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SUCCESS LOOKS LIKE LEIGH CAMPBELL

SUCCESS LOOKS LIKE LEIGH CAMPBELL

Posted May 30, 2013

Coaching success stories We all want success in our lives. In someway, shape or form. sometimes it’s small but might – living in a healthy body with a clear mind. Other times it’s big, bold and risky. either way, success is personal and it is ever-changing. At different points in your life, success will be measured up against a very different set of criteria. Today’s success story is Leigh Campbell. My very first client. EVER. Leigh and I have known each other for years – she is the Beauty Editor of Cosmopolitan magazine and my past life in PR brought us together. We always shared a special bond. It became deeper when she had enough faith in me to embark on my 6 month coaching program As Leigh was my first foray into putting the theory I’d learnt into practice, at each session and each turn I was astounded to see how powerful and profoundly life changing coaching is. I knew it, in my heart, but watching Leigh evolve was so incredible. I also got to truly discover what makes her heart sing – her family, her friends, her workouts! She is one of the most stunning women I’ve met, then you discover the real Leigh and her beauty soars into orbit. Leigh says: I can’t recall what I thought the course would be before I did it, I guess I thought it would be mainly diet focused. But can honesty state that it was so much more than I presumed. Her initial goals were to rely less on caffeine and slow down a bit in general. However, her journey was so much more than just caffeine and pace. I can honestly divide my life into two parts now. Before my course and after. Leigh When I asked Leigh what came up for during the course she highlighted that the realisation that everything in her life was linked therefore everything affected by the other. As we organically explored every aspect of her life, we flowed from topic to topic and it became apparent that underlying habits or issues had laid roots everywhere. We explored diet and exercise, relationships, finance, lifestyle, work, family, spirituality, time management, goals. Leigh experienced some big changes during our program. The fortnightly meeting with Claire made me accountable for every decision in my life. I would think “I am going to tell Claire about this when we next meet, so why am I doing it?” in terms of reaching for junk food, skipping a training session, indulging in negative internal dialog. So even now, I still ask myself the question ‘why?’. Why do I want that burger? And after I sit with the answer for a while I make the choice. I can still have the burger, it’s just that now I know why. Am I upset about something? Is it a reward? Or is it just a delicious burger? If you know why you make the choices you do, you’re going to make the right ones.  For me, as Leigh’s coach I find real joy in the knowledge that her transformation and journey still continues to this day. Leigh has taken the practice of journalling and gratitude into her daily routine – even if she is getting at at 4:45am for training. I remember her scoffing at that suggestion and telling me not to bank on that one happening. We aimed to move her mindset from the negative into starting her day with a clear, brighter more positive tone. It brings me so much happiness to know that this has become an integral part of her day. Now I acknowledge the good instead of taking it for granted, and from that I swear more goodness comes. Together we did some work on Ayurveda (check out my recent guest post by Ayurvedic Expert, Monica Bloom). To this day, Leigh lives her life as a Vata in balance as her personal prakruti/dosha resinated so strongly with her. And yes, she dramatically reduced her coffee habit and eats according to her needs and body type. Leigh is about to head off to Europe for three months. I’m so excited for her – she works incredibly hard and the life of a Beauty Editor (although looks glamorous) is time-sapping. I know, I used to be the one that would sap their time!  After a decade of work, I’m tired. I’m looking forward to throwing a regimented schedule, obligations and my and alarm clock out the proverbial window and switching off for a while. Every time I see Leigh I feel so honoured that she game me a chance to help her live in the way SHE deserves. I also feel incredibly proud of the effort and focus she now puts into herself. She shares her knowledge with her friends and has become the ‘health guru’ in her world. This part makes me the happiest – the message of health and wellness spreading out like a web. You can stay connected to Leigh via instgram and Cosmo Online. I hope you enjoyed this insight into Leigh and her personal success on her wellness journey. love + light, Claire Read more

WANT TO KNOW WHAT SUCCESS LOOKS LIKE?

