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Feeling bound at the heart to all beings

Feeling bound at the heart to all beings

Posted February 11, 2016

So you are probably aware of the fact that I am NOT a ‘mummy blogger’. I’m not interested in sharing with you about how to best get your baby into a routine. Or what solids to start them on first (although feel free to ask if you need some guidance). What I am interested in doing is – just as I was doing before – sharing with you the profound experiences, emotions and honest ‘reflections’ on this crazy-ass journey. That’s my bag. Authentically offering up myself, my own learnings and my take on it all. Recently, I’ve found myself giving a shit more often. For my non-Australian readers the phrase ‘giving a shit’ basically implies that one cares about something. I know, I know… we have strange colloquialisms! Let me explain. I’ve always cared about others. It’s in my nature, but I’ve always been able to keep a distance. Just enough space to protect my easily strung-out, highly sensitive, and quick-to-absorb-all-the-bad-stuff self. Now, since carrying, birthing and caring for life on a daily basis that line between me and others is rapidly disintegrating. The space is closing in… and I’m no longer able to disconnect as readily as I once could do. Do I have a problem with this? Surprisingly, no.. not at all. (I will elaborate). Is this making it harder to manage my sensitive, empathetic little being? Ohh, yep. Being Bound At The Heart: It’s not just to other mamas or papas. It’s not just to children. It’s to everyone. This strong sense of feeling bound – heart to heart – to all beings, especially when there is suffering and sadness, pain and trauma. And even moreso when there is joy and lightness. I feel called to connect and say “I’m here. I love you. It’s not OK right now, but I’m here” when I know someone close to me who is doing it tough. I feel what they feel. I GET it. I get the struggle and that raw feeling of being shattered. I feel called to celebrate and share in the joy and love, and lightness that someone might be experiencing. Even if it’s just to say – YES! You so deserve that. As my beautiful friend penned it; an unspoken kinship. We are all one. Souls experiencing a human existence, all one from the same Divine Source. We might believe we are sunbeams that a separate, but we are all beams from the same sun. We are the sun. It is this ‘ONENESS‘ that I am starting to feel and experience more often. It is this oneness that is disintegrating that space between ‘them’ and ‘me’… It is this oneness that is connecting me to others in their struggle and their success. Hardship and happiness. Pain and peace. ++ Every being is someone’s child. Every soul has lived a thousand lives and carries a thousand stories. Everyone has a mother, or father, somewhere. Everyone is human – flawed and perfectly perfect all at the same time. Everyone carries baggage and scars and sorrow. It’s because of this commonality that I can’t help but feel bound at the heart to all beings. And although it means my sensitive self, with a tendency towards anxiety and stress, has to work harder to not carry the heaviness of others hardship…and to feel without feeling the burden of it all, I wouldn’t wish it away. It makes me feel more alive to this experience of life. More sensitive to the needs of my own daughter and husband. More aware of my client’s inner voice. More compassion, forgiveness and understanding. My soul chose this lifetime, this body, this family, this experience for a reason. I am grateful that it has at this age when the world is waking up. And a huge part of that ‘reawakening’ is to connect more deeply to our human experience and all of humanity. For me, right now, this is how that reawakening is unfolding – by feeling bound at the heart to all beings. ++ Maybe for you it’s unfolding in a different way, but that connect, if you let it wants to and will grow. We live so separately, so distant. Yes the online world brings us together, but it also gives us the excuse to not connect from the heart as much. Becoming a mother has highlighted to me that we used to do this parenting thing well – raising our children within a tribe, sharing the hardships and the joy – but today we tend to ‘go it alone’. I’m a sucker for punishment. Often thinking I have to get through my life without asking for help or without voicing my fears and concerns. It is this ‘bound’ feeling that is changing that. As I reach out to others I am feeling, more and more, that I’m meant to check in with them, and in doing so, allowing my self to be checked on – to be cared for, loved, held. After all… at the end of our days isn’t it that the love, the struggles, the joys, the wins, the challenges are all better experienced when shared with another soul? Isn’t that heart-to-heart connect what this life is all about? If not, then what else is there? Just meaningless experiences – empty, heartless, lacking in soul. ++ So from my heart to yours. I feel you. I see you. I love you. Claire x Read more

