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Bringing Aphrodite Back. Feminine Power, Silence + Stillness.

Bringing Aphrodite Back. Feminine Power, Silence + Stillness.

Posted July 05, 2016

We are always guided and supported… and sometimes we are nudged to pay attention to one particular thing, even if it seems to have  absolutely no relevance to you, whatsover. Well, this recently happened to me. I was guided towards the Goddess, Aphrodite. I kept pulling her in oracle card readings. I would randomly open to a magazine article that mentioned her. Facebook posts would appear with reference to this Goddess. It all culminated one Friday night. I saw an offer from Marianne Williamson on her facebook page (that was about to expire in less than hour) that said with the purchase of her new book I could get free access to her Aphrodite training…The book didn’t resonate with me (yet) but the training did. BIG time. I didn’t hesitate. I paid and signed-up. I’ve been down this road before enough times to know how to get out of my own way and pay attention to the clear sign-posts from the divine. And it was less than 10 minutes into the first training video that the penny dropped… I understood that quickly why I needed this training. And I’m going to hazard a guess that so many of us women, collectively need a little more Aphrodite too. Aphrodite. Goddess of love, romance, sensuality, sexuality, birth, joy, energy, creativity. Divine Feminine energy… As I dove into this training this is the question(s) that presented itself; Where have we disowned her? Where have we replaced this divine, feeling based feminine energy with the action, the doing, the headiness of the masculine? And why? I’m going to be honest, I’m still in the midst of this training… and, well, still in ‘training’ with Aphrodite. So I’m definitely not sharing this with any expertise. However, what I am learning so far has struck such a deep, primal, almost ancient chord within me that I had to share it. ++ I’ve come to realise lately that the disowning of my inner Aphrodite began many years ago. Striving for success. Building my business. Conforming, to fit in. Aligning with feminist viewpoints (and taking it to the extreme) Focusing on the external world. Living an ‘action’ based life. Ignoring my intuition. Wanting to be seen as a capable woman. Hiding my emotions (so I don’t seem weak). Rejecting my moon cycle. Appropriating masculine ways (of talking, dressing, behaving, working…) Pregnancy, birth and so much of this motherhood journey reconnected me deeply with an inner softness, the energy of feminine magic and goddess nature. I even wrote this blog – Crossing Over From The Head to The Heart – on how I’m learning to live a more heart-based life since becoming a mama. However, there is so much catastrophizing, headi-ness, organising, structure, over-planning, action, doing (instead of being) that comes with motherhood too. And it has done a phenomenal job of muscling its way back in to sideline that beautiful Aphrodite energy. Today I’m in a push-pull game between surrendering into the softness, the love-bubble of motherhood and the divine feminine, with the masculine world of action. Trying to find my power in being ALL things to all people (a great mama, wife, business owner, coach, domestic goddess) sometimes leaves me depleted instead of empowered. Making sure I keep my shit together sometimes feels like I’m striving for a badge of honour. Yet I’ve never felt more delicate, vulnerable and called towards the internal world of stillness. Often I just want to be still. Go inward, retreat. Simultaneously I can feel so fired up, ready to make my dreams a reality, driven to action… The masculine and the feminine – two powerful energies playing all out together. And that’s ok, right? We all have the feminine and masculine energies within us. But truthfully, whether you are a male or a female in our world it’s so much easier to revert into the masculine way of action, strategy, solution, doing, planning, thinking. It is for me at least. ++ Reconnect with the power of your feminine silence; Harness your inner stillness. Since starting this training with Marianne Williamson, there has been one major take-away that keeps playing in my heart on repeat. And this is what I really want to share with you, because it’s really helping me to call Aphrodite in – to invite her to play a bigger role and to find her place within my life with more solidity. Let me explain this idea as simply as I can. Feminine energy is threaded with vulnerability.  That Vulnerability = power. In fact, it it is our power. However, it is a different kind of power from a different source. Underworld vibes. Goddess energy. Mystical almost. This power is magnetic. Internal. Intuitive. Deep. It has an immovable, unshakeable quality. A stillness. A presence. A rawness. This is the true essence of woman. Emotive. Wise. Loving. Nurturing.  As women we reflect, listen, invite in. Now this has really hit home for me – we also offer a place to rest to those that need softness, love, nourishment, tenderness, beauty, joy. A safe place to be vulnerable and raw too. We bring others into our magnetic stillness. We offer healing. The most incredible bit is that the feminine energy can do all that in total silence. Without words. Without a song and dance. There’s no need to ‘do’ anything. The Divine Feminine HOLDS space for your pain, your joy, your vulnerability, your hurt, your happiness, your struggle… The Aphrodite energy of love is powerful. It can move mountains, and create great change. And it can do it simply by harnessing stillness, through silence. By simply being and not doing. We have a voice, and yes we are woman, hear us roar. But maybe we should try whispering a little more, or even saying nothing at all… As I was absorbing this lesson from Marianne, my head was spinning. And my heart was screaming YES! Silence. Sweet surrender into stillness. Presence. The real art of listening. Cracking open in the darkness. I scribbled these words into my journal… “Just because I have a voice that doesn’t mean I always have to use it. It’s time to reconnect […] Read more

