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Endings and Beginnings: Reflecting on 2016 before entering 2017

Endings and Beginnings: Reflecting on 2016 before entering 2017

Posted December 18, 2016

Here I am…tapping away on my laptop. It’s almost dark and I’m sitting here on my bed with only a Himalayan Salt Lamp on; casting a warm, womb-like glow across the room. Big fat wet tears rolling down my face, pooling at my lips, soaking back into my skin. I can barely see through these tears…Yet I knew I had to open up my laptop and write. All week I’ve been feeling this bubbling up of emotion. The inner cauldron of all my truths, thoughts, feelings and experiences amping up from a slow, gentle simmer to the raise-the-lid kinda boil. The kind of boil that will inevitably spill over into a watery mess if I don’t turn my gaze to and respond quickly enough. And sure enough, despite the sign-posts all week the latter has happened. I didn’t have the space and time to ‘go there’ – you know, to cast my attention to that simmering feeling. So here I am… here I am a watery, blubbery mess. [Side note: oh wow, does it feels good to FEEL like this. To feel vulnerable and overwhelmed with emotion. It makes me feel alive and connected and tapped in – always has] The things that have set me off all week – tender moments between baby and dada. A random act of kindness from a stranger in the street. A generous exchange. Watching a mama hug her injured child in Aleppo. Hugging my dear friend and saying Merry Christmas – have all pointed to connection, the power of the tribe, gratitude and the simplicity of love. Powerful, universal sorta stuff. But what set off this moment, right now, the avalanche of tears and the impossible-to-contain soul speak in the form of FEELING? My nanny just wrote to me to say she was no longer able to work with us (due her own personal career goals). #firstworldproblems Then IT all just hit me. This year has been so challenging and yet so unbelievably beautiful. (Side note: I had originally written “so fucking hard” but perspective whacked me in the face and I had to dial it back!) I’ve created so much. I’ve barely slept. I’ve nagged and argued about nonsensical shit with my sleep deprived husband. I’ve started a new business. I’ve coached divine women through their blocks and fears. I consciously worked on healing myself energetically, emotionally, physically, mentally. I’ve done things I never thought I would, or could. I said YES without reason, just a feeling. I’ve grown a team and watched them grow too. I’ve learned that I don’t know what it means to be a leader. I’ve decided to lead with love and serve wholeheartedly. I’ve felt so much mama-guilt. I’ve felt so much mama joy, love, elation. I’ve faced so many fears, slowly. I’ve watched parts of me fall away and dissolve. I’ve surrendered. Over and over and over again. I’ve found my feminine power – fierce warrior mama within. I’ve fallen in love with parts of me I didn’t notice before. I’ve juggled coaching, creativity, business around tantrums and toddler tactics. I’ve stared at my forever changed body and swung from love, to admiration to disgust and back to love. I’ve stared at my forever guy and cried tears of gratitude for him minutes after crying tears at frustration over him. I’ve meditated. Daily. Committed to stillness, daily. I’ve moved and stretched and breathed. I’ve set goals and failed at them, and reset them over and over until I nailed it. I’ve held my baby sick and feverish feeling equal parts scared and supremely blessed. I’ve failed at being the perfect mama/wife so many times – forgetting to cook dinner, turning the TV on too many times, letting my frustration take the driver seat. I rocked motherhood too… often. I’ve battled to stay in my centre, to be calm, to stay strong when sometimes it all just felt too much. I’ve watched my dad getting older, weaker, sicker. I’ve felt the love and support my mother always delivers. I’ve cried tears of happiness watching my little girl play with her cousins, something I never had. I discovered some shit about myself I’m grateful I can now see, but that hurt to look at. I raged. I cried. I fell apart. I cracked. I put myself back together and said ‘Let’s DO this’. I prayed many times for relief and peace. And then accepted when I didn’t get it. I found a circle, a sisterhood, a tribe where we honour shame, vulnerability, joy, success and dreams. Like I said, a really big, hard, beautiful, FULL, messy year. ++ I am a deeply changed woman. Motherhood… life, it’s eroded the old me and reshaped me much faster than any other experience has in my life. I feel more than I’ve ever felt. I think more than I have ever. I worry more. Pray more. Strive and thrive more. I fail more. I’m more considered and conscious. I dig deeper than I ever have and insist on MORE from the universe. I love more than I thought was possible. I care about people, this earth. And yet with all of that I also feel more overwhelmed, futile, and held back than I ever have. My eyes are more open and so is my heart. EVERYTHING is dialled right up. My desire to create change, my desire to find balance and to help others heal. My desire for abundance and for financial success and stability. My need to hide away and hush the world. My desire to make a difference. My desire for a humble life with my sweet little family. My desire to GO BIG and chase my dreams. I feel all of it….My need to make this life matter, to honour the gift of this life and do it justice. To live up to my soul purpose and to do so with authenticity and love. As I write this there is a small voice in the back of my […] Read more