On doing the hard work

On doing the hard work

Posted January 28, 2016

…on doing the hard work It was my birthday this week. I turned 34… it was, truthfully, a non event. As most birthday’s are for me. But what they have become for me, recently, is a chance to thank my mother. For creating me, birthing me and cradling me into this world.Amongst the many gratefully received birthday messages one very close soul sister of mine said to me: “Your commitment to doing the (hard) work and rising above continually is beyond inspiring…” Floored. That’s how I felt when I read that. Grateful for those kind words. Acknowledgement, although is totally an ego desire still feels good. Then I felt a little surprised. Inspiring? Rising above? Do I do that? Am I that? And it left me pondering it all because ‘doing the hard work’ is something people often notice about me. And yes, it is something I am more than willing to do. But why is that? Do I glorify the “struggle”? Maybe a little, actually. If I’m truthful I’ve watched both my parents struggle in life in so many ways. Perhaps it became normal to me. Do I not know how to just ‘be’? Let myself, my life, my situation just unfold day by day without having to tinker, and perfect and tweak? Well… I’m getting better at it – dropping the need to perfect and simply flowing through life. Do I think the hard work is going to get me “somewhere”? I used to. I once thought that there was a destination. A holy grail for the spiritually minded person. Perhaps a life of ease, and grace. ++ But after all these questions circled in my mind (see, simply asking these questions I’m once again doing the “hard work” HA!) I came to this truth. It’s the only thing I can and should do. Doing it tough. Riding through life. Living the highs. Feeling the lows. Rising Above. Crumbling. Breaking a little. Honestly failing. Trying again. Trying again. Rising again. Rising up. What is my life if I am NOT knocked down onto my knees, only to get back up again? What is this life if we are NOT broken and shattered into pieces only to sew ourselves together again? What is life if there is no darkness, no shadows, only to desperately seek out that sweet, sweet light, again. And again? The hard work is everything. Because it pays off. The hard work means opening your eyes and seeing the shit. It means hearing what you don’t want to hear and feeling what you’d rather suppress. But with that comes a vision so beautiful, sounds that fill your ears with bliss and feelings that leave you high on a wave of love. This life is a constant play of black and white, ying and yang, dark and light and all the grey in between. As much as we might want to close our eyes from the truth, or bury our head in the sand, or coast through life just skimming the surface… well we can’t. Actually… no, you can. But that wouldn’t be honour this precious life your gorgeous soul chose. This life, this body, this time, this family, this experience, this EVERYTHING that YOUR soul chose. We must do right by it but living it fully. And that means sometimes we have to do the hard work. And hopefully, more often than not we are blessed with an easy ride. love + light, Claire xx Read more

The power of silence

The power of silence

Posted January 19, 2016

The power of silence. Have you heard the phrase “Silence is Golden”? It’s a beautiful idea, isn’t. Peaceful. Serene. Blissful. Embracing the quiet. It really conjures up a stunning image of serenity. Alone, on a beach somewhere, with no sound other than the gently crashing waves and the wind whipping through your hair and the sun setting it breathtaking fashion. But that phrase also has so much more power to it when we place that silence between two people. When we place silence at the core of any interaction or exchange between two people the result is often a profound shift, realization or revelation. Recently I attended the Rise Sister Rise event where my spiritual mentor – Belinda Davidson and her new partner in crime, Rebecca Campbell held the space for group of light-seeking, spiritually minded women (and one awesome man). The day included chanting, prayer, white light healings and some group work – the latter which served as powerful reminder to me that SILENCE can often be the best tool we have for transformation. We were pared up and simply told to ask a series of questions to our partner. Questions that dug deep into fears, soul voice, and desires. We were asked to not say anything, or even respond in any way, other than to hold the space for our new friend and to keep asking the same question over and over until the designated time was up. We were asked to buy into the power of silence. As a coach it is part of my work to ‘hold space’ in this way regularly. But it is definitely something I had to ‘learn’ to do. I’ve always been a great listener, but had to learn the art truly hearing someone, without needing to respond, share, guide, impart wisdom, or (worse) interject with your own anecdotes, stories and woes. At the Rise Sister Rise event I held space for my new friend. It was here that I noticed how often I had to fight the urge to ‘coach’ her. My ego chimed up, internally, more than once, with positive reinforcement, or words of wisdom, or my ‘opinion’. The feeling often burned within me to speak up to support her. But, ever the avid student, I heeded the instructions, shushed that inner desire and simply locked my eyes on hers. My heart connected to hers. My ears tuned into to her voice. And I let her speak. I let my breath be steady, slow, even (just as I do when I’m trying to calm down my bub). A And I cleared my mind of my own agenda and my ‘opinions’. What unfolded was beautiful. My new friend peeled off layer after layer. She came to some mind-blowing truths and did so all on her own. Her soul-voice got louder, bolder, clearer. It was given the centre stage and with that it fervently delivered a few golden realisations into the silence we had created. I try and do this, as often as possible, with my clients but this went a little deeper, and further because someone else had created the parameters. It was four full minutes of staying silent, listening, and hold space so our friend could lean into their soul and reveal their truths. I said nothing. I breathed. I looked into her eyes. I kept my energy clean and light. I said nothing. And … she said everything she needed too. And it was spectacular. The silence was golden. The power of silence revealed. ++ How does this insight into silence apply to you? Well there are two ways. 1) Ask a friend to sit with you in stillness, in contemplation. Explore deep, soul-voice questions together. And hold space for each other. 2)Do the same for yourself in silent meditation. love + light, Claire x Read more