When inspiration doesn’t show up

When inspiration doesn’t show up

Posted June 22, 2016

I’m sitting here with the best of intentions – to write you a blog post this week that will serve you in some way. I want to always authentically share with you my own personal journey through life, as it unfolds, and the lessons I garner from it all. But today, I’m sorry to say, inspiration has not shown up. I don’t have anything to offer today. It’s ok, I understand if you want to stop reading here… Maybe inspiration has ditched me because I’m a little brain dead – I was awake for hours last night soothing my little one. Or maybe it’s the full moon (apologies beautiful luna, I do blame you for a lot!)… Or maybe, inspiration just isn’t playing ball for no particular reason, just because. So this is how it plays out in my mind. My ever faithful, slightly bossy, definitely controlling left brain kicks in and says;  “Think Claire, think! Surely you’ve got something to share. Surely there is a juicy blog post idea saved in your evernote! You can’t deliver NOTHING!” And for a few moments I am completely sucked into this energy of force and control. Why? Because I don’t want to let you down. And because producing something might make me feel like I’ve accomplished something (other than managing countless number of tantrums and successfully getting out of the house without egg on my face, literally… #mumlife). Or maybe I buy into that left-brain, masculine energy of ACTION because I want to feel worthy, good enough. Here’s the shift though. The more I connect to that energy the more I start to feel… closed. Contracted. Wound up. Tension builds when I’m trying to force something that is not in flow… When I push against what I’m intuitively feeling then it starts to feel abrasive. Sandpaper grazes against a brick wall. Thankfully, gratefully, I’ve made it one of my life lessons to pay attention to the way something FEELS and move forward from there. So this is where I’m at… I’ve felt that abrasion. I’ve also felt the disappointment too that I’m not feeling ‘inspired’ to share something of value. I’m in a state of awareness. Here I move into experimentation mode. I ask myself; What would it feel like if I tuned into the energy, the feelings, the undercurrent beneath this ‘lack of inspiration’… let’s just try that on for size. So I do. I feel into that ‘lack’. I feel into what is hiding beneath the uninspired me and I can see it’s nothing to be frustrated with, or annoyed at. It’s just different. And it needs to be honoured. It’s but a moment in time that will flow on by if I allow it to be here now. With that, I embrace what I’m feeling. I accept that there is ‘no inspiration’ and I’m feeling almost empty inside, void of creativity. But I open to it… and I even start to like it. This space of ‘nothingness…’ And guess what happens? I write something, THIS particular something that you’re reading right now, actually. And as I read over it I realise that it’s these words, precisely, that I needed to write and share with you. This is how I’m supposed to serve you today. By allowing myself to be ok when inspiration doesn’t show up, and to let go of the need to force and make it happen the result is an open sharing to you. In turn that becomes an open invitation to you to be not only be OK with but to fully embrace those days when inspiration (or joy, creativity, love, action, focus, motivation) doesn’t show up for you. When we accept what is, we create spaciousness around the very thing that feels contracted, closed-off and shut off from ourselves. It’s in the space that we invite flow back in and end up washing away whatever is standing in the way. Love + light, Claire Read more

