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Somebody to lean on: find your support team

Somebody to lean on: find your support team

Posted August 19, 2014

Somebody to lean on. We all need to be supported at different times of our life. If you’ve followed my blog for a while you know that I am a wellness woman of action. Well, specifically inspired action meets contemplation. Which basically means that I am active, engaged and motivated in my life, but not without consideration and reflection – I don’t do things without truly understanding why I am doing them and if I need to in the first place. I’m going to hazard a guess that you are much the same. You, my incredible tribe, have a beautiful way of living consciously that I know you are doing your best each day to be present yet aware in every moment. That doesn’t mean we are always perfect, does it? Or that we are without off-days void of that inner strength and drive. But it means we are consciously trying to do so as and when we can. So, when I first found out I was pregnant whilst honeymooning in Thailand (yep, two weeks in and a late period meant that a pee-on-a-stick was in order!) I knew I wanted to be as conscious as I could during this pregnancy. But I could sense that this wasn’t going to be an easy ride – I could feel already that ‘taking action’ as I normally do would require a little refinement – a different approach. There are two truths I connected to: 1) I’m going to have some stuff to work through. and 2) I can’t, won’t and shouldn’t do this alone. You do not have it go it alone. You don’t have to force ‘strength’ at the expense of your health and happiness. It didn’t take long for the weight of this enormous shift to sink in. My entire life (ours – hubby and I) had literally chained with one little pee. The life I had spent years building and in fact was still crafting and growing into every day had done a major cosmic shift on us. Yes we are insanely grateful that this little soul had chosen us. Yes, we are both in awe. But we are both, authentically, voicing our fears and shock. You must be true to what you feel. Fear, just like love, is felt in the heart and fear can only be healed in the heart when acknowledged! It’s because of this shift (and the emotions that arose immediately with it) I knew there were going to be some inner layers of resistance, limiting beliefs and confusion to work through. So I did two things. I considered who I needed to lean on to help guide me through this. I wasn’t pretending that I could ‘coast’ through this journey unassisted. I was already experiencing emotions on a grander scale than I ever had. The first people to come to mind that I wanted to lean on were my Kinesiologist – Jacqui Prydie, my EFT trainer (+ Advanced practitioner), Alison Monaghan and my Naturopath, Tanya Goldie. A quick email was sent to all three and three separate sessions were booked in. Why I chose this team to lean on during my first trimester: I was sick – nausea, fatigue, indigestion – and needed support to get through it. I wanted to do the best thing for my body and our baby – nutritionally. I could already sense an unnamed emotional blockage around Motherhood and Pregnancy that I wanted to clear. I needed an energetic tune-up. Over the 6 weeks that followed after we returned from Thailand I checked in with my team. My Kinesiologist cleared and reset high levels of anxiety and stress. Alison guided me through a powerful EFT session where we worked through fears around depression, lack of support and ‘being alone’  – I sobbed so hard during this session I could barely speak. And my Naturopath armed me up with supplements to support our baby, my body and the help my liver process the 400+ hormones raging through my system. She also reaffirmed my believe of the power of clean eating and gave me direction and focus. It’s important for me to clarify here that these sessions were very different to my previous sessions with this team. I had to be very raw, honest and vulnerable. Which meant expressing and voicing feelings I had which were thick and heavy with fear, guilt and even selfishness. I had to let it all out in order to really get the support I needed. Now there is a final (but most important) person I have to mention here. Someone I leaned on heavily and who held me up, never dropping me… and that is my hubby Chris. It wasn’t lost on me how much of a shock it must be for him – all of a sudden his focus had to shift to the foreign (yet beautiful) concept of fatherhood, parenting and support in a very real way. Not to mention that his wife no longer resembled or behaved like the woman he had known for 7.5 years! But when it came to stepping up to the plate – literally – Chris was there. He cooked for me every night. Worked around my bodies insane repulsion for certain foods (Baked salmon? oh god… I die) and remained patient, gentle and understanding. He gave me lots of space, dropped all expectations of me and listened to my confusion, sadness, whinging and even indifference. Words express my gratitude to this man. But I also see that he is simply fulfilling his divine role, just as I am. ++ Truthfully I’m not going to pretend to you that enlisting this support team completely wiped the slate clean of the all-day-sickness, emotional blocks and energetic confusion. That first trimester of pregnancy was the most intense ride I’ve ever been on in mind-body-soul. What I did receive though was a sense of comfort, release, guidance and hand-holding. It made me feel connected to the Claire I knew well, but […] Read more