Structure = living on purpose

Structure = living on purpose

Posted October 04, 2016

Structure = living on purpose Last night my husband came home from a workshop his company sent him too. It was all about becoming an ‘Emotional Leader’… I knew he was going to love it and I also knew he’d come home with ‘fresh’ ideas. He came home fired up and ready to do so many of the things I’ve been sharing to my clients, my tribe and to him for years! Meditation, mindfulness, self exploration and development, movement, learning, reflection. Despite my daily preaching, sharing and soapbox standing, the penny hasn’t dropped until now. And that is totally OK… Sometimes we just have to hear from another voice to ‘get it’. It’s not that he doesn’t believe in the power of meditation, or a healthy lifestyle or even in self-development. He does. He’s witnessed the changes in me over the last decade. But he needed to hear it from someone else, in a different voice with a different perspective and perhaps presented in a way that applied to him… His goals, his desires, his motivations.  So here we are. We are now sitting down together to map out, as a team, our ‘ideal weekly planner’. Check out this video blog I created to explain what the ideal weekly planner is and why we all need to do one. We are first going to nut out what we want to work on, or re-dedicate too. He wants to introduce meditation, I want read more books again. We both want conscious movement in our schedule, exercising together. I want more reflection/journaling time. He wants to watch more educational documentaries. Juggling this around my two businesses, a toddler, his full time job and LIFE stuff is a challenge. Hence the need for a structure, a planner of sorts to keep us on the forward trajectory and to make it happen. This doesn’t mean constriction or restriction.  This is not about losing spontaneity  This will not stop us from follow our feelings This is not to be heavy or tight or limiting. Through structure and discipline we will find the lightness, the learning, the passion, the inspiration and the joy we are craving in our life. We will cultivate a way of BEING in our lives, consciously, deliberately and on purpose. And oh my I am excited by this – to partner up with someone (not to mention that someone is the love of my life) and to set clear, soulful goals to nurture a beautiful, vibrant and engaged life. I know we will dive into this inspired structure with inspired action AND compassion. Compassion for the days when we are wiped out, and sleep is calling. Or when our ‘plans’ don’t quite come together. Structure HAS to be flexible, otherwise that’s when the rigidity – the rigor mortis – sets in. ++ So here are some mini take-aways for you: 1) Whenever the message and however the message sinks in for you (or someone else) that is ok. It’s DIVINE timing. Trust it. 2) Utilise structure to create the life you want. Be deliberate, on point, focused. Choose consciously what you want to do/feel/be. 3) Let your structure be malleable and a little stretchy, not rigid and restrictive. 4) Partner up with someone – your bestie, your lover, your mama. Collaboration makes everything sweeter, more exciting and do-able! Here’s to a structured life, on purpose. Love and light, Claire x Read more

taking care of business + free stuff for you

taking care of business + free stuff for you

Posted September 12, 2016

taking care of business + free stuff for you I recently read a summary of the theme for this September 2016 over on Mystic Mamma. To be honest I can’t quite remember all of it, except one key theme stood out and is on repeat in my mind… “It’s time to take care of business”… Those words felt like the gentle slap I needed to get out of the little pocket of lethargy I was in. The lethal cocktail of sleep deprivation, no time during the day to myself (that’s what happens when a teething toddler refuses to sleep without you) and winter vibes saw me hanging out in no-motivation land. But those words… BOOM. The words (and the change of season and energy) were just the right ones to knock me back into action. Time to take care of business at home – I’m cleansing and clearing the home. Cleaning windows, washing everything, flushing out the winter and dusting out the old. De-cluttering and creating space. FOR YOU: Work through each room of your home and commit to clearing out 10 things. They might be scraps of paper, or bags of clothes! ::: Taking care of business in business – I’m not dancing around my goals anymore. Full throttle towards them (with respect for the natural ebb and flow of action and rest). I’m ready to build, grow, expand. (P.s If you want to know more about the team I am building shoot me back an email! hello(at)thewellnessproject.net.au) FOR YOU:Get your free copy of my ‘Declare Your Dreams’ worksheet here. ::: Taking care of business in my body – I want to feel vital and light. Strong and toned. Sexy even. So I’m diving into The BODY LOVE Spring Challenge from Barre Body. I highly recommend you check it out and join me – it starts in mid October. We are talking dedicated barre classes, wellness overhaul and hitting refresh on our mindset and belief systems. I’m also focusing on detoxing through lots of twisting postures in yoga. I’m reviewing my diet through a 7-day food diary simply to see what I can change, improve or delete! FOR YOU:Download your own copy of my ‘Foodie Must-haves’ list. A great guide to eating clean. ::: Taking care of business in wellness – The superfood supplement that I’m so blessed to have in my life will still be leading the way. This beautiful triage of potent, nature-based supplements (all-natural, GMO-free) has literally supported me mentally, physically and emotionally over the last 7 months. I count my blessings everyday that I found this! This month I’m ensuring that this is part of my daily routine and I’m also dedicating myself to sharing it far and wide. It’s that good. I mean, seriously, if you could try something that could make you feel the best you have ever felt – gave you more energy, better sleep and over all feeling of better health – with a 100% money back guarantee would you try it? I would. I did. It changed everything. ***Get more info here.*** FOR YOU: Hit me back an email if you want more info on this supplement… I don’t share just any old thing my loves. This is beautifully supportive and I want you to experience it too.  ::: Taking care of business in mind and spirit – By now you know how big a fan I am of meditation. Well with the arrival of spring I’m focusing on chakra cleansing and mantra meditation in particular. Chakra cleansing, to me, is the spiritual equivalent of a detoxifying diet. And mantra meditation, for me at least, creates a light more ‘higher’ energy. I want to ride the waves of lightness, the ‘uplift’ that spring calls in. FOR YOU: This Wednesday 14th September at AEST 8PM I’ll be hosting my next FB Live Meditation session. Please request access to THIS PRIVATE GROUP and join me for a delicious mid-week session. :::::::::::: So September is here. It’s time to take care of business. This is what is so special about this season – the chance to refresh, clear, realign, detox. All before the end of the year – clearing the way so you can see the pathway forward before 2016 comes to a close. How are you going to take care of business? Love and light, Claire x P.s My new meditation offering for MAMAS is coming soon. I just did a photo-shoot on the weekend for it. It’s starting to feel real and imminent! Read more