Choose compassion in the face of anger

Choose compassion in the face of anger

Posted June 15, 2016

You know those moments when you are being supremely tested  – something or someone is pushing and prodding at you. Bringing up all the feelings, reactions and negativity that you don’t want to experience. Your frustration is at an all time high. Perhaps someone is being out-right rude to you. You might be having an irrational argument with someone who just won’t let up. Your buttons are being pushed (over and over) Or maybe (like I am of late) you are being tested by your spirited, seriously demanding and determined toddler with full-blown tantrums and resistance at every turn. ++ In those moments a version of me I prefer not to give too much attention to comes out (although I totally respect and appreciate that I have a shadow side and that I have to face up to all sides of my coin). I’m quick to lose my cool. I want to stamp my feet. Roar loudly. My ego wants to take control of the situation or the person. It wants to dominate and command attention with it’s angry words. It wants to put-out the circumstance with its fire. I feel compelled to REACT instead of respond. I switch into a mode of being that is not constructive nor is it conscious. At times this response can start to boil up within me – it threatens to erupt. Gratefully it doesn’t happen often, but it happens just enough for me to see it. This especially happens when Soleil has a meltdown. Her frustration at being removed from something dangerous, her inability to communicate what she wants to do, or her annoyance that I’ve stopped the flow of a particularly interesting adventure she is on can all lead to an all out struggle. However, it’s not just these moments with Soleil that really test me with an uncontrollable urge to (over) react, lash out and snap back. The desire to SHUT down those testing moments with anger, fear-based tactics, raised voices and force has showed up in arguments with my husband and family members. This might come as a surprise to you as I know many of you have emailed and commented that I am ‘so calm and gentle’ or that ‘I have my shit together’… But let me just say this; I am a beautifully flawed human. I am so in love with self-reflection and inner work BECAUSE I’m flawed. There is nothing perfect about this humble little human. Thank god for that – otherwise what growth and expansion is left to do? It’s not that I am a walking, raging ball of anger… quite the opposite, but I am being truthful that there are ugly moments when I am seriously tested. What I can say is this… I make a conscious effort to get up close and personal with my shadow. I want to know my flaws  – which I see as signposts guiding me towards a more wise, light-filled, conscious being. Without peering under and pulling apart too many layers I like to ‘understand’ where that little wound was first inflicted. And with this case – reacting in the heat of the moment – I know I’ve simply appropriated the unnecessary, narrow-minded, flash anger that runs through my family. Coming from a Middle-Eastern family, it shouldn’t be a surprise that ‘passion’ is threaded in my DNA. So, why am I sharing all of this with you? Since becoming a mama I now cannot look away from this any longer. I have spent years fine-tuning my ability to stay present, to respond instead of react and to manage my frustration and anger so I can move through challenges. So much so that my family calls me the ‘peace maker’. But life is about continual growth and up-leveling. We never find perfection, just a chance to refine the way we be, do, think. Motherhood has shown where the cracks live – haphazardly sealed with spiritual glue. Motherhood has tested my peaceful, calm and present attitude and asked me to up-level again. To refine… The frustration strikes when I’m trying to push a heavy pram, with an 11kg baby up a steep hill who is screaming, whinging, trying to climb out and throwing everything out of the pram at the same time. Or the sheer exhaustion muddled with a sense of futility when she flat out refuses to get into her car seat, after 20 minutes of negotiation. My only option left is to yell to get her attention. Or the exasperation and irritation in those moments when she’s desperately trying to communicate something and I’m just not getting it. She hits me. I feel anger. Meltdown of epic proportions. This is where compassion comes into play I know that the first step in healing my shadows is AWARENESS. To notice where my ego flares up. To pause and breathe. To take a moment to come back into presence. To breathe again. And to remember that the energy I put out will be reflected back to me. I choose to soften. And then I choose compassion. Instead of reacting from frustration and raising my voice. Or snapping, lashing out and breathing fire through my nostrils. I choose compassion. I choose to go gently, softly. Why? Why in those moments when I’m being pushed, and tested do I choose compassion. Why do I go the complete opposite route to what my human (ego) instincts push me to do? I choose compassion because it is in this moment that the very person that is pushing my buttons needs MORE love than they may seem to deserve. I choose compassion because I do not own or control this person. I choose compassion because anger and fear breeds more anger and fear. I choose compassion because I don’t have the right to bully anyone into submission, into ‘my way’. I choose compassion because I need love to hold me and guide me the right way. It’s in these moments that we must look beneath the […] Read more