WANT TO KNOW WHAT SUCCESS LOOKS LIKE?

Posted May 15, 2013

I’m always so proud of the success my clients achieve. I feel like a proud mamma. These incredible people come to me ready, willing and able. Meaning, they are open to change and ready for a better life. Often they come wanting to tackle their diet and physical health – and we definitely do that – but we also end up tackling SO MUCH more. No stone is left unturned. It’s from this ‘SO MUCH MORE’ space that I want to share with you. A little light-bulb went off in my head when I was thinking through some of the amazing achievements my gorgeous clients have experienced. Of course! I am always so inspired by other people’s success, even if they are small baby steps. Which means my readers would love to discover their success too. Moving forward, growth, change – it can be messy and challenging, but I witness the rewards ever single time a client decides to get messy. So, it’s time to show you the many forms of success, how much MORE there is to devour in life… and hopefully this will inspire you to grab your life with both hands and OWN IT! With great pride I’d like to introduce you to Brooke Rudzis. What I LOVE about being a health coach are the surprises. I know, just like I know that my name is Claire, that Health + Wellness is only partially about food. I KNOW that real happiness and health comes from passion, purpose, balance, love… and of course good food and movement. Brooke is the perfect example of that which I know. Brooke signed up for my Three Thrilling Months coaching package. She came to me initially looking for guidance on getting more energy. She was tired and lethargic. Brooke was after a healthy eating regime that would give her “that extra up and go each day”. What did she discover. In her words: Trying new things isn’t always difficult!! Taking the first step is the hardest – then it just becomes part of life.  From simple things such as doubting I would have time in the morning to cook eggs for breakfast right through to discovering I wanted to find an outlet to express my creativity. Once I took the initial step and trialed it, it is now just part of the routine.  It is amazing how much you can do when you love it. I will never isolate health and wellness again.  It is so easy to separate eating and exercise from mental wellbeing, relationships and your spiritual side but they are all one and the same and inextricably linked. Balance in one sector will lead to balance in others. Brooke experienced some ‘expected’ changes. She now understands her food and how she views ‘indulgence’. She sticks to foods she enjoys and that make her feel good and avoids the rest. Perfect! Some unexpected changes for Brooke came in the form of identifying ‘Brooke-time’. The opportunity to invest time in doing things that fulfil her own goals and desires. And you know what I find so awesome about Brooke’s journey, is that it continued (as they usually do) after we finished working together. We spoke ALOT about her creative side that needed nurturing and her love of interior design. As a result Brooke enrolled in a Diploma of Interior Design and she is now learning how to get skilled on her love of decorating and design. Her blog, Chooks Pen, is also an example of her ongoing transformation. Here she shares her passion for interior decorating. Wait, it gets better. Brooke set herself a fitness goal and completed Tough Mudder (Check it out HERE) which included 10 weeks of training to complete a 20km obstacle course in mud. That’s one Tough Mudder. Life is going really well.  I am feeling fit and healthy physically. My course and blog are giving me the necessary creative outlet I needed thus making me feel more rounded as a person.  As a result I am happier and doing well in my current job! How’s that for success! In so many different ways Brooke found her wellness. When I asked Brooke to just write from her heart and share her story this is what she said: I am really grateful for the opportunity to meet and work with Claire.  Her support and guidance was invaluable.  She allowed me to explore things she presented and find a way they would work for me and my life. I recognize there will always be times we slip off the rails and need to realign, however I now have the tools to recognise when this happens and make the positive changes required. I’m really excited to see where my new adventures take me and to continue to set new goals to keep my mind and body active and healthy. So much love for Brooke. She was always open to new ideas even if they seemed bizarre to her. She gave it her all and in such a short time made some BIG, lasting changes. What do you think of Brooke’s journey? More energy, clean diet, strong body, finding passion and purpose, trying new things. I think she’s the BUSINESS, but maybe I’m just biased. Stay tuned for more success stories coming your way. love + light to you, Claire x Read more

