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One hour at a time.

One hour at a time.

Posted July 21, 2015

One hour at a time. One minute, even; down to the second. No tomorrow. Yesterday is no more. Today. This hour. Now… now… now. This is my life at the moment. It (everything) has boiled down to the present moment. And no other moment is relevant. What happened yesterday, be it good, bad or otherwise, has absolutely no marking or influence on how today might shape up. Or the next week or month. This is the great lesson my tiny, wise guru (aka Soleil my 4 month old bub) is teaching me. And my god, doesn’t it suck! You weren’t expecting that right? Thought I’d talk about how wonderfully liberating and joyful living in the NOW is? Well, that is partially true. One half of the coin. The other ‘truth’ is that it’s the most challenging spiritual assignment to date. Why? Because controlling and planning your life feels SAFE. It’s predictable. It’s mapped out. It provides a big old safety net (although often ridden with unseen holes to slip through). When you are living in that state of thinking/planning/controlling/structuring, it doesn’t actually FEEL good, but it does give you a false sense of security. So, this lesson that I (and most likely every mother out there) am learning is stripping away that fakery, peeling back the security that’s not real, anyway, and dumping all that control. Even as I write this to you, I’ve had to stop/start multiple times to sing, smile, cuddle, nurse, pat, shush and snooze my little one. Her needs are in the NOW. She doesn’t care about this email, or my coaching, or my plans for the future. She cares about right-freaking-now. ++ So each week, I battle with those fears as my ego-mind seeks out that space of control again… yearns and hungers for it…BEGS me to go back into that space of past perception and future projection. It WANTS me to trip out and get doped out on that thinking/planning/controlling/structuring stuff. But – and you know this to be true from your own life, mama or not – those fears do not bring good. Those fears do not lift you up, or solve problems, or answer questions or give you a way through; they just laden you up with the tell-tale markers that come with fear: anxiety, stress, edginess, frustration, disillusion, insecurity and fill-in-the-blank here with your own ‘fear symptom’. So the answer? Come back to the now. Come back to this minute, this hour. Focus on the side of the coin where living hour by hour is your saving grace, where the now is your life-line, the space that feels doable, manageable and maybe a hell of a lot more kinder to yourself. Don’t fret over tomorrow, because it won’t be how you think it might/should/could be. Don’t even fuss over this afternoon. It might unexpectedly surprise/delight/inspire you. Just get through your day, hour by hour. When everything is golden, then you get to savour EACH HOUR. When everything is not-so-shiny, then you get to stay OUT of that space that threatens you with the undigestible fear that it might be like this ‘forever’. So let’s do it. One hour at a time. That is it. That is all. love + light, Claire P.s If you want some help getting present, head on over to my shop page and get your fix with my Reveal Your Inner Radiance (mini) meditations. Read more

Living Yoga Off the Mat with Krys Hansen

Living Yoga Off the Mat with Krys Hansen

Posted July 20, 2015

Meet Krys Hansen This lady is a gem. On her beautiful website, Modern Yogi Mama, it says that Krys is “just a yogi on an island who wants to change the world. A mum, a partner, a business woman & a friend.  A qualified yoga & meditation instructor, author, marketing whizz, online designer, veggie mama, lover of a surfing yogi & deliverer of truthbombs on yoga & life”. But I’d say she is so much more than ALL of that. She is a BIG hearted, deeply loving, attentive and soulful woman. Since becoming a mum Krys has allowed me to ‘lean’ on her for emotional support… and she has held me up so beautifully and with so much love. When I think of Krys I feel how much she embodies ‘yoga’ … not the asana practice or the physical form, but the divinity of it. I hope you fall in love with her and as much as I have. Finish this sentence: My yoga practice is… Less about the body than it used to be. I came to yoga as an escape from a relationship break up and as I worked through that emotional energy, my practice became about the body, the asanas. That was until I was pregnant and could no longer practice as I used to and all those lessons I thought I had learnt about yoga finally had time to sink in. My practice became more about prana, or energy. Meditation and awareness of how I move within this life and all its interactions is now where I place the emphasis of my yoga practice, and I tend to enjoy the asana side of yoga in a softer, more playful way. To me, yoga means… A balance of understanding the temporary nature of life while also trying to live a good existence in the now. It is the union of spiritual and practical life… being an example for others while maintaining the mindset of a beginner. My experience off the mat has… Cleansing and empowering. If our mats soaked up the energy we released during our yoga practice, they would weigh a ton! The biggest shift/epiphany/moment of insight I’ve ever had during yoga was… I don’t have to be perfect, and I never will be. That was a massive shift for me as I am a driven and determined type A. Once I fully realised that fact I found freedom in poses I had never been able to relax in as my body softened. By not mentally and emotionally pushing myself, I gave my body the space it needed to let go. That was the second epiphany… my mind and emotions rule my body, and I need to clear them before I feel release on a physical level. Quick Fire Questions What are the lessons you carry on a daily basis, off your mat? Everyone has their own ‘stuff’ weighing on them, but not everyone has the tools to know how to process that ‘stuff’, which is why they need compassion. Why are these important to you? I feel there is too much competition, comparison, and judgment between people… and it’s being played out in an almost unconscious level. I don’t want that in my life and I hope I can inspire others to be more compassionate. What yogic principle have you translated for yourself – what, how and why? All the yamas and niyamas have affected how I live my life, but I think Ahimsa has been the biggest life changer. Nonviolence. It has inspired me to live a kinder life through the way I eat, consume, my mode of transport, wastage, and words. Just knowing that I am leading a gentler existence makes me feel more peaceful, as I honestly believe the energy you put out comes back. What does ‘Living Your Yoga’ mean to you? Living with principle, but not rigidly. Yoga is about balance and flexibility, so even though I have an idea of how I want to ‘be’ in this life, I also give myself, and others around me, permission to fall and be imperfect. It is these lessons I want to pass onto my son and any future children. Connect with Krys | Website | Facebook | Instagram I’m just a yogi on an island who wants to change the world. I’m a mum, a partner, a business woman and a friend. I’m Krys Hansen. A qualified yoga and meditation instructor, author, marketing whizz, online designer, veggie mama, lover of a surfing yogi and deliverer of truthbombs on yoga and life. I work with women to create a soulful practice they can balance with being mothers, as well as a creator of meditation tools for fertility and creativity. Read more

