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Strategy of Surrender

Strategy of Surrender

Posted August 30, 2016

Strategy for surrender Since the day little Soleil was born, in fact, since she was just a bunch of little cells multiplying I’ve been hurtling down the rabbit-hole of surrender. Over and over, day-by-day I’ve been asked to let go – to surrender. Surrender who I think I am. Surrender to who she is. Surrender to the struggle. Surrender to the sleep deprivation. Surrender to the loss of control and structure. Surrender to the chaos. Surrender to the beauty, and joy and insane love. Surrender to the god-like connection motherhood creates for me. Surrender to the sides of me I don’t like or thought I had ‘healed’           Surrender to the mess Surrender to the present moment           Surrender to it all… And you know what? I’m not there yet. How do I know I’m not there yet? Well, because I find myself trying to ‘figure out’ if there is something wrong – am I doing it right? Is Soleil OK? Have I missed something? I find myself looking for solutions where there aren’t any. Or getting lost in those feelings of futility and exhaustion that weeks and weeks of sleep deprivation do to you. I find myself pining for ‘time’ and trying to think about how to get more of it. I find myself getting trapped in the idea that ‘if only things were XYZ then it’d all be better”. When I notice I’m in this heady, catastrophizing, weary mindset I know that surrender and I have forgotten to nurture our bond. But here’s the flipside to it all. I know I’m never supposed to be and never will be ‘there’ with surrender. Not fully, completely. Not 100%. Why? Because we, surrender and I,  have a deal. I’m supposed to experiment with it, lose faith in it, find it again, go deeper with it, start all over again. Becoming a mama is so much more for me than creating a life (which is a miracle) and experiencing that journey. It’s about my own soul-journey with surrender. And this realisation always brings about the question, WHY? again.. The deeper why is because I’m meant to dance with surrender so I can share it all with you. I’m here to help you become besties with surrender. It’s my thing. it’s my job. And everytime I mess it up, that’s another up-leveling, re-education and re-learning so I can scrub up on my surrender skills. That’s what we do as teachers and guides, we have to keep growing and learning in order to help you grow and learn. So here I am, once again, letting go of the idea that I have to ‘fix’ things with my little Sunbeam. She is healthy, bright, BOLD, happy, oh-so-spirited. There is nothing wrong. Nor do I need to fix anything with myself as a mother, woman, wife, friend, daughter – I do enough, I am enough, I love enough, I care enough. I simply must accept, embrace and let go of the expectations and need to control. It means offering up my plans and my ideas and trusting that as and when it’s supposed to unfold, it will. ++ Take a deep breath with me now, because in true Claire style I’m going to flip all of that on its head. There are always two sides to every coin and this journey of surrender is much the same. Within the realisation that I must surrender and embrace the journey of letting go, I’ve also come to realise that part of this version of surrender (in mamahood) I must also take ACTION and come up with a strategy. I don’t have to give up every dream or desire to surrender, I just have to work with it in a different way. One of the massive stumbling blocks I’ve been facing is time. When your toddler is waking countless times each night and then only wants to nap on you during the day, well there isn’t much time left over. Domestic duties, cooking, eating, showering – these are the basics I’ve been fitting in amongst it all. Trying to fit in joyful work, creative time, spiritual practice and connecting to loved ones has been a battle. Surrender often wins. However, I’ve come to see a massive truth that surrender has delivered to me lately. It has said this; Claire, you DO have time, if you allow others to support you in caring for Soleil. You choose for Soleil to be the centre of your universe and for you to be hers. It’s your choice to prioritise her over anything else. It’s always up to you how and where you create and find time. Truthfully, I’ve hid behind being Soleil’s mama and ‘surrendering’ to her needs and the ebb-and-flow of her evolving being. I desperately don’t want to miss anything as she grows, but many of my dreams and desires with work and in life are ALL about creating opportunity, security and happiness for HER. So how to find peace between the desire and spiritual NEED to surrender over to her and to motherhood with the need to build, create, grow, call in abundance and success? And surrender once again answered with; Hire more help. Lean on your in-laws. Hand over the reigns to your husband more. Let go. You cannot be the only one to care for her. So there it is. And so it is. Surrender has sent me a strategy. I now see that I can fully embrace surrender day-to-day with my little one when I create more space and time for me to take action where action needs to be taken! It’s time that I let surrender become my strategy for life in both the moments of PAUSE + ACCEPTANCE as well as those of ACTION + CREATION. I choose to trust that surrender will only ever deliver me into what is right and good for my soul. Love + light, Claire xx OM MAMA LOVE… Mamas, I’m letting you in early on a little something special. […] Read more