AYURVEDIC CASTOR OIL BATH

AYURVEDIC CASTOR OIL BATH

Posted December 07, 2012

So here I am, in Goa, India in case you didn’t already know (ps. Follow me on instagram – claireowellness – for lots of pictures of my travels). It’s such an incredible experience to spend time with yogis from all over the globe. We sip chai, talk asana and pranayama, we swap practice notes and share tips for the best thali (south India style food) in town. We also share little yogic practices that contribute to our experience. You see, this is quite a unique opportunity. We get to do nothing but practice yoga. In our normal daily lives despite yoga being an important and fixed part of our ritual, it is usually followed by a busy schedule – work, social life, family, responsibilities… But here, the practice is everything. And we have time to indulge in any other yogic practice that we normally don’t have the luxury to enjoy. One such practice is the infamous Castor Oil Bath. A traditional Ayurvedic practice that has been on my ‘must-do’ list for years! Here in India I get the opportunity to enjoy it multiple times. First some background – what is a Castor Oil Bath? What is Castor Oil? (thanks Wiki!) Castor oil is a vegetable oil obtained from the castor bean (technically castor seed is not a member of the bean family). Castor oil is a colorless to very pale yellow liquid with mild or no odor. Ok, so let me run you through my recent experience with my first castor oil bath. It was a Friday evening and I had finished dinner with friends. As Saturday was a day of rest I decided that despite it being late already that I would try the Castor Oil Bath. I decided not to go crazy, being my first time and all – I’d heard and seen the very strong effects that can happen. Now, just to clarify you aren’t actually bathing in castor oil, but the name comes from the Indian style of washing – rubbing yourself down with soap and then pouring water over you to rinse down. I heated the oil before rubbing it on the crown of my head and then proceeded to rub it into the body, concentrating on areas of pain, the joints and large muscles. This took around 10mins. Then standing under the hot shower I continued to rub the oil deeper in before lathering up soap and shampoo to rinse off. I prepared for bed and settled in for what i hoped would be a super overnight and the next morning was when the real fun started. I felt a deep, lethargy come over me as I was lying in bed and then a sense of grogginess. Not in a bad way, but quite powerful. As I slept, throughout the night I would wake only for a moment and found it white difficult to shake that groggy state. By morning I literally felt stoned. I felt slow, peaceful, calm, quiet, sleepy. So I spent the morning doing nothing – sleeping, breathing, meditating… Or just sitting simply in silence. It is incredible. Not to mention the lower back pain I was feeling that totally vanished by morning! If you are keen to try it here is a great link with instructions and lots of detailed information: Pamper yourself: DIY castor oil bath I’m doing it again tonight and I can’t wait for that blissful, peaceful feeling. Saha to you, Claire Read more

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE BRAVE?

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE BRAVE?

Posted December 03, 2012

It would be an understatement to say that within my first week in India I was chewed up and spat out with a totally different perspective of my life. I came here with no major expectations but the opportunity to learn – thinking I was just going to be immersed in yoga and Ayurveda, I soon found out my lmy lessons were to be of a different nature. It all began with a scooter… Yep, that wasn’t a typo. You read correctly… A scooter. So how did a scooter play such a significant role in my experience in India? Well, it kicked my ass! Let me explain… I had never ridden a scooter, apart from a 1hr lesson before jumping on board on the dusty roads of Goa. My instinct, coupled with fear and lack of self-belief (and lack of riding skill!) left me very nervous… Nervous the point that during confusing situations in traffic panicked and crashed not once, but twice. Maybe it was a lack of courage in my ability, or maybe I just knew it wasn’t the right time for me, but eventually I gave in and said ‘no-more’ to the scooter despite the clear benefits of having my own mode of transport. Over tea one evening myself and two friends were chatting about the topic of virtues and what they are.  And it was in this moment that I realised the virtue of bravery was the hero in my Instory journey, thus far. I had initially felt cowardly,swear, scared even a little childish for giving in and ditching the scooter. I had thought it was embarrassing, despite the clear gut-feeling I was having that it just wasn’t my time. As we discussed the virtue of bravery I realised, instead, what I have done was actually quite brave. I had been afraid. I admitted that. I stepped towards the fear and decided to come at it with some self-love instead. It wasn’t for me and admitting that actually took more courage than getting on the bike in the first place.  When I first got on the bike the key driver was desire and expectation that I should do what others were doing. It wasn’t a true goal to ride around on a bike. That as someone else’s desire that I had borrowed and attempted to wear as my own. When every people talks about bravery we often hear things such as: “bravery is not the absence of fear but action in the face of it” Or “be strong nd brave, even if you are not, pretend to be! Then the bravery will come after” Now, I don’t think these are wrong, in fact there is truth in it all. But I now realise that perhaps bravery is also having the strength to ask for help, to admit when something isnt right, to step away, to love yourself… To respect yourself. Life is amazing, isn’t it? To think I learnt all this from a scooter… What moments in your life has bravery come to the forefront? What does bravery mean to you? Saha to you, Claire Read more