It’s all about connection, collaboration and changing lives

It’s all about connection, collaboration and changing lives

Posted June 07, 2016

It was a few weeks back that I shared with you the BIG changes I made in my life and business. As I kicked off a new wellness venture I called out to YOU to invite you to join me. I asked you if you were ready to experience a life of MORE. And gratefully, so many incredible women said yes. They put their hand up to say… Yes, I’m ready for me to come first. I’m prepared to do the work to reach my dreams. I’m willing to collaborate and connect with like-minded women. Now is the time to change my life in health, wealth and to do the same for others. It’s time to live a big, bold, beautiful life. You know what? I’m so blessed to be teaming up with a sisterhood that is no longer willing to play small. Even better, I feel pinch-myself-lucky knowing that I am not going it alone, anymore. I must’ve done something right to be gifted this opportunity. ++ As a Life + Wellness Coach, Yoga Teacher and Blogger I’ve been a solo-entrepreneur for close to six years now. To say that I have expanded, transformed, pushed through limitations and learned so much would be an understatement. However, there has always been one thing missing for me. That one thing is connection and collaboration and changing lives… Let me explain… I am equal parts Introvert and Extrovert. The introverted Claire loves to hide away, working quietly, independently. She also needs to refuel and reboot through quiet time, space, meditation and reflection. Often the introverted Claire can takeover quite a bit – and takeover she did for most of the last 6 years. As I slowly, deliberately, passionately built my online and coaching business I noticed the introverted Claire took centre stage. Honestly, that needed to happen. Head down, heart focused. However, the extroverted Claire is still and always will be a huge part of me. She is social, she is team orientated, she likes to lead a tribe. Extroverted Claire is also passionate about teaching, collaborating, brainstorming and heart storming. In my old life (PR, Journalism, Event Management…) The extroverted Claire sat in the limelight, which clearly explains why, once I started my own business, the introverted version of me decided it was time to own some space. Today, as a mama, coach, blogger, creator, teacher, speaker, entrepreneur, girl boss it’s become so obvious that there is no chance for one or the other (introverted or extroverted) to get more air time. Those equal parts of me are being called into balance now. Those equal parts of me NEED to work synergistically and to collaborate together.  I’ve come to realise there is deep craving, a palpable need to connect, collaborate, team up, support and be supported. The desire to bounce ideas off someone else, to dream together, to build together – this literally gives me heart flutters and lights me up from the inside out! Which is why when I teamed up with some incredible friends and #girlboss babes (Shout outs to Debbie Spellman, Connie Chapman, Valeria Ramirez, Alissa Buttiglieri, Amelia Williams and more…***.) I’ve felt this overwhelming gratitude, joy and excitement to be in collaboration, deeply connected, supported and held in life and biz by this Sisterhood! [*** Seriously, there are TOO many incredible women to mention here. AND YES, I seriously get to collaborate with these sisters!) I no longer feel like I am the only one fighting my corner, or that I have to go it alone. I have this beautiful space – claireobeid.com – where I get to satisfy and nurture that introvert in me. Here I am able to teach, share authentically, blog, coach, create beautiful gifts and connect with you. Now, I have this beautiful wellness business – a side hustle that nourishes ME and so many others – where I team up with a powerhouse collective of kick-ass girl boss babes. We are making waves, we are shaking things up. We are spreading health and wealth as far as we can. We are OWNING it. ++ So, this is where you come into it… We are growing our team. We are looking for that next incredible soul who is ready to step up. We are keeping our eyes peeled for that special someone who is ready to join our tribe. I am currently taking applications because we, as a team, want legit, real deal women who are seriously keen to bust through their upper limit beliefs and to take their life by the horns (thrash it about some) and get a seriously juicy life in the process. Let me ask you this:  Do you currently have a business but truthfully you’re living month to month? Do you want abundance, finally. Do you want to keep following your passions but without the hustle to make ends meet? Are you unhappy in your job/work? Do you want to own your life, your hours, your time? Do you want to do something that feels BIG and special and makes an impact? Are you tired of the travel, the long hours, the soul-less work? Do you want freedom, success and abundance and TIME. Do you want to be your own #girlboss? Do you want to team up with empowered women who are LIT up with passion and drive? Do you want to be part of a sisterhood with a shared vision? Do you want to be coached and mentored by industry leaders ALL whilst growing your business? Do you want to make a difference? Do you care about changing the lives of others for the better? Do you naturally influence, lead, walk your talk? Finally, are you ready to help others live BIG and for you to do the same. So if you answered a big fat YES to those questions. And if you are ready to team up, collaborate and connect... If more health and wealth is calling you… And the chance to seriously change the lives of others then I want to speak with you. Seriously. I’ll share more information with those who are ready to […] Read more

Lead with the positive. The struggle doesn’t make you worthy.

