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Audio Blog: A simple practice to help you fall in love with your body

Audio Blog: A simple practice to help you fall in love with your body

Posted July 27, 2017

Falling in love with your body I’m not going to sugar coat this. Falling in love with my ‘new’ body since becoming a mama is something I have to work at. There are softer, stretched bits. Jiggly bit. Wider bits. All ‘bits’ I didn’t have before. Throw in LIFE and not as much time as I used to and the result is a woman working out less, eating differently and looking very differently too. Yes, I’ve gone from a size 6, toned, yogi body, to a size 8. Softer. More womanly. And definitely still healthy and strong. Nothing to complain about, but nevertheless it’s been a shock. It was a surprise when I realised, two years later that I STILL couldn’t fit into 95% of my old clothes. It was a surprise when I saw pictures of myself and almost said “who’s that?” It is still a surprise when I do a headstand in yoga and I can feel the weight of my stretched belly dropping down. But more than that, it’s a surprise to hear myself talk about my body negatively, out loud. How cruel (and not OK!) to speak so harshly about this divine vessel that gives me the chance to have such a brilliant human experience. Including the miracle of creating, birthing and nurturing life. So, beautiful women (and I hope a few good men too!) this audio blog is for you. It was for me too. And it’s not just for mamas. It’s for ALL women who have every spoken, felt, thought RUDE and degrading thoughts about their own divine bodies. love + light, Claire xx Read more

what would happen if you created more white space in your life?

what would happen if you created more white space in your life?

Posted July 06, 2017

Recently I shared a bit about me – how I do things, juggle life, biz and motherhood and other random insights from behind the scenes of my world. I also riffed on Instagram Stories about how important it is to consciously carve out time to turn off from the busyness of our lives when it’s obvious that it’s time to! You know those moments, don’t you? When you are exhausted and no amount of ‘pushing through’ is going to help. Or how about when you are trying to power through an all-nighter in the creative cave – despite the fact that your creative juice has long since dried up. Since that last newsletter and that Instagram Story (p.s come connect with me – @claireowellness – if you’d like more BTS, tips, insights and random shares from me!) I’ve been percolating on another layer to all of that… CREATING SPACE. With my husband travelling a lot right now – solo parenting, PHWOAR! – it’s called a lot into question. Where are the stressors? Are they urgent and important? What if they were handled differently. What if I created more space – despite a busy, always moving life, what is SPACIOUSNESS for me? Spaciousness in motion. Space. Doing less. Less on the to-do-list. What am I talking about? Well there has been a really strong feeling within me that the ‘amount’ that I am doing these days – motherhood, coaching, writing, workshops, building a new essential oil business, running a household, trying to be a present wife –  is actually working against a huge desire in me that has been building. That desire is all about sitting in and experiencing a deeper sense of PEACE. Uncomplicated. Clear. Present. Instead of being busy for the sake of it, what would it feel like to not be busy? Instead of filling the white space in my life (which is already limited) how would it feel to gaze upon a clear(er) diary? Instead of asking myself ‘what else could I do?’ what if I asked ‘what if I did less?’ The thing is – these questions are hitting me at the perfect time of year. We are mid-way 2017. A year that has unfolded with so many experiences I couldn’t have scripted – all perfect, beautiful and necessary but generally challenging. So asking these questions right now is forcing me to look at this year and my current season of life with compassion, softness and a little more realism that I perhaps was willing to admit before. Yet, these questions bring up some ugly, ego fears too. What will I throw away if I create more space? How will this affect me, finances, my business, my relationships (etc)? What will I actually do with more white space? Can I actually handle surrendering into spaciousness? +++ I’ve yet to CULL anything from my life just yet. But I have already stopped filling it up. As I write out my list of work/tasks for the week ahead (I do this between Friday – Sunday) I am not searching for or deliberately adding in anything without it being scrutinised.How important is this ‘task’? What if I didn’t DO this right now? What if I let this one file away in my mind for a little while. This is happening for small things like buying/reading a new book or listening to a new podcast. To the larger components like a new digital product. Already I feel a little clearer about what I am meant to focus on – what feels best for my soul to work on and do and what doesn’t. +++ Let me reflect this back to you; Can you take the above questions (and below) and ask yourself the same. What if you created more white space in your life? Where would that sit, how would it feel, what would happen? Does that feel good for you? What if you only gave energy to the things, tasks, people, experiences that lit you up? love + light, Claire xx Read more

my life behind the scenes … the juggle and ALL!

my life behind the scenes … the juggle and ALL!

