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The power of silence

The power of silence

Posted January 19, 2016

The power of silence. Have you heard the phrase “Silence is Golden”? It’s a beautiful idea, isn’t. Peaceful. Serene. Blissful. Embracing the quiet. It really conjures up a stunning image of serenity. Alone, on a beach somewhere, with no sound other than the gently crashing waves and the wind whipping through your hair and the sun setting it breathtaking fashion. But that phrase also has so much more power to it when we place that silence between two people. When we place silence at the core of any interaction or exchange between two people the result is often a profound shift, realization or revelation. Recently I attended the Rise Sister Rise event where my spiritual mentor – Belinda Davidson and her new partner in crime, Rebecca Campbell held the space for group of light-seeking, spiritually minded women (and one awesome man). The day included chanting, prayer, white light healings and some group work – the latter which served as powerful reminder to me that SILENCE can often be the best tool we have for transformation. We were pared up and simply told to ask a series of questions to our partner. Questions that dug deep into fears, soul voice, and desires. We were asked to not say anything, or even respond in any way, other than to hold the space for our new friend and to keep asking the same question over and over until the designated time was up. We were asked to buy into the power of silence. As a coach it is part of my work to ‘hold space’ in this way regularly. But it is definitely something I had to ‘learn’ to do. I’ve always been a great listener, but had to learn the art truly hearing someone, without needing to respond, share, guide, impart wisdom, or (worse) interject with your own anecdotes, stories and woes. At the Rise Sister Rise event I held space for my new friend. It was here that I noticed how often I had to fight the urge to ‘coach’ her. My ego chimed up, internally, more than once, with positive reinforcement, or words of wisdom, or my ‘opinion’. The feeling often burned within me to speak up to support her. But, ever the avid student, I heeded the instructions, shushed that inner desire and simply locked my eyes on hers. My heart connected to hers. My ears tuned into to her voice. And I let her speak. I let my breath be steady, slow, even (just as I do when I’m trying to calm down my bub). A And I cleared my mind of my own agenda and my ‘opinions’. What unfolded was beautiful. My new friend peeled off layer after layer. She came to some mind-blowing truths and did so all on her own. Her soul-voice got louder, bolder, clearer. It was given the centre stage and with that it fervently delivered a few golden realisations into the silence we had created. I try and do this, as often as possible, with my clients but this went a little deeper, and further because someone else had created the parameters. It was four full minutes of staying silent, listening, and hold space so our friend could lean into their soul and reveal their truths. I said nothing. I breathed. I looked into her eyes. I kept my energy clean and light. I said nothing. And … she said everything she needed too. And it was spectacular. The silence was golden. The power of silence revealed. ++ How does this insight into silence apply to you? Well there are two ways. 1) Ask a friend to sit with you in stillness, in contemplation. Explore deep, soul-voice questions together. And hold space for each other. 2)Do the same for yourself in silent meditation. love + light, Claire x Read more

