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what would happen if you created more white space in your life?

what would happen if you created more white space in your life?

Posted July 06, 2017

Recently I shared a bit about me – how I do things, juggle life, biz and motherhood and other random insights from behind the scenes of my world. I also riffed on Instagram Stories about how important it is to consciously carve out time to turn off from the busyness of our lives when it’s obvious that it’s time to! You know those moments, don’t you? When you are exhausted and no amount of ‘pushing through’ is going to help. Or how about when you are trying to power through an all-nighter in the creative cave – despite the fact that your creative juice has long since dried up. Since that last newsletter and that Instagram Story (p.s come connect with me – @claireowellness – if you’d like more BTS, tips, insights and random shares from me!) I’ve been percolating on another layer to all of that… CREATING SPACE. With my husband travelling a lot right now – solo parenting, PHWOAR! – it’s called a lot into question. Where are the stressors? Are they urgent and important? What if they were handled differently. What if I created more space – despite a busy, always moving life, what is SPACIOUSNESS for me? Spaciousness in motion. Space. Doing less. Less on the to-do-list. What am I talking about? Well there has been a really strong feeling within me that the ‘amount’ that I am doing these days – motherhood, coaching, writing, workshops, building a new essential oil business, running a household, trying to be a present wife –  is actually working against a huge desire in me that has been building. That desire is all about sitting in and experiencing a deeper sense of PEACE. Uncomplicated. Clear. Present. Instead of being busy for the sake of it, what would it feel like to not be busy? Instead of filling the white space in my life (which is already limited) how would it feel to gaze upon a clear(er) diary? Instead of asking myself ‘what else could I do?’ what if I asked ‘what if I did less?’ The thing is – these questions are hitting me at the perfect time of year. We are mid-way 2017. A year that has unfolded with so many experiences I couldn’t have scripted – all perfect, beautiful and necessary but generally challenging. So asking these questions right now is forcing me to look at this year and my current season of life with compassion, softness and a little more realism that I perhaps was willing to admit before. Yet, these questions bring up some ugly, ego fears too. What will I throw away if I create more space? How will this affect me, finances, my business, my relationships (etc)? What will I actually do with more white space? Can I actually handle surrendering into spaciousness? +++ I’ve yet to CULL anything from my life just yet. But I have already stopped filling it up. As I write out my list of work/tasks for the week ahead (I do this between Friday – Sunday) I am not searching for or deliberately adding in anything without it being scrutinised.How important is this ‘task’? What if I didn’t DO this right now? What if I let this one file away in my mind for a little while. This is happening for small things like buying/reading a new book or listening to a new podcast. To the larger components like a new digital product. Already I feel a little clearer about what I am meant to focus on – what feels best for my soul to work on and do and what doesn’t. +++ Let me reflect this back to you; Can you take the above questions (and below) and ask yourself the same. What if you created more white space in your life? Where would that sit, how would it feel, what would happen? Does that feel good for you? What if you only gave energy to the things, tasks, people, experiences that lit you up? love + light, Claire xx Read more

my life behind the scenes … the juggle and ALL!

my life behind the scenes … the juggle and ALL!