Posted June 29, 2017

my life behind the scenes… the juggle and all. I saw an Instagram post the other day from a beautiful, fellow coach I love and admire. She was sharing how she works throughout the month – how she needs a lot of alone time, how she works around her moon cycle. And how she doesn’t have a desk, rocks clients and juicy writing sessions and starts work (and finishes ) late.P.s her name is Claire Baker. I highly recommend you connect with her – particularly her work on learning to “Adore Your Cycle” It was a lovely post because it gave us an insight into life behind the scenes. Let’s be honest, we all love a sneaky peek behind the curtains. It made me contemplate how different things are now, running a business arounda toddler. It’s something I always planned back in 2010 when I was dreaming up my coaching/online business. I knew one day I would be in this place. But this place is completely different to the business I was running 2.5 years ago. Today I don’t have the luxury of working around my cycle, or having dance breaks, or going into the creative cave for long (Gosh, I do miss all of that!) Because I have to squeeze in my coaching around my days with Soleil and my husband’s schedule. Juggle is an understatement. But on deeper reflection I can see that I do have my own ‘way’ of doing things… constantly adjusting and tweaking to the ever changing demands of motherhood. Yet there is still a sort of rhythm. It’s messy and it’s never set in concrete… but I want to share this with you. Perhaps it might give you some little nugget that will support you in your own ‘JUGGLE’.++ As much as possible I get up by 5:30am. This only began once Soleil started sleeping through at 21-ish months. I meditate – usually a chakra or mantra meditation. I then hit my yoga mat – which is always rolled out in the living room – for a Kundalini flow or a I do a 20 minute Barre Body Online Class. If there is time I will oil pull and tongue clean or neti-pot. This definitely doesn’t happen as often as I want to I always start my day with a cup of warm water, lemon, ACV and coconut oil– sometimes a drop of doTERRA Lemon Essential Oil too. Lately I’ve been experimenting with BulletProof Coffee and fasting till 12. It’s working so far. I try not to, but spend most of the morning flitting between rooms tidying, prepping for our morning outing, making breakfast, putting on/hanging out laundry, showering. I hate to admit it but sometimes I fall into the trap of ‘doing’ too much and not ‘being’… Motherhood especially has exasperated this. So my morning is often a battle between the two. Presence, definitely feels so much better. I look forward to nap time like a newborn baby wants the boob! Once Soleil is down I get to breathe for a moment. I start with lunch. Usually I cook and eat it whilst watching a little bit of netflix. 15 minutes max. Then I hit my desk. I look at my diary so I know exactly what I’m meant to tackle that day. And I tackle it. But then again, sometimes I don’t. Like when I’m exceptionally tired, run down, or just not feeling it and everything is saying STOP. NO MORE. DO LESS. I listen. Despite the limited time I have, if it’s not URGENT and NOT IMPORTANT, then, well I cut the guilt story and find another time to do it. I love by my google calendar. Everything is scheduled – from morning meditation, time with Soleil, coaching clients, yoga classes, workshops, appointments. I use this calendar when I sit down anytime between Friday and Sunday to write out my weekly list to dos – this includes self-care. What do I know I need in the coming week to support me? I then look at this list an jot down the tasks directly into my diary on the days I need to action them. Both sit on my desk. Always. Every Friday when Soleil goes to daycare it’s a big day of work, but a new non-negotiable for me is that I must do something special just for me. Sometimes it’s a facial, often it’s a long yoga class. This is also the day my cleaner comes. Hooray! She bangs around the house scrubbing and dusting. I LOVE the way the house feels after she’s finished. I am tidy, but hate scrubbing. I also don’t iron. Like, you’d have to pay me. I am often having to juggle/reschedule my calendar. Surrender. My husband is currently travelling… a lot. That is a whole seperate email. But it means really supporting him and being as flexible ( literally and mentally) as I can. Which I sometimes suck at. I’m the kind of person that really needs a lot of alone time… and having a toddler at me ALL DAY really drains me. (It also brings out my playful, inner child too!) So I really have to consciously carve out that alone time. That might be closing the door and hibernating on the weekend during nap time. Or going to an early yoga class and not saying a word to anyone. Or disconnecting from Social Media because it drains me and makes me feel ‘switched on’ all the time. Business wise, I’m really over the game of creating, launching, and pedalling. I just want to write. Connect. Share. Host beautiful workshops and circles. Right now I don’t feel very entrepreneurial. I have a desk, squeezed into our bedroom. With my office long gone when Soleil was born. I don’t love it, it’s not my ideal, but at least there is one contained space to store my business paraphernalia. Right now I’m drafting this whilst my little one is alternating between jumping on the couch beside me and giving me cuddles. And yes, the TV is on (which I feel guilty about, […] Read more