Why I’m not going to reflect on 2015

Why I’m not going to reflect on 2015

Posted January 12, 2016

I haven’t felt compelled to review all that has unfolded in 2015. That’s because I can summarise it in one word. BABY. For the first two months of the year I was barefoot, blissed out and pregnant. Spending my days floating in the ocean, gazing in awe at the sun dazzling on the waves, communing with the little soul growing within, and generally feeling overwhelmed with gratitude. For life. For this precious, oh-so-sacred time and for my body and the miracle it was creating. Then, the birth happened. Then Soleil, in dramatic fashion, entered our world. And it was like a cataclysmic event occurred that literally turned the earth upside down and instantly shook us to the core. It’s been equal parts challenging, joyous, heartbreaking, backbreaking, love-soaked, laughter filled, mind-blowing, exhausting, confusing, guilt-ridden, messy, humbling, testing, and tearful. And truthfully, I could write 1000 adjectives to describe the experience but it would never and can never give you a clear enough snapshot into the life-altering experience that is motherhood/parenthood. But despite the fact that this has been the toughest yet most rewarding assignment of my life (to date) I don’t want to review it. Actually, I mean to say, I don’t NEED to review it. I don’t need to reflect too much, ponder for hours. Or C\come to any understanding, at all, really. You want to know why (of course you do!) right? It’s because of this one incredible lesson that Soleil, motherhood, pregnancy and birth have taught me (sometimes quite forcefully)… There is only one moment that matters. And within that moment you have the possibility of fully experiencing what is on offer – be it complete and utter despair, zombie-like exhaustion, overwhelming heart-explosive love, sheer indifference, emotional disconnection…. Whatever it is… it is THERE for that moment. In that one instant you can feel it, experience it, be IN IT. Fully, completely, honestly, vulnerably. You can gauge and learn from it, spontaneously, you can perhaps reflect on it later – take stock of the lesson you were just bitch-slapped with. Ultimately it’s in the experiencing of it – the living it – that truly counts. Once it’s done. It’s done. Try and grow from it. Try and make different choices if they didn’t work for you. Try and stay true to the journey by choosing ultimate surrender. But the moment has passed, let it go now. Don’t cling. Don’t over-think it. Don’t tear it to pieces and over analyse.  Soleil doesn’t dwell on anything. She falls, hits her head, cries. 30 seconds later as soon as the pain has gone, so has her attachment to the experience. Finished. That moment is done and therefore she is no longer in it. She’s in the next moment – perhaps playing joyful, cuddling, discovering. Just be here now. And now be here. And here. here, again. With a little baby at the centre of your universe there really isn’t much time to ponder and reflect (or brush your hair, drink a glass of water…) nor is there much need to. Because if you are truly honouring the moment as a baby forces you to do (and as I am trying to do!), then you are truly in the flow of life, and the past/future trip-out is irrelevant and meaningless. ++ Now here’s where I contradict myself. I love to journal. I also finding reflecting, pondering and analysing very easy to do. It comes naturally to me. So I’m not saying I NEVER DO THIS. In fact, I journal almost daily. I internally run a quick review, almost daily. But as of late, I’m no longer getting hung up in that space of trying to gain clarity on what’s been and gone, anymore. I am no longer caught in the web of ‘what ifs’ or the net of disappointments. Nor do I pull apart and analyse what I did that I can improve on. I water down the intensity of ‘trying’ to do more, be more, perfect and polish. Instead, I might gently review, or touch on a lesson, or sit with an insight. Jot down some heart-felt intentions, desires and dreams. And then I offer up a prayer – to the divine source, to the universal energy that we are all part of, to my own guides and angels, to all mothers from all time… I ask for love I ask for foresight I ask for patience I ask for support I ask for light And I offer up my weighty concerns, and my fears and disappointments and my insecurities in the hands of my higher self and ask HER to take over. I ask her to carry my intentions for the year, to choose my soulful goals, to take my lessons and learnings and the rights/wrongs from the year that was and place them into the well of my inner wisdom, so that I may honour those experiences. I place complete trust in HER wisdom and inner knowing…. with the understanding and agreement that she will take me down the path best for my own soul growth. Who knows if this way of doing this will sustain me in the future. Right now I have the perfect cocktail of mama-brain, 10 months sleep deprivation and a baby demanding my everything to ensure that any other way of starting the new year/planning/reviewing would just not be possible. But I do hope that if at some point I feel called to do this differently again that I remember the pleasure and the freedom in simply letting the moment be, and letting it be the ultimate ruler in my life. ++ I’m no expert on this mama-journey. But what I can do is choose to keep my heart and mind open to what it is teaching me. So far, this has been and I know will continue to be my biggest spiritual awakening ever. It’s not tingly, and other-worldy. There are rarely those ‘divinely touched’ moments. It’s usually got me covered in mango, all sorts of […] Read more

How do you NOT want to feel this year?

How do you NOT want to feel this year?

Posted January 04, 2016

How do you NOT want to feel this year? Happiest new year to you. I’ve been off the grid a little over the xmas/ny break… which wasn’t my intention. You know I had all these awesome things I want to share with you. Such as my mini yoga video on ‘How to beat the Christmas Bloat’ But as life would have it, the last two weeks have been my toughest yet. In fact, Christmas didn’t even happen for our little family. We were all struck down with gastro, fevers and lots of other exhausting things that little babies throw in the mix. Such is life! So here I am today, and we are five days into the new year. Usually I spend a few days to a couple of weeks working through my feelings – desires, intentions, reflections, ponderings – to align myself to the year ahead. I don’t have nearly as much time to delve into this annual exercise as I’d like to, but I do have one fail safe way to do this – to drill down into my soul and get the guidance I need. And I share this fail safe way in an archived video I did this time, two years ago. In this video I guide you through the super simple task of discovering your own core desired feelings – thanks to Danielle LaPorte + her Desire Map - from a slightly different perspective. The perspective from the SHADOW. From what might seem to be ‘the negative’ perspective. And that is to ask your soul: “What do I NOT want to feel this year”… Sometimes I struggle to really pinpoint my core desired feelings, but when I look at what I don’t want to feel (relive, experience, push through) then I often directly hit on how I DO want to feel. Want to learn how to do this? CLICK HERE to watch this ‘olden-but-golden” video blog from 2014. How do I not want to feel? Bitter. Frustrated. Like the victim. Over it. Dark. Instead I want to feel: Surrendered. Present. Appreciative. Grateful. In it. Light. Expansive. (I’m such a wordy person I could GO on forever…) Have a watch of it yourself and then get going on figuring out your feelings to guide and light the way for #Sweet2016! Feel free to hit send and tell me how you don’t (and DO) want to feel this year. ++ Oh and when I mention The Freedom Project in this video, although there isn’t a new round starting soon, it is always OPEN for business. Meaning – you can start at anytime. So check it out! ++ love + light, Claire xx Read more

Claire Obeid

Hello there, I’m Claire

What am I about? Oh-so-much. A soul-centered and heart-driven life. Inside-out wellness. Shadow work (from the darkness comes the light!) Truth-seeking. Leaning into the joy of life.

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