Lead with the positive. The struggle doesn’t make you worthy.

Posted May 31, 2016

Struggle doesn’t make you worthy. Before you jump on me, no, I’m not saying that if you are going through a tough time that you are unworthy. I’m saying something completely different. I’m highlighting that we, as a collective, glorify the negative, the struggle, the hard times instead of choosing to lead with the positive. Let me be SUPER CLEAR HERE – if you are going through a really challenging time (the spectrum for ‘challenging’ is so wide) please know that I am 100% for taking a good hard look at the shadows… feeling all the feels from the pain to the anger and beyond. We cannot honour this human existence without being authentic and real with where we are at. But this post is not about embracing the shadows. It’s about learning to not get entangled in them and making the detrimental choice to, day after day, lead with our struggles. Many of us ‘front up’ to life peering through the lens of the negative, me included. And I think it’s time to choose differently. ++ At the end of the day when you are chatting to your partner (or your bestie or your mum) about your day what is your ‘default’ summary of the day that was? How do you package up your day? What attitude threads through your review of how the day unfolded? Does it go a little something like this: “Oh god, I’m so tired. Today was hectic.” or maybe… “Yeah, I’m ok. So glad today is over. I can’t believe how many things went wrong” or if you’re a full time mama/papa maybe this sounds more familiar… “I’m done. Today was a complete mess. Bub threw more than my fair share of tantrums, wouldn’t eat lunch and flat out refused to sleep…” ++ So this is my recent pondering – Why do we always run a highlight reel of everything that went wrong? Why do we always lead first with the struggle? This is something I noticed myself doing a few months back and it’s been a slow, steady road towards changing that, since then. So, hear me out here while I flesh this out… I absolutely do not think it’s worthwhile to avoid and disregard those moments of sheer frustration and irritating challenges that we face, daily. Sometimes it feels good to share it, get it off our chest and be done with it. It feels good to get it all out. But that’s exactly the point – being ‘DONE with it’ should happen not far after the moment. Yet we file them away and take a ‘count’ of all the struggle moments we’ve had as if it’s a honourable badge of self worth and effort. Almost as if it’s a measure of how hard we worked that day and therefore how valuable we are. On a sub conscious level, many of us are running this program, this belief that struggle equates to value. The more challenging and crazy busy the day the more kudos and brownie points we receive. We did good, we fought the good fight. The tougher I did it, the more worthy I am.  I’ve often found myself feeling guilty for the good times. I’ve noticed that sometimes, when I go to tell my husband that the day I just had was amazing, exciting, inspiring. Or just simply, nice. Why do I feel guilty? Aren’t we all out for a slice of happiness? Don’t we deserve that and also want that happiness for our loved ones? Or, even worse still, something else I’ve noticed is that the tougher the day the more sorry we can feel for ourselves… and the more we then believe someone else should fill us up with love. We want to be recognised for how hard we’ve worked and how we’ve struggled. This recognition, temporarily makes us feel good enough… ++ What I’ve come to learn is this; It doesn’t make you a better person (or better at being a mum, at your job etc) to be fighting and struggling all day, it doesn’t make you a bad person either. Your worth is not measured in how hard you are doing it. It won’t make you feel any better to be perpetually focused on the negatives. It might feel good to get it off your chest, but it certainly will not lift you up and into the light It is no one else’s responsibility to fill in the empty gaps with thick layers of happiness and love to cover up and make up for the frustration, exhaustion or anger you are feeling. It never satisfies your soul to seek recognition, love and approval from others. This is our ego hunting for love in the external world. Yes, an admirable goal, but one that is simply just a shell of what you are truly looking for. It’s not fair to dump the worst of you on the people that deserve the best of you. Time to reframe and find a new way to be in your day: Let’s start with this truth… Your worth is based on WHO you are. Which is a beautiful soul. You are worthy simply for existing. Ok, got that? Good.. you might not believe it yet, but start to tune into this universal truth. You are worthy. Just because. Now, when it comes to going about your day and being your precious human self know this… How you choose to respond, be and behave in the light of happiness or the shadows of struggle is what really matters. It’s not about what is actually happening. The context, ultimately is irrelevant, because some things never change and some things are constantly changing… What do I mean by this? Soleil, for the moment, is always going to be teething, throwing public displays of protest (read: tantrums) and just being her toddler self. So, if that is my reality for now, my focus should be on how I respond, behave, be, act, think within this context as opposed to focusing […] Read more

