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Bringing Aphrodite Back. Feminine Power, Silence + Stillness.

Bringing Aphrodite Back. Feminine Power, Silence + Stillness.

Posted July 05, 2016

We are always guided and supported… and sometimes we are nudged to pay attention to one particular thing, even if it seems to have  absolutely no relevance to you, whatsover. Well, this recently happened to me. I was guided towards the Goddess, Aphrodite. I kept pulling her in oracle card readings. I would randomly open to a magazine article that mentioned her. Facebook posts would appear with reference to this Goddess. It all culminated one Friday night. I saw an offer from Marianne Williamson on her facebook page (that was about to expire in less than hour) that said with the purchase of her new book I could get free access to her Aphrodite training…The book didn’t resonate with me (yet) but the training did. BIG time. I didn’t hesitate. I paid and signed-up. I’ve been down this road before enough times to know how to get out of my own way and pay attention to the clear sign-posts from the divine. And it was less than 10 minutes into the first training video that the penny dropped… I understood that quickly why I needed this training. And I’m going to hazard a guess that so many of us women, collectively need a little more Aphrodite too. Aphrodite. Goddess of love, romance, sensuality, sexuality, birth, joy, energy, creativity. Divine Feminine energy… As I dove into this training this is the question(s) that presented itself; Where have we disowned her? Where have we replaced this divine, feeling based feminine energy with the action, the doing, the headiness of the masculine? And why? I’m going to be honest, I’m still in the midst of this training… and, well, still in ‘training’ with Aphrodite. So I’m definitely not sharing this with any expertise. However, what I am learning so far has struck such a deep, primal, almost ancient chord within me that I had to share it. ++ I’ve come to realise lately that the disowning of my inner Aphrodite began many years ago. Striving for success. Building my business. Conforming, to fit in. Aligning with feminist viewpoints (and taking it to the extreme) Focusing on the external world. Living an ‘action’ based life. Ignoring my intuition. Wanting to be seen as a capable woman. Hiding my emotions (so I don’t seem weak). Rejecting my moon cycle. Appropriating masculine ways (of talking, dressing, behaving, working…) Pregnancy, birth and so much of this motherhood journey reconnected me deeply with an inner softness, the energy of feminine magic and goddess nature. I even wrote this blog – Crossing Over From The Head to The Heart – on how I’m learning to live a more heart-based life since becoming a mama. However, there is so much catastrophizing, headi-ness, organising, structure, over-planning, action, doing (instead of being) that comes with motherhood too. And it has done a phenomenal job of muscling its way back in to sideline that beautiful Aphrodite energy. Today I’m in a push-pull game between surrendering into the softness, the love-bubble of motherhood and the divine feminine, with the masculine world of action. Trying to find my power in being ALL things to all people (a great mama, wife, business owner, coach, domestic goddess) sometimes leaves me depleted instead of empowered. Making sure I keep my shit together sometimes feels like I’m striving for a badge of honour. Yet I’ve never felt more delicate, vulnerable and called towards the internal world of stillness. Often I just want to be still. Go inward, retreat. Simultaneously I can feel so fired up, ready to make my dreams a reality, driven to action… The masculine and the feminine – two powerful energies playing all out together. And that’s ok, right? We all have the feminine and masculine energies within us. But truthfully, whether you are a male or a female in our world it’s so much easier to revert into the masculine way of action, strategy, solution, doing, planning, thinking. It is for me at least. ++ Reconnect with the power of your feminine silence; Harness your inner stillness. Since starting this training with Marianne Williamson, there has been one major take-away that keeps playing in my heart on repeat. And this is what I really want to share with you, because it’s really helping me to call Aphrodite in – to invite her to play a bigger role and to find her place within my life with more solidity. Let me explain this idea as simply as I can. Feminine energy is threaded with vulnerability.  That Vulnerability = power. In fact, it it is our power. However, it is a different kind of power from a different source. Underworld vibes. Goddess energy. Mystical almost. This power is magnetic. Internal. Intuitive. Deep. It has an immovable, unshakeable quality. A stillness. A presence. A rawness. This is the true essence of woman. Emotive. Wise. Loving. Nurturing.  As women we reflect, listen, invite in. Now this has really hit home for me – we also offer a place to rest to those that need softness, love, nourishment, tenderness, beauty, joy. A safe place to be vulnerable and raw too. We bring others into our magnetic stillness. We offer healing. The most incredible bit is that the feminine energy can do all that in total silence. Without words. Without a song and dance. There’s no need to ‘do’ anything. The Divine Feminine HOLDS space for your pain, your joy, your vulnerability, your hurt, your happiness, your struggle… The Aphrodite energy of love is powerful. It can move mountains, and create great change. And it can do it simply by harnessing stillness, through silence. By simply being and not doing. We have a voice, and yes we are woman, hear us roar. But maybe we should try whispering a little more, or even saying nothing at all… As I was absorbing this lesson from Marianne, my head was spinning. And my heart was screaming YES! Silence. Sweet surrender into stillness. Presence. The real art of listening. Cracking open in the darkness. I scribbled these words into my journal… “Just because I have a voice that doesn’t mean I always have to use it. It’s time to reconnect […] Read more