Strategy of Surrender

Strategy of Surrender

Posted August 30, 2016

Strategy for surrender Since the day little Soleil was born, in fact, since she was just a bunch of little cells multiplying I’ve been hurtling down the rabbit-hole of surrender. Over and over, day-by-day I’ve been asked to let go – to surrender. Surrender who I think I am. Surrender to who she is. Surrender to the struggle. Surrender to the sleep deprivation. Surrender to the loss of control and structure. Surrender to the chaos. Surrender to the beauty, and joy and insane love. Surrender to the god-like connection motherhood creates for me. Surrender to the sides of me I don’t like or thought I had ‘healed’           Surrender to the mess Surrender to the present moment           Surrender to it all… And you know what? I’m not there yet. How do I know I’m not there yet? Well, because I find myself trying to ‘figure out’ if there is something wrong – am I doing it right? Is Soleil OK? Have I missed something? I find myself looking for solutions where there aren’t any. Or getting lost in those feelings of futility and exhaustion that weeks and weeks of sleep deprivation do to you. I find myself pining for ‘time’ and trying to think about how to get more of it. I find myself getting trapped in the idea that ‘if only things were XYZ then it’d all be better”. When I notice I’m in this heady, catastrophizing, weary mindset I know that surrender and I have forgotten to nurture our bond. But here’s the flipside to it all. I know I’m never supposed to be and never will be ‘there’ with surrender. Not fully, completely. Not 100%. Why? Because we, surrender and I,  have a deal. I’m supposed to experiment with it, lose faith in it, find it again, go deeper with it, start all over again. Becoming a mama is so much more for me than creating a life (which is a miracle) and experiencing that journey. It’s about my own soul-journey with surrender. And this realisation always brings about the question, WHY? again.. The deeper why is because I’m meant to dance with surrender so I can share it all with you. I’m here to help you become besties with surrender. It’s my thing. it’s my job. And everytime I mess it up, that’s another up-leveling, re-education and re-learning so I can scrub up on my surrender skills. That’s what we do as teachers and guides, we have to keep growing and learning in order to help you grow and learn. So here I am, once again, letting go of the idea that I have to ‘fix’ things with my little Sunbeam. She is healthy, bright, BOLD, happy, oh-so-spirited. There is nothing wrong. Nor do I need to fix anything with myself as a mother, woman, wife, friend, daughter – I do enough, I am enough, I love enough, I care enough. I simply must accept, embrace and let go of the expectations and need to control. It means offering up my plans and my ideas and trusting that as and when it’s supposed to unfold, it will. ++ Take a deep breath with me now, because in true Claire style I’m going to flip all of that on its head. There are always two sides to every coin and this journey of surrender is much the same. Within the realisation that I must surrender and embrace the journey of letting go, I’ve also come to realise that part of this version of surrender (in mamahood) I must also take ACTION and come up with a strategy. I don’t have to give up every dream or desire to surrender, I just have to work with it in a different way. One of the massive stumbling blocks I’ve been facing is time. When your toddler is waking countless times each night and then only wants to nap on you during the day, well there isn’t much time left over. Domestic duties, cooking, eating, showering – these are the basics I’ve been fitting in amongst it all. Trying to fit in joyful work, creative time, spiritual practice and connecting to loved ones has been a battle. Surrender often wins. However, I’ve come to see a massive truth that surrender has delivered to me lately. It has said this; Claire, you DO have time, if you allow others to support you in caring for Soleil. You choose for Soleil to be the centre of your universe and for you to be hers. It’s your choice to prioritise her over anything else. It’s always up to you how and where you create and find time. Truthfully, I’ve hid behind being Soleil’s mama and ‘surrendering’ to her needs and the ebb-and-flow of her evolving being. I desperately don’t want to miss anything as she grows, but many of my dreams and desires with work and in life are ALL about creating opportunity, security and happiness for HER. So how to find peace between the desire and spiritual NEED to surrender over to her and to motherhood with the need to build, create, grow, call in abundance and success? And surrender once again answered with; Hire more help. Lean on your in-laws. Hand over the reigns to your husband more. Let go. You cannot be the only one to care for her. So there it is. And so it is. Surrender has sent me a strategy. I now see that I can fully embrace surrender day-to-day with my little one when I create more space and time for me to take action where action needs to be taken! It’s time that I let surrender become my strategy for life in both the moments of PAUSE + ACCEPTANCE as well as those of ACTION + CREATION. I choose to trust that surrender will only ever deliver me into what is right and good for my soul. Love + light, Claire xx OM MAMA LOVE… Mamas, I’m letting you in early on a little something special. […] Read more