Find Your Tribe

Find Your Tribe

Posted May 24, 2016

It’s time to find your tribe. Find your collective, your crew. Connection is a deep soul craving that will nourish and cradle you. This is the message my base chakra kept sending me. Granted, my base chakra needed a lot of work after pregnancy and birth and a key element to rebuilding my base chakra was to really zone in on the areas I most felt depleted in. Or where I felt ‘lack’ or weakness. Through meditation and self-reflection married with my understanding of what the base chakra represents I came to truly know what was needed to rebuild this vital, foundational energy centre. Amongst the mess of my finances, career, feeling grounding, home life and structure the stand out was finding and being part of a tribe. They say it takes a village to raise a child and I now know that to be the most on-point statement around motherhood ever. For many of us we don’t have that village vibe. You might not live close to your family. Or perhaps, like me, you do live very close but for various reasons you can’t lean on them as much as you want to. Or perhaps they don’t quite satisfy you on a soul level. Gratefully, as I worked on rebuilding my base chakra through meditation and energy work, my base started working for me. Calling in situations, circumstances, people to guide me home to my tribe. The importance of connection As I’ve shared many times before, the first 3-4 months of Soleil’s life was so challenging it truly catapulted me into a different space, time, dimension. [BTW if you want to hear more about those early months of mama hood for me, head HERE to listen to my podcast interview with Amy Taylor-Kabbaz] It was this cataclysmic, seismic shift that drew me into an isolated bubble. I wasn’t able to make it to Mother’s Group for months. My parents were away overseas for 3 months. My sisters were busy with their children and fighting virus after virus – which meant I couldn’t see them for most of last winter. One day, I had 30 minutes to myself so I headed straight down to the beach for a walk. I spotted a mother’s group and something dragged me over to them. Their babies looked the same age as Soleil. And despite the tears literally welling up in my eyes and jamming my throat I gingerly approached them. Now, if you know me well enough by now you’ll probably balk at the idea that I did anything ‘gingerly’… it’s not my style at all. I’m more the direct/opinionated/confident type (with a decent helping of introvert thrown into the mix). But, as described I was isolated, all out of whack energetically and in a really dark place. So gingerly, nervously, is how I approached these beautiful women. They saw me coming. They smiled over at me. All the while I was thinking ‘Claire, what are you doing?!’… and yet I was propelled forward, my feet moved, my voice opened and I started talking… I mumbled something about never being able to attend Mother’s Group. I quickly shared that Soleil was a very unsettled baby but I’d love to come to the next meet-up. These women looked liked they had their shit together – a big leap from where I was in that moment. And it terrified me – comparisonitis kicked in, but yet still… I kept going. Something greater than me with more knowing powered through me in that moment. They were so warm. So loving. So gracious and patient. Many months later I personally thanked one of those mamas who, particularly, had been so inviting and compassionate to me. She told me that she saw how broken I was but she was impressed that I had reached out to them. That meant a lot to me – to know that she could really ‘see’ me in that moment and chose to respond from her heart. This Mother’s Group became the beginning of a massive realisation. It was my base chakra that dragged me over to them – to give me a taste of what sisterhood felt like. To remind me that sharing experiences and connection was vital to my soul happiness.  I did my best to attend these groups weekly and the women were (are!) all incredible, loving and straight-up good eggs. But there was something missing for me, although I never placed my finger on it. Find Your Tribe It wasn’t until one late winter’s day that I took Soleil out, in the ergo baby, for a walk to a local cafe. Underneath this beautiful little oasis of trees I passed by another mama carrying her hub. We smiled at each other. And just as we were about to pass each other, her beautiful bubba and my little sunbeam reached out to each other. Those little, chubby fingers stretching out wanting to grab hold of each other. They kicked and giggled. We practically did the same. The connection was and still is real. Myself and this other mama stood there chatting in the way that only mamas do. Hurried, excited, jumping from one thing to another in an effort to learn and absorb as much of each other as possible. It’s almost like speed-dating. 3 minutes to decide (before your babies start whinging to move on) if this woman is your type of mama. I knew instantly – she intrigued me. She is so different to me yet so aligned. We exchanged numbers. And from that day on I bumped into her and saw her everywhere. We eventually found a groove and started catching up with mama/baby play dates. Not long after that in late spring down at the beach with countless babies and mamas at the kids pool I found myself talking to one particular mama. I trust my intuition implicitly and on reflection I can see again how I was sub consciously gravitating towards certain energies. This mama is into health, wellness, spirituality. She is so generous – […] Read more