When inspiration doesn’t show up

When inspiration doesn’t show up

Posted June 22, 2016

I’m sitting here with the best of intentions – to write you a blog post this week that will serve you in some way. I want to always authentically share with you my own personal journey through life, as it unfolds, and the lessons I garner from it all. But today, I’m sorry to say, inspiration has not shown up. I don’t have anything to offer today. It’s ok, I understand if you want to stop reading here… Maybe inspiration has ditched me because I’m a little brain dead – I was awake for hours last night soothing my little one. Or maybe it’s the full moon (apologies beautiful luna, I do blame you for a lot!)… Or maybe, inspiration just isn’t playing ball for no particular reason, just because. So this is how it plays out in my mind. My ever faithful, slightly bossy, definitely controlling left brain kicks in and says;  “Think Claire, think! Surely you’ve got something to share. Surely there is a juicy blog post idea saved in your evernote! You can’t deliver NOTHING!” And for a few moments I am completely sucked into this energy of force and control. Why? Because I don’t want to let you down. And because producing something might make me feel like I’ve accomplished something (other than managing countless number of tantrums and successfully getting out of the house without egg on my face, literally… #mumlife). Or maybe I buy into that left-brain, masculine energy of ACTION because I want to feel worthy, good enough. Here’s the shift though. The more I connect to that energy the more I start to feel… closed. Contracted. Wound up. Tension builds when I’m trying to force something that is not in flow… When I push against what I’m intuitively feeling then it starts to feel abrasive. Sandpaper grazes against a brick wall. Thankfully, gratefully, I’ve made it one of my life lessons to pay attention to the way something FEELS and move forward from there. So this is where I’m at… I’ve felt that abrasion. I’ve also felt the disappointment too that I’m not feeling ‘inspired’ to share something of value. I’m in a state of awareness. Here I move into experimentation mode. I ask myself; What would it feel like if I tuned into the energy, the feelings, the undercurrent beneath this ‘lack of inspiration’… let’s just try that on for size. So I do. I feel into that ‘lack’. I feel into what is hiding beneath the uninspired me and I can see it’s nothing to be frustrated with, or annoyed at. It’s just different. And it needs to be honoured. It’s but a moment in time that will flow on by if I allow it to be here now. With that, I embrace what I’m feeling. I accept that there is ‘no inspiration’ and I’m feeling almost empty inside, void of creativity. But I open to it… and I even start to like it. This space of ‘nothingness…’ And guess what happens? I write something, THIS particular something that you’re reading right now, actually. And as I read over it I realise that it’s these words, precisely, that I needed to write and share with you. This is how I’m supposed to serve you today. By allowing myself to be ok when inspiration doesn’t show up, and to let go of the need to force and make it happen the result is an open sharing to you. In turn that becomes an open invitation to you to be not only be OK with but to fully embrace those days when inspiration (or joy, creativity, love, action, focus, motivation) doesn’t show up for you. When we accept what is, we create spaciousness around the very thing that feels contracted, closed-off and shut off from ourselves. It’s in the space that we invite flow back in and end up washing away whatever is standing in the way. Love + light, Claire Read more