Why I decided to ‘get help’ after giving birth

Why I decided to ‘get help’ after giving birth

Posted July 13, 2015

Why I decided to ‘get help’ after giving birth If you’ve connected with me here for a while, or even spent a mere five minutes with me, you know that I’m a big believer in ‘getting help’… that is, leaning on someone else, or something else to support you, wherever and however you might need it. When I needed support in my business, I worked with a biz coach. I also hired at VA and I outsourced the things I can’t do (or didn’t want to do) where possible. When I needed support energetically and wanted to work spiritually in a new way I signed up to work with spiritual mentor and psychic, Belinda Davidson. For labour I hired a Doula. For my health I see a naturopath, frequently. For my mind-body-soul wellbeing I see a kinesiologist, acupuncturist, masseuse etc (although, since becoming a mama I’ve not had the time to see my ‘A-Team’ as often as I like!) So you get the picture right? I’ve waxed lyrical many times about the importance of having your own little power support posse. The team who is going to back you, heal you, guide you, hold you and let you lean on them when needed. We are talking holistically here, too. Which means, it wouldn’t come as a surprise to you to hear that – after the cataclysmic event that is child birth, and the even more tremendous shift that is motherhood – I decided to get some more help. ++ What help did I need? Well, let me flesh this out for you. Imagine feeling all of this: Constant tearfulness. Emotional rollercoaster. Feelings of inadequacy. Insecurity, low self esteem and broken self confidence. Fearfulness. Anxiety and nervousness. Energetically broken. Overwhelmed. Soaked in negativity. Yep, this is everything I’ve felt in the first three months of new mamahood. I know I’m not alone in feeling this way… but nevertheless it became clear that I needed someone to help me navigate through the darkness. There is the common ‘baby blues’ which a lot of mums get quite soon after the birth – and surprisingly I didn’t. That might have something to do with the Placenta tablets I was taking. And then there is Post Natal Depression, which a lot of women suffer with and unfortunately don’t feel comfortable to share. But there is a whole grey, blurry space in between the blues and post natal depression. I knew I fell into that blurry, smudged out space. I’ve heard it referenced as ‘Post Natal Depletion’. I knew it wasn’t quite as simple as the hormonal shift that causes the blues, but I also knew that I wasn’t in the depths of full-blown post natal depression (PND). But I was feeling ‘something’… and that something wasn’t quite right. ++ Now – as a little aside; when I say it wasn’t ‘right’ I really want to clarify here that every single experience and emotion that I’ve been feeling has happened for a reason. They’ve also taught me more than expected and have definitely delivered slivers and light, clarity… insight. There is no such thing as a ‘wrong’ experience. Whatever cards you’ve been dealt with, well, they are exactly what the universe and the DIVINE plan etched into soul requires for you. I just want to be clear here that when I say it ‘wasn’t right’… well, really, what I mean was it was all ‘different’. I was feeling different, destabilised, disjointed. And these only became a problem when I saw them through the lens of ‘wrong’…when I judged them as wrong they became wrong – get me? ++ Which brings me back the help I knew I needed. As a Life + Wellness Coach I know the power in simply talking, opening up authentically, sharing and leaning into your experience and onto someone else and moving towards and into the energy you are feeling. There is not one (good!) coach out there that doesn’t believe in getting help when help is needed…and if they don’t well then they aren’t a coach/counsellor/psychologist/etc in my books. With that in mind, one day in floods of tears as I sobbed in my mother’s arms, I looked up at her and said, ‘Mum, I don’t feel like me anymore. This doesn’t feel ‘right’’. I had bravely decided to share the ‘off-ness’ of how I was feeling to my mum and I did so again to my sister. At first they balked and then tried to re-calibrate and re-frame; “Oh no honey, you are fine, just a new mum, it’ll pass”… they were just as afraid of PND as any new mum would be. However, it was not long after they, too, conceded that they could see a change in me that needed addressing. My courage in admitting how I was feeling allowed them to step forward and courageously admit it too. There was one part of me that thought perhaps I could just ride through this storm of heavy, wearisome emotions until I found myself back to the Claire I knew I was. But the other part of me (the soul speaking through me) knew that this needed addressing. It was time to get some help. As the universe would have it, I had already met the person who was going to be my guide many months ago. At the time she tweaked my interest – tugged at me without knowing why – and now I can see that it was already written in stone that we would come together again. A brilliant psychologist that specialises in supporting women through transitions – particularly women through birth and into motherhood – happened to become very close friends with my sister and lived across the road from my parents and family home. So when the time came to get help myself, my mum and my sister all knew who had to help me ride through this storm. As I write this, I’ve only had 3 of the 12 sessions I’ve booked in […] Read more

Claire Obeid

Hello there, I’m Claire

What am I about? Oh-so-much. A soul-centered and heart-driven life. Inside-out wellness. Shadow work (from the darkness comes the light!) Truth-seeking. Leaning into the joy of life.

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