Bringing Aphrodite Back. Feminine Power, Silence + Stillness.

Bringing Aphrodite Back. Feminine Power, Silence + Stillness.

Posted July 05, 2016

We are always guided and supported… and sometimes we are nudged to pay attention to one particular thing, even if it seems to have  absolutely no relevance to you, whatsover. Well, this recently happened to me. I was guided towards the Goddess, Aphrodite. I kept pulling her in oracle card readings. I would randomly open to a magazine article that mentioned her. Facebook posts would appear with reference to this Goddess. It all culminated one Friday night. I saw an offer from Marianne Williamson on her facebook page (that was about to expire in less than hour) that said with the purchase of her new book I could get free access to her Aphrodite training…The book didn’t resonate with me (yet) but the training did. BIG time. I didn’t hesitate. I paid and signed-up. I’ve been down this road before enough times to know how to get out of my own way and pay attention to the clear sign-posts from the divine. And it was less than 10 minutes into the first training video that the penny dropped… I understood that quickly why I needed this training. And I’m going to hazard a guess that so many of us women, collectively need a little more Aphrodite too. Aphrodite. Goddess of love, romance, sensuality, sexuality, birth, joy, energy, creativity. Divine Feminine energy… As I dove into this training this is the question(s) that presented itself; Where have we disowned her? Where have we replaced this divine, feeling based feminine energy with the action, the doing, the headiness of the masculine? And why? I’m going to be honest, I’m still in the midst of this training… and, well, still in ‘training’ with Aphrodite. So I’m definitely not sharing this with any expertise. However, what I am learning so far has struck such a deep, primal, almost ancient chord within me that I had to share it. ++ I’ve come to realise lately that the disowning of my inner Aphrodite began many years ago. Striving for success. Building my business. Conforming, to fit in. Aligning with feminist viewpoints (and taking it to the extreme) Focusing on the external world. Living an ‘action’ based life. Ignoring my intuition. Wanting to be seen as a capable woman. Hiding my emotions (so I don’t seem weak). Rejecting my moon cycle. Appropriating masculine ways (of talking, dressing, behaving, working…) Pregnancy, birth and so much of this motherhood journey reconnected me deeply with an inner softness, the energy of feminine magic and goddess nature. I even wrote this blog – Crossing Over From The Head to The Heart – on how I’m learning to live a more heart-based life since becoming a mama. However, there is so much catastrophizing, headi-ness, organising, structure, over-planning, action, doing (instead of being) that comes with motherhood too. And it has done a phenomenal job of muscling its way back in to sideline that beautiful Aphrodite energy. Today I’m in a push-pull game between surrendering into the softness, the love-bubble of motherhood and the divine feminine, with the masculine world of action. Trying to find my power in being ALL things to all people (a great mama, wife, business owner, coach, domestic goddess) sometimes leaves me depleted instead of empowered. Making sure I keep my shit together sometimes feels like I’m striving for a badge of honour. Yet I’ve never felt more delicate, vulnerable and called towards the internal world of stillness. Often I just want to be still. Go inward, retreat. Simultaneously I can feel so fired up, ready to make my dreams a reality, driven to action… The masculine and the feminine – two powerful energies playing all out together. And that’s ok, right? We all have the feminine and masculine energies within us. But truthfully, whether you are a male or a female in our world it’s so much easier to revert into the masculine way of action, strategy, solution, doing, planning, thinking. It is for me at least. ++ Reconnect with the power of your feminine silence; Harness your inner stillness. Since starting this training with Marianne Williamson, there has been one major take-away that keeps playing in my heart on repeat. And this is what I really want to share with you, because it’s really helping me to call Aphrodite in – to invite her to play a bigger role and to find her place within my life with more solidity. Let me explain this idea as simply as I can. Feminine energy is threaded with vulnerability.  That Vulnerability = power. In fact, it it is our power. However, it is a different kind of power from a different source. Underworld vibes. Goddess energy. Mystical almost. This power is magnetic. Internal. Intuitive. Deep. It has an immovable, unshakeable quality. A stillness. A presence. A rawness. This is the true essence of woman. Emotive. Wise. Loving. Nurturing.  As women we reflect, listen, invite in. Now this has really hit home for me – we also offer a place to rest to those that need softness, love, nourishment, tenderness, beauty, joy. A safe place to be vulnerable and raw too. We bring others into our magnetic stillness. We offer healing. The most incredible bit is that the feminine energy can do all that in total silence. Without words. Without a song and dance. There’s no need to ‘do’ anything. The Divine Feminine HOLDS space for your pain, your joy, your vulnerability, your hurt, your happiness, your struggle… The Aphrodite energy of love is powerful. It can move mountains, and create great change. And it can do it simply by harnessing stillness, through silence. By simply being and not doing. We have a voice, and yes we are woman, hear us roar. But maybe we should try whispering a little more, or even saying nothing at all… As I was absorbing this lesson from Marianne, my head was spinning. And my heart was screaming YES! Silence. Sweet surrender into stillness. Presence. The real art of listening. Cracking open in the darkness. I scribbled these words into my journal… “Just because I have a voice that doesn’t mean I always have to use it. It’s time to reconnect […] Read more