NEW YEAR COUNTDOWN…TAPPING INTO YOUR INTENTIONS

NEW YEAR COUNTDOWN…TAPPING INTO YOUR INTENTIONS

Posted November 30, 2012

It’s not long to go now… 2013 is fast approaching. I’m not a fan of ‘resolutions’ as I don’t think that setting a time-limit around our true heart’s desires and goals is helpful. But a little structure and focus can go along way. So let’s talk intentions, for YOUR life. Not just for 2013. Together, let’s look forward, from a grounded, stable place in the NOW, and envision the life we want to create. Here are a few steps to help you on your way: 1. Pull out a pen and paper (keep it old school if you can) and take yourself off to a quite spot. Get outside in nature, sit in the sun, under a tree or anywhere you feel truly comfortable and relaxed 2. First write down as many achievements that you are proud of and experiences/people/situation that you are grateful for from 2012. Really try and connect, positively to 2012. 3. Take a few moments to just absorb what you’ve written and sit with the emotions that rise here. Don’t try to ‘think’ your way through the next steps but feel you way – follow your intution 4. Now, write down the question ‘What’s Next?’. Sit with that for a moment and then begin to write. Note down EVERYTHING that comes to mind that you desire for your future – the big, the little, the crazy… every idea, every dream, everything. Don’t rationalise, don’t justify, judge or even visualise the outcome. Just write. From here you might want to finish the task and come back to the next step in a day or so. Or, if you are feeling inspired keep going 5. Looking at your list draw a circle around the ones that resonate with you the most, or that you know are achievable or simple what you really, truly want. That doesn’t mean delete the other ideas from your psyche but often different things happen at times when we need them the most, or when we are truly ready for them. 6. Just allow yourself to be open to the possibility that anything can happen and be excited by the dreams coming forth. 7. From here you can do a number of things. Perhaps create a vision board that brings to life your intentions, dreams, goals. Or if you want to, break down specific items into tactical steps. I don’t necessarily think that planning your life is agood move, but sometimes taking the time to just sit, shuffle through and shift out the clutter in your mind can bring you to a space clasolo. This allows you to confidently move forward but also appreciate the past for what it has taught you and the present for all that it is. If you are keen for a little guidance in the wellness arena please get in touch. As a Holistic Health Coach it’s my job to support you on your journey to a fuller, happier and healthier life. And if you want to go it alone check out my fantastic 8 week eCourse – the RENEW YOURSELF WELLNESS PROJECT. With everything you need coming straight to your inbox this is a no-fuss, go-at-your-own-pace program designed to nudge you along the road to true health and happiness. What more could you ask for? At $99 this is the perfect gift to yourself or a friend or family member. Saha to you, Claire Read more