Your intention holds all the power

Your intention holds all the power

Posted May 17, 2016

Let me take you back to last Saturday night. I’m in my daughter’s room, on her daybed. She’s wrapped around me in a big bear hug. She’s unwell. I found her in her cot surrounded by more vomit than seems possible for a little person. She was calm, she was safe, but she clearly wasn’t well. By this point she had thrown up another three times and I’d spent an hour laying down with her, attempting to sooth her back to sleep. But sleep just wasn’t happening. I remember lying there in the dark, Deva Premal playing in the background and I thought to myself; “How can I help her to heal. How can I ease her discomfort and guide her back to the restful sleep she clearly needs”… And a thought – which is how it always how my intuition shows up for me – landed in my mind. It said; “Claire, use your hands”. Everything clicked. Reiki. Channeling divine source energy. Shifting the blocks. Be the conduit for healing. ++ Reiki, prayer, healing. Many years ago when I was deep in my personal journey of self exploration, self healing and spirituality I studied Reiki – level 1 and 2 (amongst many other things). I received Reiki healings on a regular basis and even through my pregnancy. But, as motherhood always does, some things are pushed to the side and forgotten. Not for lack of desire or appreciation but simply because nappies, tummy time, solids and so on take centre stage. So as I held my little Koala Bear and listened to her heavy breathing I close my eyes, opened my palms to the sky and said the prayer I always say when I’m calling on the divine. I ask for our angels and guides to be in the room. I ask to be opened up and ready to receive divine healing white and golden light to cleanse and purify. I visualise my crown chakra opening and the light pouring in through the heavens and down into my energy body. I tune into the gentle vibration and hum that starts to buzz through my body and tingle through my finger tips. I call on the Divine Mother (and all mamas past, present and future) to use me as her instrument to heal Soleil. To bring her peace and to support her through this time. And finally I ask for my wisdom and my intuition to be on point and clear so I may know exactly what to do as I begin to heal her. ++ And then I begin. I hold my hands a few inches from her body and tune in, vibrationally to her energy field. I follow the vibrations, the movement of energy and I try to feel into and sense the blocks. I soon tapped into waves of energy around her belly that felt quite powerful. I didn’t know what or how to work with it, so I just did the first thing that came through, and that was to almost grasp hold of this energy and cradle it in my palms as I slowly eased it, dragged it and shifted it up, through her, over her shoulders and out of her. I worked this way for 10 minutes and I noticed her breathing soften. Her weight became heavier. Her tense little body relaxed. Sleep soon came and her illness seemed to pass. Healing with intention Now, this post is not really meant to be an advertisement for Reiki. Although, truly I do think it is something that everyone should at least experience, if not learn for themselves. However, what I really wanted to share with you was the conversation I had with my husband the next day. Chris asked me how I calmed her down, put her to sleep and essentially stopped the vomiting. Humbly, I said, it wasn’t me, but I called on Divine Source to help. I explained our little Reiki session. My husband then said, “That’s why you’re amazing babe. I can’t do that for Soleil. It’s so great that you know how to”. And as much as I’d like to receive that compliment and pat myself on the back I don’t quite see it that way. I shared with my husband that I truly believe that anyone, with the right intention and with the willingness to facilitate healing, love, support – whatever it may be that someone needs – can do what I did and can do even more. Even if my husband never learns Reiki, officially and perhaps never ‘feels’ the vibration and shifting energy like I described, if he was to set a clear intention from the heart – which is essentially calling on LOVE – to help him heal Soleil (or anyone else) I know he can do. Why? Because it’s the intention that holds the power. THE BIG WHY behind what you are doing.  When we tap into a true desire especially one that ultimately is about helping another from a purely altruistic place, that intention is loaded with high vibrational energy and love. The greatest, strongest most powerful energy we can ever harness is LOVE. ++ So the point I’m trying to share here is this. Your intention matters. It matters when you are listening to your friend share her broken heart. It matters when you are about to embark on a new adventure. It matters when you are vision boarding and manifesting your deepest desires. It matters when you don’t know how to help someone, but you have to. You are all they have in that moment. The love infused into your intention, that bursts forth from your heart, is literally the only tool you need to facilitate health, change, growth, manifestation, support. Why your why matters Let me show this to you from a different angle. In my business – both as a Life + Wellness Coach and as Mentor to my Kyani team (see this post if you want to know more about […] Read more