It’s all about connection, collaboration and changing lives

It’s all about connection, collaboration and changing lives

Posted June 07, 2016

It was a few weeks back that I shared with you the BIG changes I made in my life and business. As I kicked off a new wellness venture I called out to YOU to invite you to join me. I asked you if you were ready to experience a life of MORE. And gratefully, so many incredible women said yes. They put their hand up to say… Yes, I’m ready for me to come first. I’m prepared to do the work to reach my dreams. I’m willing to collaborate and connect with like-minded women. Now is the time to change my life in health, wealth and to do the same for others. It’s time to live a big, bold, beautiful life. You know what? I’m so blessed to be teaming up with a sisterhood that is no longer willing to play small. Even better, I feel pinch-myself-lucky knowing that I am not going it alone, anymore. I must’ve done something right to be gifted this opportunity. ++ As a Life + Wellness Coach, Yoga Teacher and Blogger I’ve been a solo-entrepreneur for close to six years now. To say that I have expanded, transformed, pushed through limitations and learned so much would be an understatement. However, there has always been one thing missing for me. That one thing is connection and collaboration and changing lives… Let me explain… I am equal parts Introvert and Extrovert. The introverted Claire loves to hide away, working quietly, independently. She also needs to refuel and reboot through quiet time, space, meditation and reflection. Often the introverted Claire can takeover quite a bit – and takeover she did for most of the last 6 years. As I slowly, deliberately, passionately built my online and coaching business I noticed the introverted Claire took centre stage. Honestly, that needed to happen. Head down, heart focused. However, the extroverted Claire is still and always will be a huge part of me. She is social, she is team orientated, she likes to lead a tribe. Extroverted Claire is also passionate about teaching, collaborating, brainstorming and heart storming. In my old life (PR, Journalism, Event Management…) The extroverted Claire sat in the limelight, which clearly explains why, once I started my own business, the introverted version of me decided it was time to own some space. Today, as a mama, coach, blogger, creator, teacher, speaker, entrepreneur, girl boss it’s become so obvious that there is no chance for one or the other (introverted or extroverted) to get more air time. Those equal parts of me are being called into balance now. Those equal parts of me NEED to work synergistically and to collaborate together.  I’ve come to realise there is deep craving, a palpable need to connect, collaborate, team up, support and be supported. The desire to bounce ideas off someone else, to dream together, to build together – this literally gives me heart flutters and lights me up from the inside out! Which is why when I teamed up with some incredible friends and #girlboss babes (Shout outs to Debbie Spellman, Connie Chapman, Valeria Ramirez, Alissa Buttiglieri, Amelia Williams and more…***.) I’ve felt this overwhelming gratitude, joy and excitement to be in collaboration, deeply connected, supported and held in life and biz by this Sisterhood! [*** Seriously, there are TOO many incredible women to mention here. AND YES, I seriously get to collaborate with these sisters!) I no longer feel like I am the only one fighting my corner, or that I have to go it alone. I have this beautiful space – claireobeid.com – where I get to satisfy and nurture that introvert in me. Here I am able to teach, share authentically, blog, coach, create beautiful gifts and connect with you. Now, I have this beautiful wellness business – a side hustle that nourishes ME and so many others – where I team up with a powerhouse collective of kick-ass girl boss babes. We are making waves, we are shaking things up. We are spreading health and wealth as far as we can. We are OWNING it. ++ So, this is where you come into it… We are growing our team. We are looking for that next incredible soul who is ready to step up. We are keeping our eyes peeled for that special someone who is ready to join our tribe. I am currently taking applications because we, as a team, want legit, real deal women who are seriously keen to bust through their upper limit beliefs and to take their life by the horns (thrash it about some) and get a seriously juicy life in the process. Let me ask you this:  Do you currently have a business but truthfully you’re living month to month? Do you want abundance, finally. Do you want to keep following your passions but without the hustle to make ends meet? Are you unhappy in your job/work? Do you want to own your life, your hours, your time? Do you want to do something that feels BIG and special and makes an impact? Are you tired of the travel, the long hours, the soul-less work? Do you want freedom, success and abundance and TIME. Do you want to be your own #girlboss? Do you want to team up with empowered women who are LIT up with passion and drive? Do you want to be part of a sisterhood with a shared vision? Do you want to be coached and mentored by industry leaders ALL whilst growing your business? Do you want to make a difference? Do you care about changing the lives of others for the better? Do you naturally influence, lead, walk your talk? Finally, are you ready to help others live BIG and for you to do the same. So if you answered a big fat YES to those questions. And if you are ready to team up, collaborate and connect... If more health and wealth is calling you… And the chance to seriously change the lives of others then I want to speak with you. Seriously. I’ll share more information with those who are ready to […] Read more

