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Audio Blog: 5 Steps to dealing with negative criticism

Audio Blog: 5 Steps to dealing with negative criticism

Posted October 21, 2014

Have you ever received negative criticism and didn’t know how to deal with it? Even if we are living a fairly quiet and unobtrusive life, it’s still hard to avoid feedback, commentary and criticism that is often a little harsh and frequently unwarranted. That being said, these challenging moments offer a way for us to grow, learn and evolve – and you know I’m all about self evolution! If I can take a shitty situation and turn it around to benefit me in some way, I will. ++ Today’s Audio Blog explores 5 Steps to dealing with negative criticism. I share an example from my own life when I received some pretty unexpected, unsolicited feedback that was not only negative but rude too! I also talk you through the 5 steps that I personally take to move through and deal with negative criticism in a way that will see you coming out on top. Ultimately, you want to feel conscious and better equipped to navigate the grey, murky waters of these moments. CLICK PLAY TO LISTEN OR RIGHT CLICK TO SAVE AND DOWNLOAD – take me with you on your walk or on your way to work. ++ As always I can’t wait to hear your perspective. Jump into the comments below + share with us what you think about these 5 steps. If you have a few tips of your own I’d love to hear them too! P.S. Here’s a quick summary of The 5 Steps I mention in the Audio Blog Step 1: Breathe + Pause. Step 2: Get space Step 3: Review + reflect Step 4: Respond Step 5: Drop it. Love + light, Claire xx Read more

My personal revelations of Divine Love

My personal revelations of Divine Love

Posted October 14, 2014

Let me tell you a little story. My personal revelations of Divine Love Everything you want and ever need you already have and are. Ever since I first heard those words – I can’t remember where, maybe an article, a movie or some spiritual memoir I was reading at the time – I’ve made a conscious effort to live and breathe from this truth. And that truth is that I don’t need to look outside of myself for all that my heart truly desires. And what is it that my heart truly desires? It’s taken me a long time to uncover this desire, to come to know it with clarity. At first I thought it was to feel good in my body. Then I thought it was for peace and quiet in my mind. Finally I believed this desire to be a longing for a passionate, purposeful life and career soon followed. Each and every one of these ‘desires’ were necessary for my own spiritual development and growth… I braved the often-unmapped landscape into my body, my mind and my passions.  I peeled off layer after layer until I ‘had’ what I desired. A strong, healthy body, a quieter mind and peaceful attitude and a passion-filled life and career. What I didn’t realise was this. These desires were a stepping to stone towards what my heart truly wanted. Each and every one was necessary in order to lead me to the core of all desires. The big kahuna of my desires – the one thing I truly want and need… I desire to experience, feel and live from DIVINE LOVE. I’ve experienced love on so many levels… the unconditional, almost martyr like love from my mother. The self-sacrificing, toil-through-pain devotional love from my father. Intoxicating love with a lover. Protective love from my siblings. Love shared between two friends – soul-sisters. Love, companionship and loyalty with my husband. And now the love I have for the soul that chose me and is now growing within me. Each and every experience feels just as it should – soothing, satisfying, needed. Like a warm embrace. A net of safety. A moment of bliss.  But it is only a small slice – a too-small portion to taste – of DIVINE, INFINITE LOVE. And it is this Divine Love that I truly ache for. Yearn for. Believe in. Strive to taste and touch and experience. Don’t let me fool you, I am to this very moment, still opening my arms and my eyes to this divine love. To say I live from and with divine love everyday is something I’ve yet to embody. I’m still on the hunt – a surrendered, accepting search for love. There are two key moments recently that have sign-posted me towards where this Divine Love is that I seek. Two revelations I want to share with you. The first is from a conversation with my Mother. A woman of such faith and a source of wisdom and love who recently highlighted that where I have placed my attention was a little misguided. My mother’s unrelenting devotion to her saints, prophets and religious figures is a love born from her heart. And it is in the deep well of her heart that she still connects to their love. My mother doesn’t see Jesus, Mary or her God as something outside of her. Well she does, in a way. But first they are within her and then they are without. They are with her, in her heart, they live there, eternally and internally. They also reside in the universe above, below and all around her. They are the universe. But in order to connect with them and their love she looks within. It is her innate understanding that the representations of love that she connects with are accessible from within that changed everything for me. When she calls on the Virgin Mary she does so knowing that Mary is within her – her love and light shine from within as opposed to an omnipresent, ethereal and inaccessible mystical being. Following this golden nugget of wisdom delivered to me from my beautiful mother, I had a personal encounter with the Divine that only served to reaffirm this epiphany. I was at a retreat focused on exploring Oneness. Being one with the universe, with each other and with the all-powerful infinite, higher source. One morning, during an hour-long meditation, I found myself as if in a bubble… but the bubble was within me. I felt protected yet at the same time fully able to think, feel, experience – if I wanted too. I felt safe, caressed, nurtured. Yet fully present in my body and fully away of the world and life I was in. Each breath that entered my body felt embodied… I felt as if I was the breath – the pranic life force and I, as the breath, was choosing to enter and leave the body, moment by moment. The breath felt to me more ‘me’ than my body did in that moment. Yet simultaneously, I was grounded in my body and in full realisation that what I was feeling wasn’t possible without my body. My hands felt glued to my lap yet light and floaty. My palms, although they were facing up and lightly stacked above each other, actually felt splayed and opened on each knee. As I sat there, being ‘inhaled’ by the breath of life, I felt quite strongly that my hands were being held – hand to hand – by a pair of invisible hands. My own hands were being held by my soul’s hands. I was held. I was reassured. I knew I was not alone. Eventually the guide’s voice slowly cut through the lightness of my meditation. As I was slowly ushered back to reconnect into the confines of my body and into the space we were in a quiet sob escaped from deep within. It moved up from my belly, into my heart and […] Read more