Posted June 29, 2017

my life behind the scenes… the juggle and all. I saw an Instagram post the other day from a beautiful, fellow coach I love and admire. She was sharing how she works throughout the month – how she needs a lot of alone time, how she works around her moon cycle. And how she doesn’t have a desk, rocks clients and juicy writing sessions and starts work (and finishes ) late.P.s her name is Claire Baker. I highly recommend you connect with her – particularly her work on learning to “Adore Your Cycle” It was a lovely post because it gave us an insight into life behind the scenes. Let’s be honest, we all love a sneaky peek behind the curtains. It made me contemplate how different things are now, running a business arounda toddler. It’s something I always planned back in 2010 when I was dreaming up my coaching/online business. I knew one day I would be in this place. But this place is completely different to the business I was running 2.5 years ago. Today I don’t have the luxury of working around my cycle, or having dance breaks, or going into the creative cave for long (Gosh, I do miss all of that!) Because I have to squeeze in my coaching around my days with Soleil and my husband’s schedule. Juggle is an understatement. But on deeper reflection I can see that I do have my own ‘way’ of doing things… constantly adjusting and tweaking to the ever changing demands of motherhood. Yet there is still a sort of rhythm. It’s messy and it’s never set in concrete… but I want to share this with you. Perhaps it might give you some little nugget that will support you in your own ‘JUGGLE’.++ As much as possible I get up by 5:30am. This only began once Soleil started sleeping through at 21-ish months. I meditate – usually a chakra or mantra meditation. I then hit my yoga mat – which is always rolled out in the living room – for a Kundalini flow or a I do a 20 minute Barre Body Online Class. If there is time I will oil pull and tongue clean or neti-pot. This definitely doesn’t happen as often as I want to I always start my day with a cup of warm water, lemon, ACV and coconut oil– sometimes a drop of doTERRA Lemon Essential Oil too. Lately I’ve been experimenting with BulletProof Coffee and fasting till 12. It’s working so far. I try not to, but spend most of the morning flitting between rooms tidying, prepping for our morning outing, making breakfast, putting on/hanging out laundry, showering. I hate to admit it but sometimes I fall into the trap of ‘doing’ too much and not ‘being’… Motherhood especially has exasperated this. So my morning is often a battle between the two. Presence, definitely feels so much better. I look forward to nap time like a newborn baby wants the boob! Once Soleil is down I get to breathe for a moment. I start with lunch. Usually I cook and eat it whilst watching a little bit of netflix. 15 minutes max. Then I hit my desk. I look at my diary so I know exactly what I’m meant to tackle that day. And I tackle it. But then again, sometimes I don’t. Like when I’m exceptionally tired, run down, or just not feeling it and everything is saying STOP. NO MORE. DO LESS. I listen. Despite the limited time I have, if it’s not URGENT and NOT IMPORTANT, then, well I cut the guilt story and find another time to do it. I love by my google calendar. Everything is scheduled – from morning meditation, time with Soleil, coaching clients, yoga classes, workshops, appointments. I use this calendar when I sit down anytime between Friday and Sunday to write out my weekly list to dos – this includes self-care. What do I know I need in the coming week to support me? I then look at this list an jot down the tasks directly into my diary on the days I need to action them. Both sit on my desk. Always. Every Friday when Soleil goes to daycare it’s a big day of work, but a new non-negotiable for me is that I must do something special just for me. Sometimes it’s a facial, often it’s a long yoga class. This is also the day my cleaner comes. Hooray! She bangs around the house scrubbing and dusting. I LOVE the way the house feels after she’s finished. I am tidy, but hate scrubbing. I also don’t iron. Like, you’d have to pay me. I am often having to juggle/reschedule my calendar. Surrender. My husband is currently travelling… a lot. That is a whole seperate email. But it means really supporting him and being as flexible ( literally and mentally) as I can. Which I sometimes suck at. I’m the kind of person that really needs a lot of alone time… and having a toddler at me ALL DAY really drains me. (It also brings out my playful, inner child too!) So I really have to consciously carve out that alone time. That might be closing the door and hibernating on the weekend during nap time. Or going to an early yoga class and not saying a word to anyone. Or disconnecting from Social Media because it drains me and makes me feel ‘switched on’ all the time. Business wise, I’m really over the game of creating, launching, and pedalling. I just want to write. Connect. Share. Host beautiful workshops and circles. Right now I don’t feel very entrepreneurial. I have a desk, squeezed into our bedroom. With my office long gone when Soleil was born. I don’t love it, it’s not my ideal, but at least there is one contained space to store my business paraphernalia. Right now I’m drafting this whilst my little one is alternating between jumping on the couch beside me and giving me cuddles. And yes, the TV is on (which I feel guilty about, […] Read more