Lead with the positive. The struggle doesn’t make you worthy.

Lead with the positive. The struggle doesn’t make you worthy.

Posted May 31, 2016

Struggle doesn’t make you worthy. Before you jump on me, no, I’m not saying that if you are going through a tough time that you are unworthy. I’m saying something completely different. I’m highlighting that we, as a collective, glorify the negative, the struggle, the hard times instead of choosing to lead with the positive. Let me be SUPER CLEAR HERE – if you are going through a really challenging time (the spectrum for ‘challenging’ is so wide) please know that I am 100% for taking a good hard look at the shadows… feeling all the feels from the pain to the anger and beyond. We cannot honour this human existence without being authentic and real with where we are at. But this post is not about embracing the shadows. It’s about learning to not get entangled in them and making the detrimental choice to, day after day, lead with our struggles. Many of us ‘front up’ to life peering through the lens of the negative, me included. And I think it’s time to choose differently. ++ At the end of the day when you are chatting to your partner (or your bestie or your mum) about your day what is your ‘default’ summary of the day that was? How do you package up your day? What attitude threads through your review of how the day unfolded? Does it go a little something like this: “Oh god, I’m so tired. Today was hectic.” or maybe… “Yeah, I’m ok. So glad today is over. I can’t believe how many things went wrong” or if you’re a full time mama/papa maybe this sounds more familiar… “I’m done. Today was a complete mess. Bub threw more than my fair share of tantrums, wouldn’t eat lunch and flat out refused to sleep…” ++ So this is my recent pondering – Why do we always run a highlight reel of everything that went wrong? Why do we always lead first with the struggle? This is something I noticed myself doing a few months back and it’s been a slow, steady road towards changing that, since then. So, hear me out here while I flesh this out… I absolutely do not think it’s worthwhile to avoid and disregard those moments of sheer frustration and irritating challenges that we face, daily. Sometimes it feels good to share it, get it off our chest and be done with it. It feels good to get it all out. But that’s exactly the point – being ‘DONE with it’ should happen not far after the moment. Yet we file them away and take a ‘count’ of all the struggle moments we’ve had as if it’s a honourable badge of self worth and effort. Almost as if it’s a measure of how hard we worked that day and therefore how valuable we are. On a sub conscious level, many of us are running this program, this belief that struggle equates to value. The more challenging and crazy busy the day the more kudos and brownie points we receive. We did good, we fought the good fight. The tougher I did it, the more worthy I am.  I’ve often found myself feeling guilty for the good times. I’ve noticed that sometimes, when I go to tell my husband that the day I just had was amazing, exciting, inspiring. Or just simply, nice. Why do I feel guilty? Aren’t we all out for a slice of happiness? Don’t we deserve that and also want that happiness for our loved ones? Or, even worse still, something else I’ve noticed is that the tougher the day the more sorry we can feel for ourselves… and the more we then believe someone else should fill us up with love. We want to be recognised for how hard we’ve worked and how we’ve struggled. This recognition, temporarily makes us feel good enough… ++ What I’ve come to learn is this; It doesn’t make you a better person (or better at being a mum, at your job etc) to be fighting and struggling all day, it doesn’t make you a bad person either. Your worth is not measured in how hard you are doing it. It won’t make you feel any better to be perpetually focused on the negatives. It might feel good to get it off your chest, but it certainly will not lift you up and into the light It is no one else’s responsibility to fill in the empty gaps with thick layers of happiness and love to cover up and make up for the frustration, exhaustion or anger you are feeling. It never satisfies your soul to seek recognition, love and approval from others. This is our ego hunting for love in the external world. Yes, an admirable goal, but one that is simply just a shell of what you are truly looking for. It’s not fair to dump the worst of you on the people that deserve the best of you. Time to reframe and find a new way to be in your day: Let’s start with this truth… Your worth is based on WHO you are. Which is a beautiful soul. You are worthy simply for existing. Ok, got that? Good.. you might not believe it yet, but start to tune into this universal truth. You are worthy. Just because. Now, when it comes to going about your day and being your precious human self know this… How you choose to respond, be and behave in the light of happiness or the shadows of struggle is what really matters. It’s not about what is actually happening. The context, ultimately is irrelevant, because some things never change and some things are constantly changing… What do I mean by this? Soleil, for the moment, is always going to be teething, throwing public displays of protest (read: tantrums) and just being her toddler self. So, if that is my reality for now, my focus should be on how I respond, behave, be, act, think within this context as opposed to focusing […] Read more