Choose compassion in the face of anger

Choose compassion in the face of anger

Posted June 15, 2016

You know those moments when you are being supremely tested  – something or someone is pushing and prodding at you. Bringing up all the feelings, reactions and negativity that you don’t want to experience. Your frustration is at an all time high. Perhaps someone is being out-right rude to you. You might be having an irrational argument with someone who just won’t let up. Your buttons are being pushed (over and over) Or maybe (like I am of late) you are being tested by your spirited, seriously demanding and determined toddler with full-blown tantrums and resistance at every turn. ++ In those moments a version of me I prefer not to give too much attention to comes out (although I totally respect and appreciate that I have a shadow side and that I have to face up to all sides of my coin). I’m quick to lose my cool. I want to stamp my feet. Roar loudly. My ego wants to take control of the situation or the person. It wants to dominate and command attention with it’s angry words. It wants to put-out the circumstance with its fire. I feel compelled to REACT instead of respond. I switch into a mode of being that is not constructive nor is it conscious. At times this response can start to boil up within me – it threatens to erupt. Gratefully it doesn’t happen often, but it happens just enough for me to see it. This especially happens when Soleil has a meltdown. Her frustration at being removed from something dangerous, her inability to communicate what she wants to do, or her annoyance that I’ve stopped the flow of a particularly interesting adventure she is on can all lead to an all out struggle. However, it’s not just these moments with Soleil that really test me with an uncontrollable urge to (over) react, lash out and snap back. The desire to SHUT down those testing moments with anger, fear-based tactics, raised voices and force has showed up in arguments with my husband and family members. This might come as a surprise to you as I know many of you have emailed and commented that I am ‘so calm and gentle’ or that ‘I have my shit together’… But let me just say this; I am a beautifully flawed human. I am so in love with self-reflection and inner work BECAUSE I’m flawed. There is nothing perfect about this humble little human. Thank god for that – otherwise what growth and expansion is left to do? It’s not that I am a walking, raging ball of anger… quite the opposite, but I am being truthful that there are ugly moments when I am seriously tested. What I can say is this… I make a conscious effort to get up close and personal with my shadow. I want to know my flaws  – which I see as signposts guiding me towards a more wise, light-filled, conscious being. Without peering under and pulling apart too many layers I like to ‘understand’ where that little wound was first inflicted. And with this case – reacting in the heat of the moment – I know I’ve simply appropriated the unnecessary, narrow-minded, flash anger that runs through my family. Coming from a Middle-Eastern family, it shouldn’t be a surprise that ‘passion’ is threaded in my DNA. So, why am I sharing all of this with you? Since becoming a mama I now cannot look away from this any longer. I have spent years fine-tuning my ability to stay present, to respond instead of react and to manage my frustration and anger so I can move through challenges. So much so that my family calls me the ‘peace maker’. But life is about continual growth and up-leveling. We never find perfection, just a chance to refine the way we be, do, think. Motherhood has shown where the cracks live – haphazardly sealed with spiritual glue. Motherhood has tested my peaceful, calm and present attitude and asked me to up-level again. To refine… The frustration strikes when I’m trying to push a heavy pram, with an 11kg baby up a steep hill who is screaming, whinging, trying to climb out and throwing everything out of the pram at the same time. Or the sheer exhaustion muddled with a sense of futility when she flat out refuses to get into her car seat, after 20 minutes of negotiation. My only option left is to yell to get her attention. Or the exasperation and irritation in those moments when she’s desperately trying to communicate something and I’m just not getting it. She hits me. I feel anger. Meltdown of epic proportions. This is where compassion comes into play I know that the first step in healing my shadows is AWARENESS. To notice where my ego flares up. To pause and breathe. To take a moment to come back into presence. To breathe again. And to remember that the energy I put out will be reflected back to me. I choose to soften. And then I choose compassion. Instead of reacting from frustration and raising my voice. Or snapping, lashing out and breathing fire through my nostrils. I choose compassion. I choose to go gently, softly. Why? Why in those moments when I’m being pushed, and tested do I choose compassion. Why do I go the complete opposite route to what my human (ego) instincts push me to do? I choose compassion because it is in this moment that the very person that is pushing my buttons needs MORE love than they may seem to deserve. I choose compassion because I do not own or control this person. I choose compassion because anger and fear breeds more anger and fear. I choose compassion because I don’t have the right to bully anyone into submission, into ‘my way’. I choose compassion because I need love to hold me and guide me the right way. It’s in these moments that we must look beneath the […] Read more

Claire Obeid

Hello there, I’m Claire

What am I about? Oh-so-much. A soul-centered and heart-driven life. Inside-out wellness. Shadow work (from the darkness comes the light!) Truth-seeking. Leaning into the joy of life.

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