reprogram your mind + choose a different pathway

reprogram your mind + choose a different pathway

Posted June 29, 2017

reprogram your mind and choose a different pathway… Every physical ailment is a manifestation of stored emotions. My god, I believe this at my very core. I grew up witnessing my mother’s health deteriorate almost INSTANTLY when something happened that would emotionally rattle her. My father’s poor health (despite years of clean living!) is linked to a broken heart from childhood. I see it in myself… Years of Irritable Bowl Syndrome caused by years of anxiety and pent up stress. An ectopic heartbeat because I wasn’t ‘listening’ to the truth within me. A sore throat when my authentic voice isn’t given space. Now, my lovely, don’t go freaking out that everything you do or don’t do/say/think is going to make you sick. That is definitely NOT the take-away I want you to hold on to. However, the more you start to respect the connection between you mind-body-soul, the more capable you are of coming back into health, vitality, alignment, joy, flow when you are thrown off course. For me, this truth lights me up. It empowers me and makes me feel confident that I can work WITH my emotions, with my body, with my truth and every other TOOL that resonates with me to live in health and happiness. But wait up, what exactly are emotions? At the Emotions + Essential Oils training I did last weekend the teacher broke it down like this: Emotions = Chemical Responses in the brain and body that are short lived. Emotions are biological responses to chemical processes in our body. Mood = State of Mind of predominant, ever present emotion. And the origins of these emotions? Guess what – they are actually chemical, biological and spiritual. The food we eat, the environment we are in, the stuff we put on our bodies, the practices we do (or don’t do), the experiences we’ve had or are having, the memories and the thoughts all effect how we FEEL. These emotional responses are physical reactions triggered by chemicals in the brain! Think about it like this. I have a serotonin deficiency (figured this out years ago after years of digestive troubles). If I eat poorly, hide away from the sun for too long, skip meditation, don’t move my body regularly, or breathe in/put toxic chemicals on or in my body then I feel miserable. (Not to mention the cycles of the moon, our own cycle as women and the weather!) Sad. Flat. Emotional. In a funk. (Which is why I do my best to live a clean, high vibe, conscious life). There are a few other things that get thrown into the mix. Generational Patterning (depression may run in the family line), past traumas and childhood conditioning. Gosh when you put it all like that it can seem all too hard to ‘cope’ with life. But it’s not. Actually, it’s quite simple. If we want to live FULL, healthy, vital, beautiful lives then we simply have to commit to one thing….Reprograming your mind. Ha. Simple, right? The brain has neural pathways that are laid down from day dot. And the brain will always choose the most well-worn pathways. The roads are already laid out, why would you choose to go off the grid? Repeated negative emotional experiences from the past (even past lives, generational stories) mean that your brain interprets new experiences and dishes out the appropriate response emotionally (often fear, frustration, anger, sadness) via chemical and then physical responses. WOAH. So my beautiful friend, this means we must actually go off the grid using positive stimulus and triggers to lay down new pathways. We must TRAIN our brain to create and walk NEW pathways. New roads. NEW WAYS of doing things. New ways of seeing the world, situations, people, stories, experiences. Get this…When things are falling apart. When you can’t lose that weight. When you are struggling to stick to your work. When you are always doing exactly what you SAY you don’t want to – it’s actually not you, it’s your neural pathways. It’s your patterning. It’s the roadmap already created. Those neural pathways ARE NOT set in stone. They are plastic. They are changeable. Time to uncreate them and choose a different road. HOW? This is where the simple comes into play – Reach for positive stimulus. Turn to NEW ways of living, being, thinking. Reprogram by forcing your brain to do things differently. + Meditation + Journaling. + Coaching. + EFT. + Kinesiology. + Bodywork + Movement. + Essential Oils. + Nature time. + Conscious living. + Clean Eating. Sometimes you need the big guns like EFT, Coaching or Healing work or other tools to really shock those pathways into action. But over time as you constantly chip away and choose to do things differently you will find you think, behave and BE differently. +++The question to ask yourself is this; are you ready to diligently show up to change it up? Only you will know when you are ready to start reprogramming your mind and therefore your LIFE. love + light, Claire xx Read more