ALL ABOUT MY NEW E-COURSE – RENEW YOURSELF WELLNESS PROJECT

ALL ABOUT MY NEW E-COURSE – RENEW YOURSELF WELLNESS PROJECT

Posted September 25, 2012

I thought it would be a good idea to give you lovely wellness seekers a little more information about my latest health coaching service – the Renew Yourself Wellness Project. Right now through this blog and my facebook page I dish up morsels of health and wellness information, my own experiences on this journey, lots of yummy recipes, yoga, meditation and life musings. So, you are probably thinking what exactly is the difference with this e-course? Why should you sign-up to do this course? Well, the first question is why shouldn’t you! If you are 100% healthy, feeling switched on and switched into life, lead a perfect, sunny existence everyday and you are nourishing your body with everything it needs… well then, look no further. I applaud you – that is a real achievement. However, if you know, honestly, that you could pay much more attention to YOURSELF. Feeding your body, mind and spirit in the way you deserve… then, this course is for you. Now that we have that sorted out. Let me tell you what the e-course has to offer. It is an 8-week program – You do not come out with any sort of qualification, except being certified to safely, effectively and profoundly improve your time on this earth. Each week you will be sent information via email relating to a different health and wellness topic – structured information to guide you through your very own wellness project, including focus work.  Go at your own pace – do the work week-by-week or whenever you are ready Do the work in the comfort of your home (or in the park, at work, anywhere!) Lots of relevant health, lifestyle and wellness content  to read up on, consider and approach – information sheets, homework tasks, yoga sequences, video blogs, meditation recordings, recipes etc. Opportunity to experiment with different health and wellness ideas, apply them into your life and see how you can positively affect your life.  You will have my support and guidance along the way but ultimately responsibility is on you to take the information at hand and make a difference your life – how much you put in, you get out!  The launch date is October 14th, but you can start ANY time from then. That’s the beauty of an e-course. And when you feel the need to connect with others you can jump onto the private facebook group and share with those doing the program, myself or anyone that has finished. This is a version of my current one-on-one coaching program. It is obviously less ‘personalised’ than one-on-one coaching but that doesn’t mean the information is any less powerful or impactful. If you sign-up with a friend or a group of friends you can actually support each other through this. For some, this might be a way to deepen your wellness journey. For others this might be your first ‘toe-dip’ into the pool of healthy living. You can apply it however you want, it’s yours to mould, create and enjoy. And for those that want to move even deeper, the amazing Jess Ainscough from The Wellness Warrior has created the spectacular Lifestyle Transformation Guide. A very detailed and structured health immersion if you are looking for something to really dive into! Ultimately this is a great way to change your life, and to take ownership for becoming the best version of yourself.  Feel free to ask any questions here on the blog. And remember, if you sign-up with a friend you’ll receive 15% off the already cheap $99 price-tag. So, what are you waiting for? Just shoot me an email to book in today. Cx Read more

DO YOU KNOW WHAT WELLNESS IS?

DO YOU KNOW WHAT WELLNESS IS?