reprogram your mind + choose a different pathway

reprogram your mind + choose a different pathway

Posted June 29, 2017

reprogram your mind and choose a different pathway… Every physical ailment is a manifestation of stored emotions. My god, I believe this at my very core. I grew up witnessing my mother’s health deteriorate almost INSTANTLY when something happened that would emotionally rattle her. My father’s poor health (despite years of clean living!) is linked to a broken heart from childhood. I see it in myself… Years of Irritable Bowl Syndrome caused by years of anxiety and pent up stress. An ectopic heartbeat because I wasn’t ‘listening’ to the truth within me. A sore throat when my authentic voice isn’t given space. Now, my lovely, don’t go freaking out that everything you do or don’t do/say/think is going to make you sick. That is definitely NOT the take-away I want you to hold on to. However, the more you start to respect the connection between you mind-body-soul, the more capable you are of coming back into health, vitality, alignment, joy, flow when you are thrown off course. For me, this truth lights me up. It empowers me and makes me feel confident that I can work WITH my emotions, with my body, with my truth and every other TOOL that resonates with me to live in health and happiness. But wait up, what exactly are emotions? At the Emotions + Essential Oils training I did last weekend the teacher broke it down like this: Emotions = Chemical Responses in the brain and body that are short lived. Emotions are biological responses to chemical processes in our body. Mood = State of Mind of predominant, ever present emotion. And the origins of these emotions? Guess what – they are actually chemical, biological and spiritual. The food we eat, the environment we are in, the stuff we put on our bodies, the practices we do (or don’t do), the experiences we’ve had or are having, the memories and the thoughts all effect how we FEEL. These emotional responses are physical reactions triggered by chemicals in the brain! Think about it like this. I have a serotonin deficiency (figured this out years ago after years of digestive troubles). If I eat poorly, hide away from the sun for too long, skip meditation, don’t move my body regularly, or breathe in/put toxic chemicals on or in my body then I feel miserable. (Not to mention the cycles of the moon, our own cycle as women and the weather!) Sad. Flat. Emotional. In a funk. (Which is why I do my best to live a clean, high vibe, conscious life). There are a few other things that get thrown into the mix. Generational Patterning (depression may run in the family line), past traumas and childhood conditioning. Gosh when you put it all like that it can seem all too hard to ‘cope’ with life. But it’s not. Actually, it’s quite simple. If we want to live FULL, healthy, vital, beautiful lives then we simply have to commit to one thing….Reprograming your mind. Ha. Simple, right? The brain has neural pathways that are laid down from day dot. And the brain will always choose the most well-worn pathways. The roads are already laid out, why would you choose to go off the grid? Repeated negative emotional experiences from the past (even past lives, generational stories) mean that your brain interprets new experiences and dishes out the appropriate response emotionally (often fear, frustration, anger, sadness) via chemical and then physical responses. WOAH. So my beautiful friend, this means we must actually go off the grid using positive stimulus and triggers to lay down new pathways. We must TRAIN our brain to create and walk NEW pathways. New roads. NEW WAYS of doing things. New ways of seeing the world, situations, people, stories, experiences. Get this…When things are falling apart. When you can’t lose that weight. When you are struggling to stick to your work. When you are always doing exactly what you SAY you don’t want to – it’s actually not you, it’s your neural pathways. It’s your patterning. It’s the roadmap already created. Those neural pathways ARE NOT set in stone. They are plastic. They are changeable. Time to uncreate them and choose a different road. HOW? This is where the simple comes into play – Reach for positive stimulus. Turn to NEW ways of living, being, thinking. Reprogram by forcing your brain to do things differently. + Meditation + Journaling. + Coaching. + EFT. + Kinesiology. + Bodywork + Movement. + Essential Oils. + Nature time. + Conscious living. + Clean Eating. Sometimes you need the big guns like EFT, Coaching or Healing work or other tools to really shock those pathways into action. But over time as you constantly chip away and choose to do things differently you will find you think, behave and BE differently. +++The question to ask yourself is this; are you ready to diligently show up to change it up? Only you will know when you are ready to start reprogramming your mind and therefore your LIFE. love + light, Claire xx Read more

Claire Obeid

Hello there, I’m Claire

What am I about? Oh-so-much. A soul-centered and heart-driven life. Inside-out wellness. Shadow work (from the darkness comes the light!) Truth-seeking. Leaning into the joy of life.

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