why EVERYTHING has taken a backseat to surrender + self-love…

why EVERYTHING has taken a backseat to surrender + self-love…

Posted August 11, 2014

why EVERYTHING has taken a backseat to surrender + self-love… Maybe you’ve noticed things have been a little different over here at The Wellness Project HQ. I’ve been sharing snippets of this journey of transformation that I am deep within and how it has come at full force, over the last 6 weeks… and let me tell you, it’s not over yet. Work, writing, social life, daily movement, meditation, cooking, yoga … all of what used to be normal for me has completely and utterly done a Houdini. I’ve only had space and energy for two things (and even they have completely changed two) – Surrender + Self-love. But today I can finally reveal WHAT exactly this transformation is about… Well, I’ve got a beautiful little soul growing inside. Yep, I am pregnant. With child. Up-the-duff. There’s a bun in the oven. Unexpected yet meant to be. This soul has been present in my energy field for quite some time. And it seems it got a little tired of waiting for me to be ‘ready’… so bubba has taken hold of the reigns. This little soul has collided with my own on a pre-destined trajectory to my heart. Not to mention that of my husband (Christopher) – who is already truly, madly, deeply in love with our 5.5 cm bundle of joy. But, to any mammas out there, you’ll know that this collision is not always a clean hit. The phrase ‘morning sickness’ does not summarize the experience at all… but I won’t bore you with the gory details (yet). Let’s just say this. Mentally, emotionally, physically I have been given the chance to really experience surrender on a whole new level. It’s as if all the angels, saints, prophets, the universe, God and every Guru got together and said: “Ok, Claire, you really dig this ‘Surrender’ stuff right? You really want to learn how to Surrender? Well then, HERE YOU GO! Get ready for the biggest ride of your life!” Letting go of EVERYTHING that once made me feel whole, normal, sane and opening my arms to receive and allow this miracle to happen  – well, what a HUGE lesson that has been and will continue to be. Surrender + Self-love, over the last 6 weeks, has looked like a little this: It’s ok to stay in my pajamas for hours. It’s ok to sleep in the middle of the day. It’s more than ok to cry, with fat wet tears. It’s ok to feel terrified. It’s ok to hide away and disconnect. The key for me has been Conscious Compassion. Dropping the resistance to every change that has unfolded. Letting go of past ways of thinking and being. Being present with how I am feeling and being OK with the tidal wave of emotions. And loving myself in every single moment of it all. This, by far, has been the most pivotal moment of my life. I’ve learnt more about Surrender + Self-love in these last 6 weeks than I have in the past 32 years. And at 12.5 weeks pregnant I know there is so much more to come. I have so many things I want to share with you – from the lessons I’ve learnt through the fog and sickness over the last 6 weeks to how I’ve been processing what is by far the most powerful change of my life. In the meantime let me share this little picture of our teeny, tiny beanie baby. Saying a BIG HELLO to all you beautiful souls in my tribe. Seeing this little nugget of love squirming about and waving was the most spectacular experience ever and I’m so thrilled I can finally share this with you! ++ YOUR TURN: I would love to hear from you – if you are mumma what were your experiences and feelings like when you first fell pregnant? Or if you aren’t there yet how does pregnancy/babies make you feel? Is it so far our of your scope, tugging at you or maybe terrifying you? I know that I am not alone with all my crazy emotions and can’t wait to hear from you! love + light, Claire x Read more

Audio Blog: How to mind your own business

Audio Blog: How to mind your own business

Posted August 06, 2014

Be mindful of giving unwarranted advice. Learn how to mind your own business! How often do you stick your nose, opinions, thoughts, suggestions into the business of others? Sometimes it’s wanted – you might have wisdom that is needed in a particular moment. But often (and I speak from experience) we are very quick to dish out unsolicited advice to others before really getting a clear gauge as to whether or not it’s wanted/needed/will be received and sent with love. Most importantly, how often do we throw our 2 cents in before actually pressing pause and asking these simple yet illuminating questions: “What’s my agenda here?” “Why do I feel the need to share my opinion/suggestion/thought?” “What do I expect to get out of doing this?” The point? Are you sticking your nose in for the right reasons? Many of us (again, I speak from experience) need to mind our own business, or at least consider the ‘WHY’ behind our wisdom sharing. Often, more often than we care to admit, our ‘stuff’ collides with other people’s ‘stuff’… we are triggered, we have a reaction, we formulate an opinion. We go into judgment mode. So often, our WHY – the reason behind our offer of advice and support – is not about helping that person, but in reaction to your own stuff. Personally, I think we all need to practice minding our own business until we know what our personal ‘story’ and agenda is. Your advice, insight and ‘wisdom’ might not always come from a pure place and desire to truly help and be of service. That doesn’t make it a ‘bad’ thing (no need to beat yourself up) but it doesn’t meant that you are being helpful or supportive either. Conscious compassion, true kindness and being of service – that’s what we should be harnessing when getting involved with other people’s business! ++ Today to explore How to Mind Your Own Business I offer up something NEW on the blog. An AUDIO Blog. It’s been a while since I’ve filmed a VLOG (and yes I do intend to do so again) but for now, recording this audio felt really good and I enjoyed communicating to you in this way. Super easy. To listen: DOWNLOAD IT HERE (Right click, save target as and then sync it to your smartphone and take me with you on the bus, train, morning walk!) OK, YOUR TURN: Share below… Have you had a experience where someone has offered up unwarranted advice or have you done/do this to others? Would love to hear perspective on this. Love + light, Claire x Read more

Claire Obeid

Hello there, I’m Claire

What am I about? Oh-so-much. A soul-centered and heart-driven life. Inside-out wellness. Shadow work (from the darkness comes the light!) Truth-seeking. Leaning into the joy of life.

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