Find Your Tribe

Find Your Tribe

Posted May 24, 2016

It’s time to find your tribe. Find your collective, your crew. Connection is a deep soul craving that will nourish and cradle you. This is the message my base chakra kept sending me. Granted, my base chakra needed a lot of work after pregnancy and birth and a key element to rebuilding my base chakra was to really zone in on the areas I most felt depleted in. Or where I felt ‘lack’ or weakness. Through meditation and self-reflection married with my understanding of what the base chakra represents I came to truly know what was needed to rebuild this vital, foundational energy centre. Amongst the mess of my finances, career, feeling grounding, home life and structure the stand out was finding and being part of a tribe. They say it takes a village to raise a child and I now know that to be the most on-point statement around motherhood ever. For many of us we don’t have that village vibe. You might not live close to your family. Or perhaps, like me, you do live very close but for various reasons you can’t lean on them as much as you want to. Or perhaps they don’t quite satisfy you on a soul level. Gratefully, as I worked on rebuilding my base chakra through meditation and energy work, my base started working for me. Calling in situations, circumstances, people to guide me home to my tribe. The importance of connection As I’ve shared many times before, the first 3-4 months of Soleil’s life was so challenging it truly catapulted me into a different space, time, dimension. [BTW if you want to hear more about those early months of mama hood for me, head HERE to listen to my podcast interview with Amy Taylor-Kabbaz] It was this cataclysmic, seismic shift that drew me into an isolated bubble. I wasn’t able to make it to Mother’s Group for months. My parents were away overseas for 3 months. My sisters were busy with their children and fighting virus after virus – which meant I couldn’t see them for most of last winter. One day, I had 30 minutes to myself so I headed straight down to the beach for a walk. I spotted a mother’s group and something dragged me over to them. Their babies looked the same age as Soleil. And despite the tears literally welling up in my eyes and jamming my throat I gingerly approached them. Now, if you know me well enough by now you’ll probably balk at the idea that I did anything ‘gingerly’… it’s not my style at all. I’m more the direct/opinionated/confident type (with a decent helping of introvert thrown into the mix). But, as described I was isolated, all out of whack energetically and in a really dark place. So gingerly, nervously, is how I approached these beautiful women. They saw me coming. They smiled over at me. All the while I was thinking ‘Claire, what are you doing?!’… and yet I was propelled forward, my feet moved, my voice opened and I started talking… I mumbled something about never being able to attend Mother’s Group. I quickly shared that Soleil was a very unsettled baby but I’d love to come to the next meet-up. These women looked liked they had their shit together – a big leap from where I was in that moment. And it terrified me – comparisonitis kicked in, but yet still… I kept going. Something greater than me with more knowing powered through me in that moment. They were so warm. So loving. So gracious and patient. Many months later I personally thanked one of those mamas who, particularly, had been so inviting and compassionate to me. She told me that she saw how broken I was but she was impressed that I had reached out to them. That meant a lot to me – to know that she could really ‘see’ me in that moment and chose to respond from her heart. This Mother’s Group became the beginning of a massive realisation. It was my base chakra that dragged me over to them – to give me a taste of what sisterhood felt like. To remind me that sharing experiences and connection was vital to my soul happiness.  I did my best to attend these groups weekly and the women were (are!) all incredible, loving and straight-up good eggs. But there was something missing for me, although I never placed my finger on it. Find Your Tribe It wasn’t until one late winter’s day that I took Soleil out, in the ergo baby, for a walk to a local cafe. Underneath this beautiful little oasis of trees I passed by another mama carrying her hub. We smiled at each other. And just as we were about to pass each other, her beautiful bubba and my little sunbeam reached out to each other. Those little, chubby fingers stretching out wanting to grab hold of each other. They kicked and giggled. We practically did the same. The connection was and still is real. Myself and this other mama stood there chatting in the way that only mamas do. Hurried, excited, jumping from one thing to another in an effort to learn and absorb as much of each other as possible. It’s almost like speed-dating. 3 minutes to decide (before your babies start whinging to move on) if this woman is your type of mama. I knew instantly – she intrigued me. She is so different to me yet so aligned. We exchanged numbers. And from that day on I bumped into her and saw her everywhere. We eventually found a groove and started catching up with mama/baby play dates. Not long after that in late spring down at the beach with countless babies and mamas at the kids pool I found myself talking to one particular mama. I trust my intuition implicitly and on reflection I can see again how I was sub consciously gravitating towards certain energies. This mama is into health, wellness, spirituality. She is so generous – […] Read more

