but at some point, it has to be done…and you’ll know who and when! I bet you’ve got someone in mind, right now, simply from reading those first few sentences? You know, ‘that person’ might not be in your life at this point in time. They could be simply a memory, in your head and in your heart, from the past. ‘That person’ might be the bus driver, that snarled at you and barked a grizzly response to your request for direction. Or maybe ‘that person’ is someone that has recently pissed you right off… and you are still carrying it, in your body, your bones, your mind… ++ If you know you have an energetic cord with someone, you’ll want to watch this video. It’s a quickie (less than 4 minutes) where I share how to disconnect and cut, for good, that unhealthy holding-you-back bond. CLICK PLAY TO WATCH P.s the video cuts a little short at the end – I had editing issues! ++ Some thought-starter questions to help you once you’ve watched the vid. Who am I still connected, energetically too? Why is that bond still there? What role does that cord play in my life? Is that connection weighing me down? What would it feel like to cut that cord? The truth is, we all need to cancel, clear and delete many of the bonds and ties we’ve developed over time. We simply need to be honest about what is no longer serving us and who is holding us back. love + light, Claire x Read more


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