Why I’m not going to reflect on 2015

Why I’m not going to reflect on 2015

Posted January 12, 2016

I haven’t felt compelled to review all that has unfolded in 2015. That’s because I can summarise it in one word. BABY. For the first two months of the year I was barefoot, blissed out and pregnant. Spending my days floating in the ocean, gazing in awe at the sun dazzling on the waves, communing with the little soul growing within, and generally feeling overwhelmed with gratitude. For life. For this precious, oh-so-sacred time and for my body and the miracle it was creating. Then, the birth happened. Then Soleil, in dramatic fashion, entered our world. And it was like a cataclysmic event occurred that literally turned the earth upside down and instantly shook us to the core. It’s been equal parts challenging, joyous, heartbreaking, backbreaking, love-soaked, laughter filled, mind-blowing, exhausting, confusing, guilt-ridden, messy, humbling, testing, and tearful. And truthfully, I could write 1000 adjectives to describe the experience but it would never and can never give you a clear enough snapshot into the life-altering experience that is motherhood/parenthood. But despite the fact that this has been the toughest yet most rewarding assignment of my life (to date) I don’t want to review it. Actually, I mean to say, I don’t NEED to review it. I don’t need to reflect too much, ponder for hours. Or C\come to any understanding, at all, really. You want to know why (of course you do!) right? It’s because of this one incredible lesson that Soleil, motherhood, pregnancy and birth have taught me (sometimes quite forcefully)… There is only one moment that matters. And within that moment you have the possibility of fully experiencing what is on offer – be it complete and utter despair, zombie-like exhaustion, overwhelming heart-explosive love, sheer indifference, emotional disconnection…. Whatever it is… it is THERE for that moment. In that one instant you can feel it, experience it, be IN IT. Fully, completely, honestly, vulnerably. You can gauge and learn from it, spontaneously, you can perhaps reflect on it later – take stock of the lesson you were just bitch-slapped with. Ultimately it’s in the experiencing of it – the living it – that truly counts. Once it’s done. It’s done. Try and grow from it. Try and make different choices if they didn’t work for you. Try and stay true to the journey by choosing ultimate surrender. But the moment has passed, let it go now. Don’t cling. Don’t over-think it. Don’t tear it to pieces and over analyse.  Soleil doesn’t dwell on anything. She falls, hits her head, cries. 30 seconds later as soon as the pain has gone, so has her attachment to the experience. Finished. That moment is done and therefore she is no longer in it. She’s in the next moment – perhaps playing joyful, cuddling, discovering. Just be here now. And now be here. And here. here, again. With a little baby at the centre of your universe there really isn’t much time to ponder and reflect (or brush your hair, drink a glass of water…) nor is there much need to. Because if you are truly honouring the moment as a baby forces you to do (and as I am trying to do!), then you are truly in the flow of life, and the past/future trip-out is irrelevant and meaningless. ++ Now here’s where I contradict myself. I love to journal. I also finding reflecting, pondering and analysing very easy to do. It comes naturally to me. So I’m not saying I NEVER DO THIS. In fact, I journal almost daily. I internally run a quick review, almost daily. But as of late, I’m no longer getting hung up in that space of trying to gain clarity on what’s been and gone, anymore. I am no longer caught in the web of ‘what ifs’ or the net of disappointments. Nor do I pull apart and analyse what I did that I can improve on. I water down the intensity of ‘trying’ to do more, be more, perfect and polish. Instead, I might gently review, or touch on a lesson, or sit with an insight. Jot down some heart-felt intentions, desires and dreams. And then I offer up a prayer – to the divine source, to the universal energy that we are all part of, to my own guides and angels, to all mothers from all time… I ask for love I ask for foresight I ask for patience I ask for support I ask for light And I offer up my weighty concerns, and my fears and disappointments and my insecurities in the hands of my higher self and ask HER to take over. I ask her to carry my intentions for the year, to choose my soulful goals, to take my lessons and learnings and the rights/wrongs from the year that was and place them into the well of my inner wisdom, so that I may honour those experiences. I place complete trust in HER wisdom and inner knowing…. with the understanding and agreement that she will take me down the path best for my own soul growth. Who knows if this way of doing this will sustain me in the future. Right now I have the perfect cocktail of mama-brain, 10 months sleep deprivation and a baby demanding my everything to ensure that any other way of starting the new year/planning/reviewing would just not be possible. But I do hope that if at some point I feel called to do this differently again that I remember the pleasure and the freedom in simply letting the moment be, and letting it be the ultimate ruler in my life. ++ I’m no expert on this mama-journey. But what I can do is choose to keep my heart and mind open to what it is teaching me. So far, this has been and I know will continue to be my biggest spiritual awakening ever. It’s not tingly, and other-worldy. There are rarely those ‘divinely touched’ moments. It’s usually got me covered in mango, all sorts of […] Read more