A beautiful pregnancy

A beautiful pregnancy

Posted October 07, 2014

A beautiful pregnancy. I didn’t think I’d ever write those words… After the 7 weeks of utter crap I felt during the first trimester, I wasn’t sure the words ‘beautiful pregnancy’ would be thought, let alone said. Once the fog of the first trimester cleared and the insane journey of transformation slowed down from full hustle to a nice cruising speed I started to tune in to the beauty of the experience unfolding with me. The realisation that I am not only growing, building and soon-will-be birthing a baby, but that I am also birthing a mother really hit home for me. How could this unreal, powerful, life-changing journey not be beautiful? Even with all the challenges that come with it, there is nothing more profound and stunning than the creation of life. So today I wanted to share with you what I consider to be the beauty of my pregnancy for a few reasons. Firstly, there are so many physical and emotional changes that unfold during pregnancy, many of which are not pleasant or fun (respect to EVERY woman who has ever carried a child). The amount of sacrifice that unfolds is insane – and I’m saying this at only 20 weeks! It’s because of this that I am choosing to make a conscious effort, daily, to see the beauty, the light, the gorgeousness of pregnancy – my god, there is so much to revel in and enjoy. But sometimes, on the off days, shitty stuff gets in the way. The second reason I am sharing my beautiful pregnancy with you (through my eyes, obviously) is because I want to inspire those woman out there, like me, who might be overwhelmed by the thought of pregnancy yet feel that deep mother-earth pull to have a child, to see pregnancy through a different lens. One lined with silver (and gold!) And finally, I hope that this post inspires you to take whatever it is that is challenging you right now and dissect it, put it back together and hopeful reform it into something beautiful. Pleasing. Exciting. Joyful. In the rough is a diamond. Always. A beautiful pregnancy 1) Spontaneous moments of emotion. Erupting from within and pouring forth through tears, a choked voice. I feel overwhelmed with a deep sense of purpose, love and connection at random moments through my day. Sometimes a song will trigger it. Or reading a story of childbirth. Even a kind word from a friend. I am FEELING a lot more than ever before. Thinking – my normal way of being – isn’t coming so easily anymore. 2) Neurotic and irrational (mini) hormonal outbursts. There is something WILD and FREE about feeling angry, or pissed off, or like you just want to stomp your feet and chuck a tantrum. These are very, very, rare for me – now and even before pregnancy – but I love them when they show up. They make me feel real. Human. Delicate. Vulnerable. And I always get something out of them. A release. A learning. 3) The miraculous and magical human body. Think about it. Building a child is hard work! We are talking spine, nervous system, brain, bones, and everything in between right down to eyelashes and fingerprints. I feel very clever. I’ve always admired and respected the human body. But us women, holy smokes, we are special. We create life. That simple fact makes me gush with gratitude and awe. 4) My beautiful body.  Yes my thighs are getting bigger. So are my boobs and my belly. But I’ve never felt more sexy and beautiful. Cliché? Perhaps… but it’s a cliché for a reason. I feel ‘bountiful’… tribal. My husband thinks so too. 5) Surrender + self-love. I think I’m getting this more and more. I’ve always had the ability to push past my boundaries. But, over the last few years surrender and self-love have slowly revealed themselves to me like a curtain drawing back. I’ve had many experiences of both and they are now part of my daily life. I make time for self-love and I consciously surrender. But now, oh wow… this baby demands a softness and an inner strength that has nothing to do with brute force or control.  6) The Collective Baby-love.  I am astounded, daily, but the expressions of joy and gratitude that I receive from complete strangers. There is this innate understanding that ripples through humanity which speaks of the powerful respect for life that we all have. Even if we don’t express it in those words. We are ALL for life. And babies represent that. They also represent a soulful connection to the divine. They are miraculous and yet a normal occurrence. It’s like our own personal god-like encounter that happens over and over. It is actually so humbling to see how people react and to realise that this is not ‘my baby’ but another special gift from the universe to human-kind. 7) The spiritual super-highway  I feel like I’m fast-tracking my spiritual education. I’ve been on my own journey of self-exploration and spiritual seeking for years now, but in the last 20 weeks I can sense a deeper knowing, or shall I say living from TRUST and LOVE. There’s no time to muck around. I’m birthing a life and a mother, it’s truly time to step up to the plate and get super cosy with my soul and to live from it daily. And my soul is telling me to trust. And with that so much irrelevant crap is falling away. I am actually struggling to notice anything ‘wrong’ in my life. Anything I once fretted over is totally irrelevant. 8) Glossy hair. Great skin. Strong nails. On a more superficial front…I know a lot of this will do a complete about face post-birth (I hear of hair loss, ageing skin and brittle nails) but right now I’m digging this and will be grateful for it for however long it lasts. 9) My little babe… Last but not least, the little […] Read more

Claire Obeid

Hello there, I’m Claire

What am I about? Oh-so-much. A soul-centered and heart-driven life. Inside-out wellness. Shadow work (from the darkness comes the light!) Truth-seeking. Leaning into the joy of life.

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