Life is infinitely better when you don’t go it alone

Life is infinitely better when you don’t go it alone

Posted August 02, 2016

You are part of the spiderweb of life. You don’t have to go it alone. “We’re connected, as women. It’s like a spiderweb. If one part of that web vibrates, if there’s trouble, we all know it, but most of the time we’re just too scared, or selfish, or insecure to help. But if we don’t help each other, who will?” ― Sarah Addison Allen, The Peach Keeper I’m still buzzing from what has just unfolded in my life. I’m still in awe of the spirit, the power and the sheer love I’ve witnessed from the women in my life. Just this weekend gone we hit the end of month in my side-hustle business (I’ve mentioned it a few times Here and Here!) End of month always brings a fervor of energy and adrenaline as many of us close in on our personal goals. It’s high-vibing sort of stuff as we hustle with heart and say YES to what we truly desire – for ourselves, our business, our team and for those we are serving. For two days I dove heart first into this energy. And the success achieved, the goals kicked, the results created within our team has blown my mind. I witnessed women totally OWN their dreams and go after them with tenacity and drive yet with so much authentic feminine flow woven through it all! We are talking reaching for the stars in a BIG way. So why am I telling you this? Every time one of these women reached for her own goals, focused on her destination and dug her heels in until she got there she was doing the same for someone else. She couldn’t NOT propel someone else forward without doing the same for her fellow girl-bosses. I was receiving texts from fellow team members to the tune of; “Claire, babe, we are getting you over the line this month. You are going to hit your goal this month. We are making this happen for you”… Why? Why would these incredible women who are already so busy with their own lives, children, businesses (and so on) go to such great lengths to help someone else? Because this is what we do, this is what is woven in women – into sisterhood. We link arms. We hold space for each other. We motivate and inspire. We propel each other forward. We fill in the gaps. We pick up the pieces. And when we are given the right framework and encouragement to do so, my god does it happen. I’ve come to now know that when you finally accept that your success in life will be better and further propelled when you are working with your leading ladies (or gents)(instead of against or blind to them, teaming up with them in some way, then you will see how beautifully, effortlessly your life unfolds. It’s like magic. Nothing short of a miracle. All done with grace and feminine power. AND love. And it goes one step further. This week (and every week for months it seems) has been exceptionally trying on the motherhood front. But my ladies, my fellow mama-bosses and sisters have stepped in. They’ve told me they are going to take the reigns and help me drive the ship of my ever-growing business and team so that I can breathe a little. How’s that for teamwork? Pretty freaking exceptional if you ask me. There is no trace of fear or selfishness or insecurity getting in the way of offering much needed help. Graciously and gratefully received. Thank you. ++ So, today I come to you not to talk shop. No… I simply come to you with this golden nugget; We are all connected. A web of energy. We can’t deny it – this interconnected-ness is WHO we are. Even if you don’t want to be, we are part of each other. It’s only right that we work together – be it in business, raising our children, helping our neighbours, supporting our friends in need, picking up the pieces. It’s the only way – we should collaborate, link arms and hustle through this life, together! We will get further, create more, achieve success, reach our dreams, cope better, enjoy life a bucket load more. Find your sisters. Find your tribe, your people. Connect. Offer YOU in some way. Lift each other up. Propel each other forward. Inspire and motivate others through your own unique skills (just be you, yeah). And remember this, LIFE in every element, will be infinitely better when you realise you don’t have to go if alone! Love and light, Claire x P.S Check out the below. Last chance to get The Freedom Project ecourse on sale before it closes down!! You can dive into The Freedom Project at a heavily reduced sale price of $99 – saving you $126. The Freedom Project is my 9 week eCourse designed to help you journey through the art of Surrender, Letting Go of Control and Ego Games to find the mental and emotional freedom you desire. This incredible course has served hundreds of women, but the time has come for this course to close down to make way for new and exciting offerings – all of which I am working away on right now! The Freedom Project won’t be lost forever, I know the golden nuggets of insight and information will find a way out into the world in a new way, but for now it’s time to put it to bed. Until early August The Freedom Project will remain OPEN + ready to take you on the most incredible journey. Check it out HERE before the chance to experience this incredible course is gone! Save Save Read more

Bringing Aphrodite Back. Feminine Power, Silence + Stillness.

Bringing Aphrodite Back. Feminine Power, Silence + Stillness.