How do you NOT want to feel this year?

How do you NOT want to feel this year?

Posted January 04, 2016

How do you NOT want to feel this year? Happiest new year to you. I’ve been off the grid a little over the xmas/ny break… which wasn’t my intention. You know I had all these awesome things I want to share with you. Such as my mini yoga video on ‘How to beat the Christmas Bloat’ But as life would have it, the last two weeks have been my toughest yet. In fact, Christmas didn’t even happen for our little family. We were all struck down with gastro, fevers and lots of other exhausting things that little babies throw in the mix. Such is life! So here I am today, and we are five days into the new year. Usually I spend a few days to a couple of weeks working through my feelings – desires, intentions, reflections, ponderings – to align myself to the year ahead. I don’t have nearly as much time to delve into this annual exercise as I’d like to, but I do have one fail safe way to do this – to drill down into my soul and get the guidance I need. And I share this fail safe way in an archived video I did this time, two years ago. In this video I guide you through the super simple task of discovering your own core desired feelings – thanks to Danielle LaPorte + her Desire Map – from a slightly different perspective. The perspective from the SHADOW. From what might seem to be ‘the negative’ perspective. And that is to ask your soul: “What do I NOT want to feel this year”… Sometimes I struggle to really pinpoint my core desired feelings, but when I look at what I don’t want to feel (relive, experience, push through) then I often directly hit on how I DO want to feel. Want to learn how to do this? CLICK HERE to watch this ‘olden-but-golden” video blog from 2014. How do I not want to feel? Bitter. Frustrated. Like the victim. Over it. Dark. Instead I want to feel: Surrendered. Present. Appreciative. Grateful. In it. Light. Expansive. (I’m such a wordy person I could GO on forever…) Have a watch of it yourself and then get going on figuring out your feelings to guide and light the way for #Sweet2016! Feel free to hit send and tell me how you don’t (and DO) want to feel this year. ++ Oh and when I mention The Freedom Project in this video, although there isn’t a new round starting soon, it is always OPEN for business. Meaning – you can start at anytime. So check it out! ++ love + light, Claire xx Read more