Are you open to trying something new?

Are you open to trying something new?

Posted June 29, 2017

are you open to trying something new  Do you remember when I shared a little while back about the life-changing, almost super-natural spiritual experience I had? I wrote a post about the experiences I had at Belinda Davidson’s Shadow Working Workshop. That experience changed me. Deeply. On a cellular level, energetic plane and in spiritual understanding of what I’m doing, where I’m out of alignment and what needed to change. This insanely BIG experience at the shadow workshop actually left me in a state of shock (not unlike PTSD) and a little numb from the ‘bigness’ of what unfolded. It took me three months to fully integrate what had happened (physically, emotionally, mentally and energetically) and it’s taken me that much time to SEE and LEARN what I needed to. It’s been a wild few months to say the least. You might have noticed, beautiful people, that my focus and direction has shifted slightly in life and business. Through the revelation of where I am out of alignment and the shadow blocks within me I was gifted deep clarity and understanding. It has just brought me back into alignment. In order to understand this shift there is something we have to be clear on – what exactly IS my alignment? (A good question we should always be asking ourselves). Empowered Wellness. Tools to support the mind, body and soul. Inside-out well-being. Holistic Health. Working with mama nature. Spiritual Awareness Working with your wisdom When I am aligned, in both play and work, I harness tools that I have come to passionately believe in – these tools bring me and my clients back to health, vitality, lightness, joy, clarity, vibrancy. It literally LIGHTS ME UP to LEARN and discover more ways to support the mind, body and soul. What are (some of) those tools? Meditation EFT (tapping) Journaling Chakra Work Clean Eating Chemical free living Yoga + Breathwork Holding circle for women That is my alignment. This is what makes me feel aligned. This is what helping others ‘align’ is all about. During this wild journey of self-discovery – as I came face to face with some serious truths, shadows and limiting beliefs – and I had a few clear visions and realisation. During meditations or white light sessions I would often SEE myself in past lives, working with bottles, healing with my hands, using concotions and ointments to support those in pain or those sick. I also discovered that in many (in fact, most) of my past lives I have been a healer/midwife/witch/doula/herbologist of some sort. It’s threaded into the DNA of my soul. So, when something NEW came along in my life a few months back it quickly shone a light on all that wasn’t in alignment and that I had to let go of. I absolutely HAD to be open to trying something new. To change with the energy shifting within me. And in doing so I’ve created the space to learn more, explore more and now I can share MORE. +++ This ‘something NEW’ that has forced me into soul-alignment and has added a new dimension to my LIFE and business is the powerful, potent and precious doTERRA Essential Oils. You know what? I’m going to lay it all on the table – full, raw honesty. I battled SO much with INVITING doTERRA into my business.Why? Why did I battle so much? My fear-based, ego chatter might give you an insight. It went something like this: Everyone else is doing it. It’s a saturated market. You’d be doing something that is kinda old news by now. It’s going to be SO much extra work for you. You don’t have the time for another ‘project’ or tool. What will everyone think of you? +++ Sometimes when we are called to something it often doesn’t make sense. It often can fill a long list of ‘CONS’ when weighing it all up. Yet, the feeling… that intuitive pull asking you to SAY YES and follow through. Well, that is so strong you can’t say no, even if you want to. Not to mention that I love learning. When I find something that really tugs at my soul I can’t help but to dive in more – to learn more, to school up on it. Are you like that too? I’ve played with the oils in my home, for my own self-care, for my little family. For friends and beyond. And I’ve fallen in love. They are part of my ‘tool-kit’ now. I’ve seen these oils calm a crazy toddler down and boost her immune system. They’ve brightened my skin and healed hormonal breakouts. These oils have taken me deeper into meditation. And healed cuts and bruises. They help us transition from play to bedtime And have carried me through some intense spiritual experiences. They’ve added depth, flavour and so much more to my food! My home is chemical free replaced with all-natural homemade cleaning products The list goes on – non toxic, pure and direct from Mama Earth.  +++ So this is me, now, announcing with such PRIDE and JOY that I am now a passionate Essential Oil user and sharer. I have been for a while now, I’m just officially ‘coming out’. They are beautifully weaving into my coaching work, EFT sessions in our live Mama Workshops and beyond. I am so excited to bring them to YOU too. The real question is, are you OPEN to trying and experiencing something new? Read more