Mini Mindful Moments for your monkey mind

Mini Mindful Moments for your monkey mind

Posted May 07, 2016

Experiment with these Three Mini Mindful Moments Have you noticed how many thoughts you can have at any given time? Sometimes I’m blown away by my minds ability to layer thought, on top of thought. I could be thinking of Soleil, and what to make her for dinner. Simultaneously I’m considering my next client coaching session, whilst reminding myself to book my new biz launch calls into my diary. And truthfully, I’m certain there are many more layers than this. So it’s easy to see why being present and mindful is such a challenge. Our minds are powerhouses of energy, processes, thoughts. Our minds are divine and incomprehensibly talented super computers. It often feels futile to even attempt to out-smart it and find mental stillness and clarity. But we must. We must try to find that soft state of presence. We must, as often as possible – and even if it’s a fleeting millisecond moment – find a moment of peace within the mental chatter. Why? Because those pockets of peace and quiet are a direct line to our inner truth. Our higher voice resides in those gaps between our thoughts. And in there we have access to our highest potential, a well-pool of creativity (hence why, just as your falling asleep you can have some of those sparky, bright ideas!), a pathway to our intuition. Those still points in the spinning whirlpool of our minds tap us into our soul-voice.  ++ Mindfulness is at the core of many spiritually focused practise. The crux of buddhism, and a commonly shared anti-dote to the monkey mind. But how can we bring mindfulness into our everyday? Today I want to share with you 3 MINI MINDFUL MOMENTS within short increments of time where you can invite mindfulness into your life and experiment playfully in that space of stillness. Try these and comment below, letting me your experience with you. Or better still, share some of your own tried and tested ways to practice mindfulness. 5 MINI MINDFUL MOMENTS 1) 5 Minutes: Brush your teeth + wash your face At the end of the day as you stand at your wash basin ready to brush your teeth and wash your face can you make a conscious choice to clear your mind and bring FULL attention to the task at hand. Squeezing the toothpaste onto your toothbrush. Carefully and with focus brush your teeth. Focus on the sensation, the texture, the temperature. Do the same as your rinse your mouth and move onto wash your face. Whatever is part of your ‘regime’ pay as much attention to each tiny element and detail. As your mind wonders bring yourself back to the present and feel into each moment again. 3) 15 MINUTES: Eat a meal When you sit down to eat your meal choose to silence your phone and put away all electronic devises. If you can, choose to eat alone. Here, bring full attention to your meal. Before you take the first mouthful gaze upon your meal. Look at the colours. Note the shapes and textures. What do you smell? How do you feel as you prepare to eat. Then begin to eat. One mouthful at a time, fork and spoon down between each mouthful. Chew slowly. Deliberately. Notice with your FULL body the tastes, textures, aromas. Pay attention to the environment you are in. Notice your posture as you eat and how your body responds. Slow down between each mouthful. PAUSE. Eat as if there was no time. Eat as if this was your last meal. 3) 30 MINUTES: Go for a walk Again, alone if you can. Head out for a walk. No phone, no music. Just you, the fresh air, sunshine. Be in mother nature… head to a park, or to the water’s edge. Wherever you can that connects you to the divine mother. Walk slowly. Carefully. Zone your attention into what you hear first – close by and then further afield Slowly move your attention to your body. Your feet, take one step at a time. The way your arms gently swap. Breathe. Deeply. Where do you feel that breath in your body? How does the air feel as it fills your lungs? How do you feel as you walk, consciously? Notice your surroundings. Are there animals? Birds? Children playing? Try not to follow thought patterns and create stories, but notice something and move on. Note and move on. ++ Mindfulness is a powerful tool that, when practised within your daily life, will invite in a deeper sense of presence, calm and inner stillness. If you don’t always have the time to sit down and do a dedicated, seated meditation learning to invite in moments of mindfulness will transform you from being captive to your mind and inner chatter, to being empowered to choose what you wish to think and when. Your mind doesn’t have to rule you. In fact, your are in charge and can run the show. Here’s to a day ahead of presence and peace. Love + light, Claire x Read more

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