Manifesting in the new year

Manifesting in the new year

Posted January 03, 2016

Manifesting is the buzz word at the moment, isn’t it? It’s the latest craze and personally, I’m all for it. Why the hell not – I mean, the word is empowering, it’s about creation, isn’t it? And why shouldn’t we be creating the life that we want? To me, manifesting is about bringing something (experience, person, attitude, situation) to the forefront – shining a light on your dreams, amplifying your desires and getting shiny-diamond clear. I say ‘forefront’ because what you truly desire, that is for your own growth, already exists… it’s just hanging out in the shadows, waiting to be called forth. It can only be called forth through you – your WILL. Nothing will ever happen without your permission. Manifesting is about realising that within you is the ultimate resource (your own vibrational energy) for attracting what you wan, as soon as you are ready, willing and able. This time of year with intentions and soulful goals flying around, the energy is almost electrified. Most of the yoga classes I am teaching at the moment are packed – a roomful of yogis with hopeful dreams of bendy asana, quiet minds and devoted practice. The point is, this time of year is the right time to really tap into the power of manifestation. It’s not rocket science, but it does take focused awareness and loving attention. In today’s VLOG I guide you through manifestation. A few things I’d like to highlight for you: I share with you what I used to think about manifesting I talk about the energy within us and how this is integral to getting what we want I talk through why (real) manifesting has to be in alignment with your truth, not your surface level desires. I talk about how you already have what you want + how lack perpetuates lack I share a personal example of how I am harnessing the power of manifestation right now I offer up some simple examples of how to manifest When you’ve finished watching the vlog I’d love to hear how YOU manifest or how you are planning on creating + attracting what your soul desires this year?  Share below in the comments! ++ So, you want to manifest a beautiful life? Let me ask you this…do you have your roadmap to happy? How will you navigate towards joy and balance in Mind-Body-Soul? Do you feel equipped to map out your pathway to a year of joy, balance, happiness, success? Do you have the tools you need? Are you ready to take the inspired action to create happiness? This year I am doing something new and oh-so juicy and special. Starting early February, I’ll be holding circle in an intimate group coaching program: Your Roadmap to Happy: 10 Week Online Group Immersion into your Mind-Body-Soul I want to work with YOU, specifically on arming you up with the right tools and knowledge to create your ROADMAP TO HAPPINESS – in Mind, Body and Soul. Manifesting your life of HAPPY begins with immersion – diving in to you, learning the right tools and practices and leaning into the right kind of support. This potent, immersive, empowering group program includes: Click HERE to find out more and join us! p.s places are strictly limited so get in quick! Hope you can join us! Happy Manifesting and happy new year! Claire x Save Save Save Save Save Save Save Read more