My favourite, natural ways to heal a cold

My favourite, natural ways to heal a cold

Posted May 26, 2017

Cold and Flu season is here – at least it is in Australia. My husband keeps bringing things home from work. (Side note if you are sick and work in an office don’t be a martyr, stay at home and heal please!) Now throw in a toddler who puts everything in her mouth and day care germs and you’ve got a lovely petri dish for all things viral. Today I want to share some really practice tips with you to support you and your family through winter. These are all tried and tested tips that I use often to help myself, hubby and our little one to heal when we are run down. You will most likely know of a few of these, or maybe you’ve forgotten to implement them daily. I hope either way you print this and keep it on file. Coughs: Dry coughs respond really well to fresh THYME TEA. Simply simmer on the stove for 5-10 minutes. Strain, serve with lemon and honey and drink up. Try also THYME ESSENTIAL OIL mixed with a carrier oil and rubbed onto the soles of the feet and chest (safe for children too!) Thyme is a natural expectorant – meaning it helps to break down and loosen up mucus so you can cough it up. Niiiiicee. MARSHMALLOW ROOT OR GLYCETRACT comes in a liquid form from your naturopath or local health dispensary (e.g About Life in Sydney does this). It’s a mucilage which means it helps to break down mucuous and release it – which is vital when trying to heal and clear a cough. ONION is renowned for having its own super powers in that it can draw out toxins and bacteria that are airborne. When anyone is my family is really struggling with a cough I’ll place a peeled, halved white or brown onion in a bowl by the bedside. Yes it smells (but the diffuser going all night usually covers the smell) but it works wonders. You can also use onion in your own homemade cough syrup – there are plenty of recipes online but my favourite uses Olive Oil, Onion, Honey, Thyme, Garlic. It’s potent and it works!  Congestion A good respiratory essential oil blend that features eucalyptus, peppermint, tea tree like doTERRA’s EASY AIR is a fantastic way to open up the airways to encourage breathing. It’s like vapo-rub but yummier and is diffused in my daughters room all night (with a drop of lavender for restful sleep) Snotty-One or the Nose Frida are an absolutely must-have for little kids that can’t blow their nose. It helps to ‘suck’ the snot (lovely) out of their nose preventing upper respiratory infections, ear infections and challenged breathing which happens when we can’t blow or clear our nose!) Neti Pot Cleansing is phenomenal for clearing the airways and unblocking the nasal passages. You’ll need a net pot to do this but the basic recipe is: 500 mls boiled water (allow it to cool to lukewarm before you use it) with 1 flat tsp of Himalayan salt dissolved in it. One drop of Pure Tea Tree Oil will also do wonders at killing any bugs and bacteria living in your nasal passage as well! That is enough water to cleanse from both nostrils. Colds, Sore Throats When i feel myself coming down with a cold or a sore throat is building I will take Manuka Honey with 1 drop of doTERRA’s ON GUARD (protective blend that features cinnamon, eucalyptus, rosemary, close bud, wild orange) three times a day. Also safe for little children to take as well. Massaging On Guard into the soles of feet, throat and spine with a carrier oil is also a great immune booster. Freshly squeezed lemon + ACV + 1 tsp of coconut oil in warm water also helps to build your immune system, cleanse and detox your system as well. Coconut Oil is anti-bacterial and a natural anti-biotic. And ACV fights bacteria amongst thousands of other things. Two weeks ago I was most certainly a day or so away from tonsillitis. I was in bed by 5pm and struggling to talk due to my swollen, sore throat. I did the above as well as gargle LEMON and OREGANO Essential Oil. I also took a few doses of Vitamin C, Arma Force (from BioCeuticals, this stuff is amazing!) and Zinc and the next day I was 95% back to health. That’s pretty impressive! +++ I hope these little tips help you throughout the cold and flu season to support yourself and your family naturally. There are so many other things we can do to boost our immune system (like meditation, EFT, exercise, clean eating, regular detoxing, avoiding alcohol etc!) but at least you can set yourself up with a natural ‘medicine’ cabinet ready to tackle the bugs when they show face! Love + light to you, Claire xx P.s If you want to learn MORE about Essential Oils for yourself and your family please email me. I’m now including Essential Oils in my offering to my clients and tribe and after years of personal use and months of study I would love to support you to harness the power of mother nature for your own wellbeing. Read more