Posted August 03, 2012

Sometimes I think people are confused by the term ‘wellness‘… I often get queried as to what a ‘wellness’ coach is, usually with an incredulous look on their face. They are usually the ones that think ‘wellness’ is a made up term to incite fear or to market illness and stress in order to create business. Each to their own I say, but when I’m faced with someone who genuinely would like to know what I think wellness is… well, I have a few answers. My own personal ‘feeling’ towards wellness is best summarised with this analogy. Imagine you are a puzzle, a huge, amazing, breathtaking puzzle made of many little pieces. When you are ‘in the zone’ – feeling healthy, whole, happy. You know, when everything is ticking along nice, things are working out as they should and you are feeling alive? Well… if you were to look at your puzzle it would look almost brand new. Of course, a few battle wounds here and there, but mostly, the picture would be clear. There wouldn’t be any pieces missing (or only a few!) The edges would be neat and each piece would fit snugly together, nothing forced, or broken or frayed. Those pieces representing the pieces of you – your health, happiness, career, love, education, spirituality, movement, finances and so on. You can see where this is going, right? Now, take your mind back to that puzzle piece and maybe imagine or remember a time when you weren’t feeling so crash hot – broken relationship, poor health, emotionally draining friendships, uncomfortable home environment, bad eating… and sad to say it, but that puzzle is no longer so shiny and bright. Pieces are missing or squeezed into the wrong spot, bent out of shape or the edges are frayed. It’s hard to make out the whole picture, isn’t it.  What you have is a not so happy puzzle, not living in its true glory! For me, for some reason, that’s how ‘wellness’ comes to mind. It’s about trying, (if not always succeeding) to be in my true glory, living in truth – whole, content, happy. It’s a continuous balancing act, but it’s one that we all must do. Our body, breath, mind, spirit is what we are – what we should be honored to be! Which means it requires a little (if not alot) respect and kindness. So, that’s my own analogy. Maybe that resonates with you, maybe it doesn’t. During my studies at Integrative Nutrition, I was so pleased to learn a concept that resonated with me and better articulates my ‘puzzle’ analogy. In a nut shell, Primary Food is about everything in your life that feeds you, which doesn’t come on a plate. And, your nutrition, the food you fuel your body is called Secondary Food. It’s just as important, they are intertwined, really… but your Secondary Food – or at least your desire to eat well is greatly affected by your Primary Food or lack of it! Wellness, to me, is the constant vigilance over the elements of your life that bring you into balance and true health. It’s about the understanding of who you are – what are your puzzle pieces – and that you are able to find happiness in all elements. No matter whether your life is perfect or not. It doesn’t have to be. It’s just about striking a balance. It’s fluid and your life is ever changing. Different stages of life bring about different priorities. So at each stage, reassessing and reviewing allows you to keep on top of your wellness. For me, the shift in careers required me to reassess – I struggled a little to find my ‘new’ balance and feel 100% well again, but over time I find my pieces and I shined them up until I had that familiar sense of stability and health again.   Living well and nourishing ourselves includes food we eat and the choices we make in our lives. Everything that we take in is food for our body, mind and spirit. The choices we make can energize or drain us. Just as the food can. Ultimately we are what we eat, but also what we do, think, feel, be, breath. Signing off with an exhale. Pause. Listen. Live.   Cx   Read more

RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS

RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS

Posted July 13, 2012

Ok, time for some honesty. The last couple of months have been busy, to say the least. Exhausting and stressful. I normally manage stress very well, but I’m not sure what happened, I sort of lost my balance a little. And my fiance noticed. I don’t blame him. I was sighing uncontrollably (a sign that my adrenals are overworked). Acting a little odd (quiet instead of my usual bright self) and a little distracted.  I was doing alot of my usual self-care rituals which were slowly working, but I just knew I needed to get through a particular period before I could see the light of a stress-free day. And get there I did. But not without the nudge of a random act of kindess. One day after I finished a beautiful yoga practice, I was driving to my favourite cafe spot to blog and drink some chai. (Doesn’t sound like I had much to stress about, huh?!) I received a text message from my fiance asking to me to look inside my yoga bag. I parked the car, and did just that.  What I found had my literally blubbing away like a little kid in the middle of a busy street.  In my hand I held a hand-written letter on a piece of torn envelope. Chris had reached out to me. Noticing my state of being, he decided to randomly send some love and kindness my way. He probably doesn’t realise that his letter was the catalyst for a massive shift for me. Those tears held relief, those words encouraged me to let go. That moment was exactly what I needed.  What he did was philanthropic. He cared for me, nourished my soul and then enhanced my state of being. And simply by putting pen to paper, ok… envelope. But it got me thinking. When was the last time I did something, for someone, just because? Not to reap a reward or praise, but to simply just say “hello, I see you”.   Back in the day when I used to work in PR a delightful colleague and I would head out for lunch. It was her idea, but we would shout out positive messages to random strangers in the street. It was silly and fun and possibly very immature. But mostly exciting to watch their faces. Of course, the messages we would shout out would be a little off-centre… “I like your freckles!” or “Your walk is hot!” or “Your nose suits your face!”  Random. Yes. Kind. Yes. Or the time when my flatmate and friend helped Colin, a little old man who used to spend 1 hour every week shuffling down to the bins after bin day and return not only his bins, but every one on the block, back to their home. He was very old and slow, but we saw him do it every single week. One day, we decided to help him. I don’t think he knew what hit him. It can be something small – say hello to someone in the lift, smile at them and wish them a lovely day. Or leave a positive note pinned up in your building lobby. Tie a note to someone’s bike saying thanks for saving the world. Leave a love letter for you partner, or show up at a friend’s house, unannounced with a freshly baked cake. Or better still, leave the cake anonymously at your neighbours house. Whatever it is, I’m sure there is even one small way, each week, where we can dedicate our time to something other than ourselves. You would be surprised by the impact that one random act of kindness can have on an individual and their life. And, kindness is like a boomerang, it will come back to you. Wishing you the space to be open, kind and loving to everyone you cross paths with. Signing off with an exhale. Pause. Listen. Live. Cx Read more