12 Days Of Radiance Christmas Sale

12 Days Of Radiance Christmas Sale

Posted December 14, 2015

25% off meditations + get my INSPIRED ebook for FREE! 12 days until Christmas! (P.s keep reading until the end for my #12DaysOfRadiance offer!) It’s such a cliche thing to say, but WOW, I can’t believe we are here already. It felt like just yesterday I was heavily pregnant and lolling about in the ocean, biding my time blissfully until bubby landed earth side. Christmas last year feels but a moment ago. Which of course leads me to contemplate the year that 2015 has been, and the year that I dream 2016 to be. So many lessons. So much joy – incredible love that I still don’t feel I can contain and manage in this limited human body that I am. So many struggles and challenges that both feel etched in my heart and mind yet oh-so-distant… all at the same time. There has been laughter. Full bellied giggles. There’s been astonishment and wonder. AWE at the miracle of life. Not to mention all the tears. Oh yes, a torrent of them at times. Moments of sheer contentment and pure acceptance only to be flipped when frustration, resistance and despair showed up. And did I mention the sleep deprivation? In fact, that hasn’t quite passed yet but thankfully I’ve come to accept it (mostly) and find a way of living on limited sleep. Oh the joys of motherhood! This year has been predominantly about bunkering down as I climb the steepest learning curve I’ve ever faced. It’s been about paring back and simplifying life as I surrender and soften into every moment. It’s been about completely embracing the moment – one hour at a time – whilst keeping one eye on the future. So much change – such an extreme cataclysmic shift and gear change – has meant this year has forced me to let go of all control even more and see change as the new norm. There has been a change in social life, personal time, business life. But with that there have been new connections made, fresh realisations, realigned dreams, new visions and a renewed sense of ‘being’, of purpose… of love. And you know, the one thing that’s been constant, my confidant and my truest guide in 2015 has been myself – my self in meditation. Myself in spaciousness, in stillness, in presence. Meditation has been a beautiful, delightful and often times challenging practice of mine for close to 6 years now. It’s changed so many times over the years but like a loyal dog it has always wagged its tail in my direction, jumped on my lap and reminded me how much IT loves me, and how much I love it. I’ve meditated whilst breastfeeding, at 3am in the morning. Moving, mindful meditations on morning walks. I’ve breathed into stillness laying on the floor by my babies cot, or in the quick and stolen minutes whilst she plays in her cot. I’ve meditated when hubby gets home from work. And some days not at all. Or in the shower. Each cascade of fresh, cleansing water my new mantra. I carry my headphones with me everywhere, ready to plug in to a guided meditation as the feeling calls me to. Truthfully, as I reflect on this year and ponder what the future holds I know that all has been and will continue to be well because I have the life skill of meditation – of being with myself – to hold space for me. Meditation draws out an inner radiance within. A glow that is felt from the heart, that radiates outwards. A secret, energetic potion that invites more love in, more light, more abundance, more of everything good. ++ Which is why this Christmas – starting today – I want to share with you the 12 Days of Radiance.  Each day (via Instagram and Facebook) you’ll see a beautiful quote – a way to remember your inner radiance – to inspire you to connect inward. To spend this sacred time of year reflecting and reviewing. Pondering and wondering. And all the while creating and holding space for YOU! Here is the first day of the #The12DaysOfRadiance With each day of the #12DaysOfRadiance and as gift to you for sticking by me this year (thank you!) over the 12 Days of Radiance you can get 25% of my hugely popular meditation albums: AND you also get a FREE copy of my ebook: INSPIRED – A DIY Retreat to Distil Your Dreams + Clarify Your Visions. This is the ultimate guide for your own DIY soul-centred retreat. A chance to step-away from the busy-ness of life and get shiny-diamond clear on your intentions dreams and visions. INSPIRED is a juicy ‘how-to’ – a mash-up of self-care + self-love, precious tips This ebook is perfect to help you get clear on what you want, moving into 2016 with journaling exercises, guided EFT scripts and so much more. You get: 25% off one or all three of my Reveal Your Inner Radiance meditation albums – That’s just $29 for one album or $80 for all three + PLUS My ebook: INSPIRED for FREEEEEEEE! Please join me on taking the time to reconnect with YOU. To create space for YOU. To reflect on 2015 and plant the seedlings of your 2016 dreams. And most importantly, to tap into your inner radiance and glow like the god/goddess of light that you are! CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR MEDITATIONS + FREE EBOOK Love + light, Claire xx P.s Don’t forget to follow the #12DaysOfRadiance via Instagram and Facebook! Read more

It’s time to master your inner mean girl

It’s time to master your inner mean girl

Posted December 08, 2015

Your mean girl, as my beautiful friend Melissa Ambrosini calls it, is your inner critic. Your ego. That ‘voice’ that so often tears your down, judges you, nit-picks and sends you into a spin of ‘not good enoughs’. Well, this same gorgeous friend has written her first book – Mastering Your Mean Girl – for all us women who, unfortunately, live under the thumb of that inner voice. And Melissa is here to share with you just how to find a way back into the driver seat of your life – instead of your mean girl taking control. Mel and I had a chat last week on all things ‘Mean Girl’ which we recorded for you! In this chat we share: How Mel came to understand and learn to master her own mean girl. Mel’s three main tips to start mastering your mean girl today! Our own personal and vulnerable examples of how our inner ego-voice showed up to (try) and tear us down. How to work with your mean girl, instead of fight against it. And soo much more! I’m so thrilled to share with you our enlightening conversation and of course to introduce you to Mel’s new book. Mel is a bright light! And the message she is sharing will shine down into the darkness bringing clarity and insight. It might be a new message to you, or a familiar one, but either way I know her story and reflections will bring you what you need. CLICK HERE TO PLAY (right click to download and save – listen to us on your walk or on the way to work!) https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/79968734/Melissa%20Ambrosini%20on%202015-12-04%20at%2017.39.mp3 Love + Light, Claire Read more

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