Mini Mindful Moments for your monkey mind

Mini Mindful Moments for your monkey mind

Posted May 07, 2016

Experiment with these Three Mini Mindful Moments Have you noticed how many thoughts you can have at any given time? Sometimes I’m blown away by my minds ability to layer thought, on top of thought. I could be thinking of Soleil, and what to make her for dinner. Simultaneously I’m considering my next client coaching session, whilst reminding myself to book my new biz launch calls into my diary. And truthfully, I’m certain there are many more layers than this. So it’s easy to see why being present and mindful is such a challenge. Our minds are powerhouses of energy, processes, thoughts. Our minds are divine and incomprehensibly talented super computers. It often feels futile to even attempt to out-smart it and find mental stillness and clarity. But we must. We must try to find that soft state of presence. We must, as often as possible – and even if it’s a fleeting millisecond moment – find a moment of peace within the mental chatter. Why? Because those pockets of peace and quiet are a direct line to our inner truth. Our higher voice resides in those gaps between our thoughts. And in there we have access to our highest potential, a well-pool of creativity (hence why, just as your falling asleep you can have some of those sparky, bright ideas!), a pathway to our intuition. Those still points in the spinning whirlpool of our minds tap us into our soul-voice.  ++ Mindfulness is at the core of many spiritually focused practise. The crux of buddhism, and a commonly shared anti-dote to the monkey mind. But how can we bring mindfulness into our everyday? Today I want to share with you 3 MINI MINDFUL MOMENTS within short increments of time where you can invite mindfulness into your life and experiment playfully in that space of stillness. Try these and comment below, letting me your experience with you. Or better still, share some of your own tried and tested ways to practice mindfulness. 5 MINI MINDFUL MOMENTS 1) 5 Minutes: Brush your teeth + wash your face At the end of the day as you stand at your wash basin ready to brush your teeth and wash your face can you make a conscious choice to clear your mind and bring FULL attention to the task at hand. Squeezing the toothpaste onto your toothbrush. Carefully and with focus brush your teeth. Focus on the sensation, the texture, the temperature. Do the same as your rinse your mouth and move onto wash your face. Whatever is part of your ‘regime’ pay as much attention to each tiny element and detail. As your mind wonders bring yourself back to the present and feel into each moment again. 3) 15 MINUTES: Eat a meal When you sit down to eat your meal choose to silence your phone and put away all electronic devises. If you can, choose to eat alone. Here, bring full attention to your meal. Before you take the first mouthful gaze upon your meal. Look at the colours. Note the shapes and textures. What do you smell? How do you feel as you prepare to eat. Then begin to eat. One mouthful at a time, fork and spoon down between each mouthful. Chew slowly. Deliberately. Notice with your FULL body the tastes, textures, aromas. Pay attention to the environment you are in. Notice your posture as you eat and how your body responds. Slow down between each mouthful. PAUSE. Eat as if there was no time. Eat as if this was your last meal. 3) 30 MINUTES: Go for a walk Again, alone if you can. Head out for a walk. No phone, no music. Just you, the fresh air, sunshine. Be in mother nature… head to a park, or to the water’s edge. Wherever you can that connects you to the divine mother. Walk slowly. Carefully. Zone your attention into what you hear first – close by and then further afield Slowly move your attention to your body. Your feet, take one step at a time. The way your arms gently swap. Breathe. Deeply. Where do you feel that breath in your body? How does the air feel as it fills your lungs? How do you feel as you walk, consciously? Notice your surroundings. Are there animals? Birds? Children playing? Try not to follow thought patterns and create stories, but notice something and move on. Note and move on. ++ Mindfulness is a powerful tool that, when practised within your daily life, will invite in a deeper sense of presence, calm and inner stillness. If you don’t always have the time to sit down and do a dedicated, seated meditation learning to invite in moments of mindfulness will transform you from being captive to your mind and inner chatter, to being empowered to choose what you wish to think and when. Your mind doesn’t have to rule you. In fact, your are in charge and can run the show. Here’s to a day ahead of presence and peace. Love + light, Claire x Read more


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