Your 6 month review

Your 6 month review

Posted May 19, 2017

2017 – Your 6 month review…what is the state of play so far? And where to from here? 2017 has been intense for me so far. Ha, when is it not? In all seriousness though, 2017 has been intense in a different way. I was going to write ‘HUGE LESSONS’ but actually it’s been more about deep spiritual shifts and more than one ‘bitch-slap’ from the universe.Have you felt that too? I want to say I’m on the other side of it – my god I’m ready for lightness and happy-happy-joy-joy – but I don’t think I have much say in it, really. There’s some powerful decoding going on. Old programs and belief systems, clearing out things I don’t need or that don’t align. This kind of work is not quick and painless. And whilst I do feel like I am getting glimpses of the light, playful energy I love about LIFE I’m not out of the woods yet. And that’s OK. It has to be. What else can it be, but OK? Surrender taught me that lesson. It is OK because it just IS. What is helping though is a little process I’m bringing back into play – one that I think you’ll love and resonate with. I’m going to start the process of REVIEWING the last 6 months – January to May. Following that, as June rolls around I’m going to consciously CREATE the next 6 months of 2017. Shuffling and aligning my goals, dreams and focal points around how I actually feel, what I’ve discovered and where my heart wants to go. P.s I have some realisations already coming through – and some of them include a BIG change in my work – but more on me another time. This is about YOU. It’s time to review So here’s how it goes. I ask myself a series of questions and journal out the answers. Usually with a lovely essential oil (current face is doTERRA Elevation – joyful blend!) diffusing, a few oracle cards laid out, some nice music in the background (and my toddler climbing all over me!) 1) What has happened over the last 6 months – and how has it affected me (the way I feel, how I’ve behaved, what I’ve done)? 2) What are the realisations? If any? 3) What have I struggled with, and why? 4) What have I learned, so far? 5) What could I have done differently? Where was I out of alignment? 6) What has really worked and brought me into alignment? Really review your year with a fine-tooth comb and explore what felt heavy, light, aligned, contracted. Be ruthless and objective. Look at it ALL with clear eyes and non-attachment. It’s time to create Looking forward, with the last 6 months as a reference point, it’s time to ask yourself these questions. 1) What are my set-in-stone plans over the next 6 months? And how do I want to feel when I experience them? How do I see these plans playing out? 2) What are my current goals? What do I intend to experience, do, reach for? 3) What would feel REALLY GOOD? What would bring me into alignment with my values and make my feel congruent with life? 4) How should I proceed? What action do I take and when? 5) What’s MISSING in my life now that I absolutely must include over the next 6 months? 6) What would really LIGHT me up to see happen? +++++ Take note of these questions my love if you’d like to review your year, so far. Or better still, please download and print this little journal guide I just whipped up. DOWNLOAD JOURNAL GUIDE HERE This is your chance to reflect and create consciously. We don’t have to be passengers of our own lives. Even when we feel we are getting slapped down, over and over again (like me!) we can choose to LEARN, EVOLVE and WORK with what is unfolding. And better still we can take those slaps and channel them into co-creation. Making every moment sacred, worthy and nurturing them into seedlings of change and transformation. Love + light to you, Claire xx P.S I would be STOKED to hear back from you after you’ve done this exercise. Let me know what you’ve learned in reflection and what you are now ready to co-create? Read more