Posted July 05, 2016

We are always guided and supported… and sometimes we are nudged to pay attention to one particular thing, even if it seems to have  absolutely no relevance to you, whatsover. Well, this recently happened to me. I was guided towards the Goddess, Aphrodite. I kept pulling her in oracle card readings. I would randomly open to a magazine article that mentioned her. Facebook posts would appear with reference to this Goddess. It all culminated one Friday night. I saw an offer from Marianne Williamson on her facebook page (that was about to expire in less than hour) that said with the purchase of her new book I could get free access to her Aphrodite training…The book didn’t resonate with me (yet) but the training did. BIG time. I didn’t hesitate. I paid and signed-up. I’ve been down this road before enough times to know how to get out of my own way and pay attention to the clear sign-posts from the divine. And it was less than 10 minutes into the first training video that the penny dropped… I understood that quickly why I needed this training. And I’m going to hazard a guess that so many of us women, collectively need a little more Aphrodite too. Aphrodite. Goddess of love, romance, sensuality, sexuality, birth, joy, energy, creativity. Divine Feminine energy… As I dove into this training this is the question(s) that presented itself; Where have we disowned her? Where have we replaced this divine, feeling based feminine energy with the action, the doing, the headiness of the masculine? And why? I’m going to be honest, I’m still in the midst of this training… and, well, still in ‘training’ with Aphrodite. So I’m definitely not sharing this with any expertise. However, what I am learning so far has struck such a deep, primal, almost ancient chord within me that I had to share it. ++ I’ve come to realise lately that the disowning of my inner Aphrodite began many years ago. Striving for success. Building my business. Conforming, to fit in. Aligning with feminist viewpoints (and taking it to the extreme) Focusing on the external world. Living an ‘action’ based life. Ignoring my intuition. Wanting to be seen as a capable woman. Hiding my emotions (so I don’t seem weak). Rejecting my moon cycle. Appropriating masculine ways (of talking, dressing, behaving, working…) Pregnancy, birth and so much of this motherhood journey reconnected me deeply with an inner softness, the energy of feminine magic and goddess nature. I even wrote this blog – Crossing Over From The Head to The Heart – on how I’m learning to live a more heart-based life since becoming a mama. However, there is so much catastrophizing, headi-ness, organising, structure, over-planning, action, doing (instead of being) that comes with motherhood too. And it has done a phenomenal job of muscling its way back in to sideline that beautiful Aphrodite energy. Today I’m in a push-pull game between surrendering into the softness, the love-bubble of motherhood and the divine feminine, with the masculine world of action. Trying to find my power in being ALL things to all people (a great mama, wife, business owner, coach, domestic goddess) sometimes leaves me depleted instead of empowered. Making sure I keep my shit together sometimes feels like I’m striving for a badge of honour. Yet I’ve never felt more delicate, vulnerable and called towards the internal world of stillness. Often I just want to be still. Go inward, retreat. Simultaneously I can feel so fired up, ready to make my dreams a reality, driven to action… The masculine and the feminine – two powerful energies playing all out together. And that’s ok, right? We all have the feminine and masculine energies within us. But truthfully, whether you are a male or a female in our world it’s so much easier to revert into the masculine way of action, strategy, solution, doing, planning, thinking. It is for me at least. ++ Reconnect with the power of your feminine silence; Harness your inner stillness. Since starting this training with Marianne Williamson, there has been one major take-away that keeps playing in my heart on repeat. And this is what I really want to share with you, because it’s really helping me to call Aphrodite in – to invite her to play a bigger role and to find her place within my life with more solidity. Let me explain this idea as simply as I can. Feminine energy is threaded with vulnerability.  That Vulnerability = power. In fact, it it is our power. However, it is a different kind of power from a different source. Underworld vibes. Goddess energy. Mystical almost. This power is magnetic. Internal. Intuitive. Deep. It has an immovable, unshakeable quality. A stillness. A presence. A rawness. This is the true essence of woman. Emotive. Wise. Loving. Nurturing.  As women we reflect, listen, invite in. Now this has really hit home for me – we also offer a place to rest to those that need softness, love, nourishment, tenderness, beauty, joy. A safe place to be vulnerable and raw too. We bring others into our magnetic stillness. We offer healing. The most incredible bit is that the feminine energy can do all that in total silence. Without words. Without a song and dance. There’s no need to ‘do’ anything. The Divine Feminine HOLDS space for your pain, your joy, your vulnerability, your hurt, your happiness, your struggle… The Aphrodite energy of love is powerful. It can move mountains, and create great change. And it can do it simply by harnessing stillness, through silence. By simply being and not doing. We have a voice, and yes we are woman, hear us roar. But maybe we should try whispering a little more, or even saying nothing at all… As I was absorbing this lesson from Marianne, my head was spinning. And my heart was screaming YES! Silence. Sweet surrender into stillness. Presence. The real art of listening. Cracking open in the darkness. I scribbled these words into my journal… “Just because I have a voice that doesn’t mean I always have to use it. It’s time to reconnect […] Read more

Claire Obeid

Hello there, I’m Claire

What am I about? Oh-so-much. A soul-centered and heart-driven life. Inside-out wellness. Shadow work (from the darkness comes the light!) Truth-seeking. Leaning into the joy of life.

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