HAPPINESS COMES FROM SADNESS

HAPPINESS COMES FROM SADNESS

Posted May 18, 2012

I truly believe that as human beings capable of learning, growing, experiencing and feeling so much that the ebbs of flows within our lives are all little lessons. Moments where we deepen our understanding of our reason for being, our time on this earth and our purpose. When I look back a few years ago when I was in the thick of my Saturn Returns – I was questioning who I was, what I wanted to be, how I wanted to contribute, what my purpose was – I remember the height of it all being one of my darkest days. I had moved home twice already that year, a friend had passed away, I was living in an environment that made me literally feel anxious and jumpy. I then had to move again… the day of the move, it was raining and I had decided to go it alone. One box at a time I unloaded my car. The whole while I was crying. Continuous tears streaming down my face. It was the pinnacle of a collection of emotions – displacement, confusion, anxiousness, sadness – literally pouring out of me. For months I hadn’t been able to shift this heavy feeling inside me. I’d resisted the emotion and tried to be strong. I had tried to avoid what I was feeling. That day, in the rain, crying, I finally went there. I indulged in the sadness, the frustration, just for a little while. I sat right in the emotion. In fact, we held hands – me and the sadness. It wasn’t even a week later when I recall going for a coastal walk. As I stood in the sunshine staring out across the ocean I physically felt the heaviness of those stuck emotions lift up and out of me. I realised something had shifted. But what rang loud and clear was that it had shifted because I had acknowledged it, that day in the rain. For the first time in months I had stopped pretending I was ok, fine, coping and had allowed myself to fall apart. Just enough to loosen the grip of that horrible feeling. Everything from that day onwards changed. I appreciated happy days with such a different perspective. Each one tasted so sweet. And today, whenever I have a ‘bad’ day I take myself back to that place and remember the feeling of unloading my car, alone, crying. It resets me, regroups me. Reminds me of everything I have to be grateful for. But mostly, it reminds me that it’s all going to be ok. That the bad days have to happen in order for me to taste and experience the good days. Those tears symbolised the beginning of accepting. Which has to happen before you can make a positive change. Avoiding just sends us into a continuous cat + mouse chase. The sadness is the cat and you are the mouse. But perhaps if the mouse turned around, looked the cat dead in the eye, accepted its fate, it might be surprised to see the cat slink away. No longer interested without the chase. (Maybe a cat + mouse analogy isn’t the best example here, but you get the picture!) I wonder then, can we embrace the good, the bad and the ugly. Realising that is what makes us human beings so unique. The scope of the emotions and experiences we can have is unimaginable. But each one guides us and teaches us something if we are willing to go there, have a peek, acknowledge. And sometimes, with those emotions come tears…and that’s ok too. Because those tears, bubbling up the surface, not only bring the emotions up with them but they help to release and let them go. Allowing you to stop thinking and start feeling. From there, change is possible. Change is inevitable. That’s where the real happiness is born. Signing off with an exhale. Pause. Listen. Live Cx Read more


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