How I found my way back from broken and anxious

How I found my way back from broken and anxious

Posted April 28, 2017

I want to tell you something about me… most people say they find me to be calm. Centered. Present. Grounded and confident. But I want to show you a different side of the coin. I can be – and especially since becoming a mama – nervous, unsure, insecure and so very anxious. I remember when I was 19 and traveling with my sister. At a certain point on our travels we were parting ways – I was to go it alone. Oh god, I was terrified. All the ‘what-ifs’… all the uncertainty. I didn’t trust myself that I would FIND a way through any challenges. I didn’t trust that I could cope. And that’s just ONE example. It strikes me as bizarre that I can be this way – because I AM quite confident as a person. I do mostly believe in myself and have a high level of independence. Yet, as with all of us, I am multi-layered and my own personal shadows and ‘flaws’ (I use that word LOOSELY)) show up in odd ways and at odd times. Over the years, particularly from the age of 24 to 34 when I was deep in my own personal journey of inner transformation (through yoga, meditation, clean eating, study) I found and tapped into a new level of self-confidence. I found a way to stand in my own strength and personal power. To ride through the anxiety and trust in myself and in life. Then motherhood came along. I always share with my coaching clients that when we are in our own personal spiritual journeys there comes a time when we are ready to uplevel. We might not know it yet but on a soul level it’s time to turn the heat up. I was coasting before motherhood. Happy, grounded, balanced, content. And as I knew intuitively Little S was coming earth side to take me to the next level. But before I could ‘up-level’ I had to have a few dark night’s of the soul. You know, those moments where you question everything? Who am I? How did I get to this point? Why am I thinking/being in this way? What the F is going on here? What am I meant to do with this? Where to from here? I’m one of those souls (as my beautiful friend Tara Bliss says) that signed up for ALL the lessons and without much ease. I battled with my ego and with my fears many, many times (and still do!) Simply going out for a walk with my baby would leave me rattled (did I mention she was insanely unsettled and unhappy for the first 6 months at least?) I was scared to shake things up or try anything NEW in case it all fell apart. Losing control – something I had thought I’d overcome – became a real and tangible fear of mine. I didn’t take risks. I didn’t roll with the punches. I didn’t take the attitude of ‘let’s just see what happens’…I found myself in a deep, dark hole. This crazy-ass ride brought back all those qualities in me that I had thought I’d long ago ‘mastered’. How laughable. Mastered? Yeah right… It was just time to UP LEVEL and chip off another layer and stretch with all the growing pains that come with it. I let motherhood control me in those early months and in the end I controlled my life so there was no space for joy. That makes me a little sad to remember that, but also grateful for such a massive lesson. Because now I feel even MORE aligned to trust. I feel cosy with the idea that it’ll all work out. Anxiety, now, is a message of misalignment, not something I am OWNED by. I know I am more confident, grounded and present because of this (and the many other) experience. How did I find my way back? Getting honest with myself. Self-reflection + meditation. Slowly starting to say YES to myself and my own self-care. Reconnecting with my inner voice and intuition. And time… Yes, time, in the literal sense, but also in giving myself TIME AND SPACE. To connect with soul sisters. To go to yoga. To breathe. To take a walk. To do something yummy just for me. And to sit with and process the massive lessons I was getting smashed with. To let myself feel ‘smashed’ knowing it would pass, soon enough +++ Now that I have perspective what would I do differently? I would do all of the above but earlier. Sooner. I wouldn’t was as much time as I did feeling trapped and controlled. I would own my life again with positive change. Why am I sharing this with you? Because I know RIGHT NOW there is something that you KNOW you need to do – that will realign you, rebuild you, nurture you, reconnect you. But you aren’t doing it, are you? Or maybe you are, but not enough. And I want you to know this; where you are right now and who you are right now is not permanent. So you don’t need to be swallowed up by it and get buried under the fear, confusion, anxiety, insecurity. Just start, today, right now, doing SOMETHING that reconnects you. No matter how broken you feel, know this – you aren’t, you just simply need some SPACE and TIME to find your way back. love + light, Claire xx Read more

Why you don’t need to understand the shadows within you

Why you don’t need to understand the shadows within you

Posted April 01, 2017

Feel the shadows within I want to share a story with you. Something that unfolded for me last weekend.This is a precious story, a deeply personal one. But in the name of authenticity and truth-telling I offer this up to you… it’s also a way for me to continue dis-engaging and ‘identifying’ with this story and instead to dig deeper into the wisdom that is there for me (and hopefully you) at its core. +++ As many of you know I spent three days on the Gold Coast in Australia diving into the Shadows under the beautiful, powerful and potent guidance of Belinda Davidson* Over those three days we worked with our chakras, the magic of the white light and our own deeply embedded shadows. Stories, limiting beliefs, broken dreams, emotions we just can’t explain.The darkness we’ve carried for many, many lifetimes. Does that sound heavy and depressing? Well, it wasn’t. It was enlightening, It was and still is the most important work I’ve done (for myself as a women, a mama, a healer, a coach… a spiritual being having a human experience). Throughout this workshop we explored past life stories, inner fears and allowed our shadows to RISE. In a safe, white light filled container. Secure in knowing that our work was to see, feel and ultimately release the darkness – transmuting it into light. Shadow-working light work… Personally, I didn’t have the experience that many did – seeing vivid images unfold, during meditation, of past lives and the trauma. Nor did I get a clear message from my intuition as to what, exactly, my shadows were. The summary, or the words to describe my shadows never arose. But what I did get was this; Profound sensations of release. Deep emotion bubbling up as I was triggered by someone else’s stories and visions. HUGE waves of sadness flowing within me and out of me. Spontaneous shudders and shivers On the final day we, as a collective, entered a powerful meditation calling in the white light via the heaven to earth connection. Again I had no words, no thoughts, no visions – nothing concrete to sink my ‘need-to-intellectualise-it’ mind. Soon we reached the base chakra, channelling white light into this centre – the seat of humanly needs and desires. The chakra that governs our ability to ground here on earth, to embrace our journey as a human being in a physical body. To feel safe, secure and connected. This chakra that relates to our finances, home, worldly life and to our need for tribe, for inclusion. And here live my deepest, darkest shadows. Here, my shadows, have made their home – like cancerous growth. Burrowing down. Growing roots. It was here that I came face to face with these shadows. Or should I say feeling-to-feeling. I can’t quite explain what happened properly but I will endeavour to. The shadows within and all the sadness, hurt, betrayal and rejection burst forth; I was on the floor. Hands and knees desperately trying to earth. I sobbed – loud, visceral, uncontrollable. I shook, violently. I could barely breathe. I released. It felt birth-like. It felt ancient, tribal. It felt overwhelming. It was out-of-body yet SO embodied. I was not quite aware of myself. I knew where I was and what was unfolding but just like child birth I was in a different place, no longer governed by my left-brain. There was no space for analysing and understanding. Yet I had flashes of truth roll through; “This is your base chakra releasing. There is so much hurt. This feels like I am birthing, again”. Mostly, what I came to experience first hand is something I’ve always know and a truth Belinda drilled home all weekend. It matters not what these shadows are about, or where they came from or why you’ve held onto them or what you are to do with it all. All that matters is that you allow them to rise and release. Rise and release. Breathe and release. Rise and release. I have an understanding – which I won’t go into – as to where this shadow was born from. I know of past lives, I know of past pains and traumas. But truthfully, I do not care. I don’t need to know. I just need to let it go. And feel it rise up. Feel the sadness. Be overwhelmed for 5 minutes by the shadow. And then breathe it out. Let it go. Let it GO. LET it go. I fully and wholly and completely FELT what it is like to FEEL and RELEASE instead of THINK and CONTROL. +++ I can’t count how many times I’ve heard (through my coaching clients) “I Just WISH I knew WHY or WHERE this came from. Yes, sometimes the clarity and knowledge of itself can create a HUGE shift in perception – a change of view, a rewiring. But often our deeper, dirtier, darker shadows do not respect to only clarity. They need to rise. Be felt. Be honoured and ultimately released. love + light, Claire xx *I have mentioned this incredible woman, Belinda Davidson many, many times. I see her as my spiritual mentor and I HIGHLY recommend you check her out if you want to dive in deeper on a soul level, cleanse and clear your energy anatomy and therefore change your life. Read more


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